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Below begins the year 2010:
Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-06-10

REMODELING REALITY

The television show that began as one of Oprah’s Dreams, Take a family out of their worn out home, put them up in a hotel for 2 weeks, while the magic was accomplished, lead them blind folded to open their eyes to their beautiful dream home, with larger than life family rooms, bedroom for each person with all their dream wants, and decorated to the hilt. That is the perfect dream and one I would love to be able to say, “Oh my God it is beautiful.” Okay that is the dream world of television.

Our remodeling her at Building # 3 began while our Manager, Linda was on vacation, GO FIGURES! Total time is to be 5 weeks. My week prior was spent with emptying out our lobby and storing everything, “they are starting on Monday.” Thanks for the warning if you call it that. I was checking empties to see where we could go with couches, tables, lamps, chairs, all decorations had to come down, storage, of course, couldn’t be in any apartment that was ready to be rented out. So, next best thing was finding any empty storage areas I could use. Had a handful of residents to help me lug and tug plus the help of our maintenance man. Finally after 2 crazy days, the lobby was emptied. Then the kitchen had to be made ready, hide everything possible in the cabinets, praying all the time that we would be allow to keep them so they wouldn’t have to be emptied.

All to quickly the first team of workers were here, happen to be the day Linda return from vacation. Oh my, what a welcome home to, no great home coming to remember for sure. The banging, scraping began, followed by the drilling, removing things from walls, closets, trash areas, 2 by 4’s stacked everywhere. About the time I thought we were making head way, in come the new mailboxes stacked. More hammering, electricity disconnected, doors not locking at nite. Oh this has to be a nightmare, what happen to the calm of Oprah’s Dream?

Our seniors have been relocated to a room for bible study, donuts are now being picked up on Wednesday and taken back to their home, card games relocated. Most have been great sports, just not sure what the next day would bring. Back to the computer, Jan for the news of next week update. The spackling on the drywall gets sanded on Tuesday and Wednesday and no one is allowed in the lobby for health reason. Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust if the noise doesn’t kill you the dusty air we breathe will. Forgot to tell them bus pick up has changed location. Hang in their seniors we will have a beautiful building once again and maybe before Christmas. Sure not going to have it for Thanksgiving. Count your blessings tho some how it could be worse. Remodeling takes time.

Does anyone know how to contact that television program and see if we could be moved out and put up for a day or two? So, Mom is still here, just don’t worry if my thoughts are delayed a week or two. Love ya all, Always, Mom

TIP OF THE WEEK:   Remember to laugh and the world laughs with you. Sure beats crying alone.

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-23-10

HELLO WORLD

Hey folks I am back, sorry two weeks flew by and this lady was going full speed ahead most of it. I in a weak moment agreed to work for 2 managers vacations in one month. Well Linda, our manager here went to Florida for 15 days, got a son married off, relaxed and returned to this world her at Bldg. #3. No one told her that they started to remodel and update our building on the day she returned. Hey I am not that dumb, anyways, one week was spent getting clearing the lobby, holding a Health Fair in between for our campus. All went like well-greased wheels and planning sure helped. This week we had a take out dinner and Holiday Bazaar without a lobby and both went fantastic. A lot of helpers and lots of shifting to vacant apartments, but again planning ahead works. I let Linda have the enormous task of setting up the new mailbox system, new keys, and no names on them. HaHa. She was ready to head out to Florida again though the travel miles about got the best of her.

If I haven’t made you tired listening to my job and boring you with it all then you all know I have been this way most of my adult life. I enjoy a challenge and man did I move to the right place. I enjoy my little seniors all but a few and I will willingly give them to some one for keeping. Most appreciate the fun and activities, can’t call us a nursing home for there is tooooo much going on for that. This week I have to fill in for Betty, Manager in Bldg. #2 who is on vacation. Plus it is the last trip out for my walking club to the parks for walking and dining out. I love fall but hate to see summer and our walks end. We will all walk the halls mostly thru the winter but days it is still nice you can see the lite green hats moving around the campus.

Our family cook out at Dianna and Don’s brought the family together for a great time except for 3 missing, hope they make it next time. Everyone got to hold Silas Orion Brown who was 3 weeks old. What a wonderful baby to be blessed with. Nana 5 times, got a picture of them and myself. Wow, what a hand full of blessings, 5 under 5. We had great news today also, my sister Alberta’s granddaughter came thru serious back surgery this week and is doing super good, and hopes to go home on Tuesday, God bless you Nichol, get well fast. To top the day off, Dianna and Don surprised me and came to Church at 11 o’clock service. They always came at 9:30 AM and I would do a double header so I could help Miss Lois with her Communion. So by them coming later I got treated to lunch to boot. Always does a Mom proud to have their children in church with them. Thanks kids!

Hope your corner of the world is going as well as mine. Always, MOM

TIP OF THE WEEK: Kind words are the music of the world!



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-09-10

FALL----ing

 

It is Fall in Indy for sure! The beautiful colored leaves are FALL-ing almost as quickly as they turn. This is because of our lack of rain this summer it has really affected the brilliant colors of Autumns past we remember. Don’t see any “peak” times anywhere at one time. I noticed the only things I have seen FALL-ing are the leaves---- I have been un-blessed with allergies this last week and half. Completely lost my voice last week-end. No talking on the phone, in person or even to my self. Resorted even to texting on my phone to those I could and I don’t like texting. I went to the drug store to purchase allergy meds---Wow, the cost of such has doubled or more. Darn shame manufacturers always gain when the demands are increase, the prices are not Fall-ing!

 

I have never seen so many folks with allergies like this year from spring to now. The dry weather, the blooming trees, and now I find I am highly allergic to cigarette smoke. Un real, I once, 18 years ago, was a pack a day smoker, before throat cancer with no allergies, now I can’t get breathing room near the smoke. Guess the body ages and stops protecting us from the bad stuff effects it has all our lives.

 

My allergies kept me from the Walking Club’s outing hayride last nite, I headed for the inside shelter and the fireplace when the sunset started FALL-ing in the west. Temperatures cooled down really quickly. We had around 50 or 60 seniors enjoying walking among the shaded beauty of the trees, subway boxed dinners, Smores (marshmallows, graham crackers and Hershey Bars) fixed over the fireplace, and group singing songs of our youth. Some folks got pushed up into the wagons of hay, and almost needed to be rolled out later before they fell out. HAHA. They all agreed it was worth the squeaking tired bones on the bodies. The fun brought back memories of their youth, boy and girl scouts, and teen’s years. Hope they all made it out of bed today.

 

I love the Fall season, gorgeous time of the year. Hope you all are enjoying some of it too. Don’t forget the apples and pumpkins patch to tour this time of the year. I am taking off the next 3 days and hoping to get my allergies under control. Don’t want to miss too much fun! Take care y’all.   Always, Mom 

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting.

MTFTW of 10-02-10

Season of Fall

 

Here we are into Fall, all too quickly summer has left us, and the coolness of fall is in the air. I will always think of my memories and fun of autumn with the colors, trees of red, orange leaves make many a beautiful picture. My memories also see the beauty of fun shared with loved ones. I think often of my time in Harrisville Michigan with the love of the white birches mixed with the colors on the hilly ride in the countryside. Fall always brought to mind fishing with my niece Linda and the time together, who would have ever believed prime and proper Jan would get her hands messy with fish. Dad would have died laughing at the sight.

 

Of course, with the changing of the trees came the Coho Salmon downstream to Harrisville Harbor to spawn and lay their eggs. I can visualize the fishermen and their yell "FISH ON." It was always a highlight because it provided us fish to can in the jars. My Sis Geraldine and I were doing pressure canning, so Alberta, our oldest sibling helped us with guidance, for her and Mother had done it for years.

 

So, back to the fish, I had always been afraid of a pressure cooker, for I knew one had blown up with Mother when she was younger and burnt her badly. Well, anyway Geraldine being afraid of nothing......and would make a nervous wreck out of me, taking the lid off before the pressure was all out of it, lifting the hot jars out and moving them around. My nerves stayed on edge & I even told Geraldine she was doing it to tease me, she would just give me a sheepish grin and sort of chuckle. However, when the Salmon cooled down we were proud of each & every jar, the taste is excellent and the store cans of salmon can't compare. Even all the work made it worth it in the end.

 

My sister Geraldine had one of the fullest lives, so much so that only in a book could the laughter & the stories be told. I think of her so often and truly miss her and Vern in our family. In my latest talks with Alberta on the phone she says she is now helping daughter Pat & hubby Jessy can the salmon. The traditions continue as we add memories to our “fishing stories.” Jessy and Pat new home in Michigan has brought lots of canning from their garden this year. Plus sharing with neighbors, seniors, strangers, and the Lord still fills the garden. That is being truly blessed. Bet the sight of all those filled jars for this winter would be great in our pantry with varied foods. My canning days are past, but my memories remain stored to relive again and again.

 

Take some time to get out and see God’s painted works unfold in the beauty countryside. I love fall and all you folks who reminisce with me every week. God bless, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge.

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 9-25-10

 

CAR-FREE OR CAREFREE

 

Well it is a “done deal”! My son Rusty has picked up his car this week. Rusty did the honorable thing when my car wheel ended up with costly repairs completely out of his Mom’s budget range; he paid for the repairs for me. Rusty had the car up for sale and as of time to go to Michigan he had not received a good deal on selling it. Neither him nor I was giving it away; there was no rush on it. It was and is a good car and cared for.    So, he left the car with me for a few weeks, and then said “well are you still going to sell it”? The convenience of having one there in case I needed it was cool, the having it for doctor appointments was good, but when I took the car for a slow leaking tire repair (Nail in it). Word was unfixable and we can put one on for you for $100. Well needless to say, I said I would keep watching it for low on air. So being he is a wheeler-dealer like his Dad was, that deal of a down payment sounded good to me and he could fix the tire. So as he drove off I once again became a pedestrian but carefree and car-free.

 

While typing that car-free it made me think of the carefree, you all know how my mind goes and gets me to thinking. One word can do that, I once lived on Carefree Drive, but the carefree reminds me of being free from worries of a car-owner. You know insurance, license plates, juggling with the up up prices of gas at the station and not knowing what sky high price they might go to, but the top one is the unexpected expenses of car repair. It was something I didn’t experience while Dad was alive; he could and did repairs on our vehicles as second nature. Most men start doing car repairs when they get a drivers license and first car. So consider it a worry, I think not. But I have and do!

 

That was memories of my married life, but become a widow/divorced and or single and your outlook is so very different. I have been fortunate over the years to have great brother in laws, brother, and kids to help me out in emergencies. The whole single life is a different ballgame, so, Ladies, take care of that man that makes your life easier with financial decision and backs up you daily support system. They may sit in the chair and hog the remote in hand BUT they are there and it is no fun when they aren’t.  

 

So, Thanks Rusty, I am car-free but also carefree. I have 2 wonderful bus drivers and friends to be my wheels to go. Thanks for listening again.  Love to all for the week, Always, Mom

 

Tip for the week: The values we leave our children are more important than the valuables we leave them.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 9-18-10

 

UNBROKEN FRIENDSHIP

 

This week was full of some sad times and some good times. Lois and I received news of the passing of Greta Kappus a dear close friend, and neighbor. Lois has known Greta around 20 years and I only since moving here to Crestwood 10 years ago. The last year for Greta had been spent in mostly hospice care for Greta with severe dementia. However, Greta was a beautiful loving caring Christian who whole life was spent serving the Lord, family and friends. She said her daily need was to be more like Jesus each day. She always had a cheerful attitude and a big smile for all she met daily or only once. She would jokingly find things to say to bring a smile to all.I know she gave positive effects over the years to many she met. The family gave her a beautiful tribute celebration of life at her service, making all feel the presence of Greta as stories were told sharing her giving ways, her love for the bible and her Jesus. I know I don’t need to wonder one minute where my good friend is, at the foot of Jesus where she longed to be.

 

My tears and Lois’s fell at our loss, but not for Greta, she has the promise of no tears, no pain, only gathering of her loved ones together again. Lois simply said coming home, the passing of ones life is like taking a container of water, putting your hand into it, it fills space at that time, but when pulled from the water, the water remains calm and the same undisturbed. In a split second we pass from this life onto another world. Hopefully we have prepared for that one second and God beyond. I think of it as a gentle breeze leaving one place for another. What a beautiful moment to know we are loved in heaven surrounded with peace. It makes it so much easier as we prepare for these senior years where the hourglass of sand is getting lesser all the time. I guess as we age we become more religious as some say, probably very true to be faced with the end of one’s life. Reality is a hard one to deal with but so necessary in forced times of life.

 

The blessing of having shared times, good times with friends, laughing at silly things shared, reliving the happy times with family and even some of the sad times is very dear to me. I have had a wonderful family, missing so much my sister Geraldine, my brother, Vern, Mother, and so many others who have passed. But I know these are friendships of love that are unbroken ties, only separated by time, God’s time. As Lois and I remembered the song, “If you go first and I remain, walk slowly along that path…” we both chuckled for Greta never walked slow in her life, always wanting to see who and what was ahead. Missing you already Greta!  Sending my love to all reading this, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: From Greta’s memorial memento cross: “If you have Jesus in your heart….Please notify your face.”


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 9-11-10

 

RAIN IN INDY

 

Bet you some of you are saying, so that’s nothing to write about. Poor Carolyn and Dick in Memphis who have had rain alllllllll summer would have shared with us. Same for Sally and Jim in Mobile, though she said they finally had some sunshine. Weather seems to be something we can do nothing about. We can grumble and complain but it won’t change the outcome. It is always something to talk about when there is nothing else to talk about, mainly with strangers.

 

Indianapolis has had hardly a trace of rain for every. The south side has had none the whole month of August and into September. The grass is brown, the dirt is dust, and the air is full of mold and germs causing all our allergies to be miserable. BUT this morning I opened the blinds and lo and behold it was actually raining and there were puddles on the street. I bet from the radar on the television Dianna and Don even got some in Bargersville, which they haven’t had rain since July. They water and water every night to keep their yard and flowers looking good. I remember those days, finally went to artificial and they only get dusty when no rain. HAHA.

 

The allergies sent Pam to the hospital all week for her asthma, had an infection in her lungs, requiring breathing treatments, oxygen, and lots of rest and sleep. Glad she is home and has done the preventive measures, Carpet cleaned while gone, apartment checked out for mold, new pillows, checked the garbage disposal for unseen mold, and hopefully replaced by the landlord. Stay well Pam, we love you and they will be happy to see you at work on Monday. Layla and Roxy will be happy to see Grama Pam well too.

 

While it rains a slow rain today, weather channel says only a half-inch; I am hoping they are wrong; I will enjoy watching it fall. I had forgotten how relaxing it was it had been so long since we had rain. I am crocheting on my 5th great grandbaby afghan, Silas due October 4th last I heard. The theme Tori selected was Superman. Thanks to Googles search, I was able to pull up one of the old comic books with Superman’s costume. Do you all remember better than me, the suit was blue, the boots were red, the chest had a big S on yellow diamond, red cape flowing as he magically flew thru the air with the greatest of ease. Yep, Nana has regressed to the past. What a wonderful thing on a rainy day. All have a great week. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Any one singing rain rain go away in Indy is no friend of mine. Let it pour!!!!

MTFTW of 9-4-10           Recycled  8-30-2003  Not re-printed here

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 8-21-10 

 

THE LIFE OF A PEDESTRIAN

 

Yesterday I found myself  “A pedestrian” trying to cross Stop 11 Road  (4- lane) to go to the library. Bus dropped me off a Marsh Grocery and I proceeded to walk across the street. Well the traffic was so heavy, I stood with another lady, waiting for a clearing, looked one way and then the other, when one way cleared, I looked the other way and there would be heavy traffic coming. I stood about 5 minutes wondering if I’d ever get a break to cross the street. When it would clear finally after 5 more minutes, two cars pulled in the turn lane and blocked the path to cross. As the cars zoomed by fast with no one aware of my dilemma, I wondered when I would ever get across. Thought to my self was I one of those pre occupied drivers when I was driving my car? Maybe but Nah, cause I have been with my children and they too let pedestrians have the right of way even in the middle of the road. Cars have the ability to go fast and get you there fast, so most drive just like that, fast going not watching for others! (No Sally, there was no stop lights near by)  

 

Yes, I made it finally across the street almost running so I would get out of the way of cars and not get hit! The same thing happen when I returned to get to where the bus left me off. (Library is only on the schedule one day a week, It is on Wednesday and I had a book I couldn’t renew on the computer at home). I was glad to get home and out on my balcony with a cool glass of iced tea. As I tried to unwind myself, I saw a butterfly, a beautiful yellow one, gliding gracefully thru the air, slowly going from one area to another. Just his motion was relaxing me, so tranquil and peaceful to watch. I thought God has placed us all here on this earth to enjoy our everyday life. I am sure God never intended for our world to become so crazy as my trip to the library, made me feel like I was fighting the “world of the cars.” What happen to courtesy to others? Pedestrians’ rights? Is it too much to expect in this day and age? No, for on the Church bus today on the way to church our driver and 4 cars coming our way stopped to allow a family, father, mother, and 4 children with bikes cross in front of us to get to the other side safely. Courtesy is still alive; we just have to slow ourselves down to see it.

 

God wants us to be relaxed, joyful and not worrying all the time, I believe he doesn’t like us to be frantic, rushed, and hateful to others in our path. Try a little patience in this world. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:  If you lack the courage to start, you have already finished.

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 8-14-10

SUMMERTIME 2010

Good Lord, if you know of a cool temp place let me know. This 90s is making us all so irritable and tired. I am trying to be better person for I sure don’t want to spend my eternity in that heat below, bet there is good a/c in heaven, perfect 72 degrees all the time. This 115-degree heat index is nation wide with many deaths due to it. Can we change it? NO, just use your head, drink lots of water, and don’t work outside getting tanned.

This month is only half over and it already has been tooooo busy with activities here at Crestwood even with all the heat. We had a Summer Fun Social; theme was going to the beach, summer cookouts, and great band for entertaining with the Beach Boys atmosphere. Heat didn’t slow the seniors down with attendance here; bus picks them up and delivers them. All in the same week, yesterday was the Old Fashion Days and Farmers Market, temps were 92 degrees, with horse and buggy for rides, dog show, old time cars (thanks to Dianna and Don plus friends), Ham and Beans lunch, vegetable and fruit stand. Most of the seniors struggled thru those days of heat with NO air in the past years of their lives. So attendance was great.

I afterwards attended the first birthday of Roxy my third great granddaughters birthday party. Was to be in the park but Tori and Ryan blessed us with the a/c of their home. About 15 little wee ones crawling, walking and parents and grandparents chasing was so much better in the cool inside. Only occasionally I got it first fights over toys. I enjoyed my time resting in the rocker with 4 months old Spencer, while his sister, Audrey explored Roxy play area. I just love being Nana to all these blessings. Our sweet Layla Belle Brown, 4 ½, came home a winner from the Indiana Children’s Pageant this month. She won the admiration of all with her Sock Hop theme modeling. Tori selected this pageant because it was “All Natural” and didn’t want Layla in that fast pace children’s competitions. Smart Lady!

With the end of summer near, we have the thoughts of returning to school for the kids. I remember day after Labor Day was back to school. Well now, some schools have the first days starting mid August, smack dab in the middle of hot DOG DAYS. Some schools have not up dated to a/c in the schools and window fans is not getting it. Kids are hot and sweating. I protest as a past Mother, Grandma, and now a Nana. I think the schools should have HEAT DAYS the same as SNOW DAYS. I grumble and they continue to NOT ask me for my opinion on things. May have to consider a picket line, see it now signs in hand and me and my seniors marching.

Okay! Hot is Hot but this weather needs to change and go back to normal. Weatherman says 80s cool down coming. I am soooooooo ready. Take care everyone, drink that H2O, and stay in the a/c. Love always, MOM

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 8-07-10

 

TEAM WORK

 

 I have been brought to the awareness and food for thought this week as I have watched the construction going on here on Crestwood South Campus. I had a ringside seat watching the roofers from my 2nd floor apartment work on another section of roofing. One man with orange vest on stood most of the time watching the other, tear up, shovel to a wheel barrel dust and roofing, Lots of hard work, upon inquiring I found out the one man was very busy doing his job, watching that none of the workers got too close to the edge of the roof, so he would be responsible to warn them. Again a misconception on my part what you assume is not always the true fact. The roofers completed their work with professional skill all working together as a team.

 

This week our building had its turn on having old concrete removed of cracked sidewalks around 3 sides of the building. Our 90 degrees temperatures have not helped any of the work going on daily. I had the job of removing the parked vehicles one side at a time, call or knocking on doors to remove resident’s cars from the parking areas. Thank goodness I have kept up to date mostly on licenses plates and makes of cars with the exception of some of the new move ins. The concrete man would put out orange cones the nite before the area was to be worked. Jan into action get those cars out of there. The residents have been super cooperating, hey; they had practice over the years with snow removal and black top street paving. It really makes the job so much easy for all with teamwork.

 

I watched the concrete crew, here at 7 AM about 10 of them, from crane operator, back hoes driver, one would board up area to be concreted, next would be the one to control the distributing the new concrete as it was poured, one filled, one smoothed and finally one would do the finishing touches. AWESOME to watch. I told them they are working robots with teamwork of precision and quality workmanship. Skills I am sure have taken dedication and practice to make so perfect.

 

We all are in a world that requires a lot of times we are needed to work as team members to see our world run smoother. Friendships, relationships, and family are a few that each person needs to do their part to have positive loving communication going on with those around us. Are you a team member or one of the complainers that do little work of helping others around you, BUT lots of fault finding? Hope we all can give it some thoughts and fit in more with the world around us. Love ya, Always, Mom

 

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: A big wheel never works alone, it takes the small other parts supporting it to make it work.

Mom's Thoughts for the week of 7-31-10

 

 MYSTERY WEEK

 

 When I send the Moms Thoughts for the week to my friends and family on the internet, about 50, I also print out 9 more, 3 I hand deliver and 6 I mail out by stamp snail mail. Last Sunday I got my envelopes addressed, placed the 6 MTS in there, I added some things to Alberta. When I called Alberta I told her to watch the mail on Tuesday. We talk every nite for probably an hour, after 7 PM per Rusty’s orders, due to it is free on my cell phone.  Always hard to tell the topics we get into or discuss. Well this week was a little different. My nephew Steve in Colorado sent via the Internet some pictures of the past. I printed them out and felt I should warn Sis that there was some of Mother in the envelope, if you have pics pop up of some one you have lost it can be a shock, when she opened it to see her face. My intent was suppose to be good!

 

So, when we talked Tuesday nite she said “Yes, I got it but there was NO Pictures in it. She looked in the envelope, she turned it upside down, shook it and looked again, NO Pictures. Of course my reply was “No WAY!” I was so sure I put them in the envelope with her name on it.  OR DID I? Yes, I did! Another one of those Senior Moments! I was ready to call all 6 and we decided it would be interesting to see who we heard from. I asked Lois to check with her sister, Donabelle in Oregon, which she did, Nope, No Pictures in her envelope.       Dona belle and Lois had a big laugh out of it, an envelope of strangers she didn’t know. Okay 2 down and 4 to go! I called a dear friend and once neighbor here in Crestwood and she said let me find the envelope, Rosalene said nope it is empty and she wouldn’t know any of the pics of my great grandkids but Layla. 3 down and 3 to go!

 

Each time Alberta and I talked this week we’d get off on some memories, we remembered when Grama Esther slept in Mother’s old room, she looked at all the framed family pics and got stuck on one, she told Sis I don’t recognize one framed collage of the family, has Shelton held out on more of the family. Nope, it was a broughten frame Alberta never got filled with family, they were all actors placed there by the manufactures. Poor Daddy got blamed first. We also laughed at a memory of Dick Boda, Uncle Bob’s brother, who brought out a new frame picture collage and said Carolyn has her family all over the walls of this home and I cant even get pics put in this frame of my family. Poor guy, fun again! So, silly memories both brought fun and laughter to us to share again & again.

 

Ok the mystery is down to 3 remaining, as of this date I have not heard from either one. Mary Lee, one of my ex jail angel, I still send MTS to. She might recognize Layla also but the rest would all be mystery of why she got them.   2nd would be my sweetheart Sister in law, who currently is preparing to return to teach high school Math, Roxana doesn’t get her mail everyday, and her envelope and maybe pics could be in a pile of things she needs to do. XOXOX. Lastly would be my cousin Marcey who lives in Georgia. I told Alberta lets not call her, for she would just tell us they were in my envelope and I am keeping them, do reprints for Alberta. If Marcy saw family pics of Mother she would want them and the pic of Steve’s Mother Marlyn. I love you Marcey!

 

So I ask you all out there, have you ever sent a letter that was not received nor was it returned undeliverable. Bet the post office has a big trash can in the sky for all those mailings.  Have you ever put a check in the wrong envelope to find out they deposited any way? Life is full of mysteries, so who ever got the pics Enjoy! You don’t have to return them or even own up to receiving them. I have reprinted for Alberta what I can remember being in that stack and have even included one of her Great Grandson from Arizona, Ramsey.  All these babies we have been blessed with in the last couple years keep changing and we quickly get updated ones via the Internet. Babies Babies we love them. They add so many smiles to our days. Pam (2nd) shares a birthday with Roxy her granddaughter in August, one year old on the 12th.  Always, Mom  

 

TIP OF TH WEEK: Imagine what you think you create, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you become



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 7-24-10

 

FINAL ACCEPTANCE 

 

I made a decision over a month ago---one I weighed & prayed hard on after a scary ride on Indy’s 465. I drove only 50 MPH due to the noise I had heard for a while got louder in my wheel. Upon the mechanics inspection it was found to be a broken bolt and other repairs, which ran into hundreds to fix. Rusty (my son) came to my rescue with $ and even calmed me down after I realized the danger of it all. Over the time of the repairs being done I decided it was time to make a decision. Living here at Crestwood I have seen many senior residents make that decision ”giving up their cars.” Some came to it on their own & gave it to family, some sold to strangers, and the rest complained, kicking & screaming in their 80s or 90s when the family forced them to give it up before they could killed some one. I don’t want to be in the last ones.

 

As with most decisions—we come to a crossroad and usually because of situation changes in our lives, God makes us aware of times to ponder, exam and know what is best for us. Well, at least that has been the case with me. He directs my path & doesn’t hesitate to let me know when I am following the wrong path. I keep getting that gut feeling something is not right! Hard to explain to some but he gets my attention. My body flora ain’t flowing right!

 

I had some negatives to deal with as I signed the title of my car and gave it to Rusty to sell. It felt like I was about to lose a friend, representing losing my independence to come & go as I wished. My decision has been made on changes in my life, I don’t drive at night, I don’t like to drive the interstates, I respond slower to the young folks quick action changing lanes, my car is 10 years old, low mileage, but like me, ready for replacements is coming up, along with expenses. Traffic around Greenwood is terrible, congested. Sis and I talked about it when I was in Michigan, we don’t see any future trips for us, she will keep her car due to traffic up there is different than here, they are low traffic except in the summer holidays and she takes the back country roads.

 

So with the negatives studied I turned them to positives, I live at Crestwood that has a bus to take residents everywhere banks, stores, 6 days a week free, no gas to pump. Takes a little longer, but I have time in my life to relax and leave the driving to June and Mike. Another positive my children have allowed the decision to be my own and have shown support to handling doctor appointments and family get-togethers. I feel my decision is a good one, and along with it comes FINAL ACEPTANCE. I could pout, feel sorry for me, fight changes due to getting older, but look who I hang out with 24/7, I don’t want to be miserable to live with, so I choose ACCEPTANCE. Looking forward to spending time at the Mall watching people, walking, and hitting some of the sales. Hope you can relate and accept too.  Always, Mom

 

 TIP OF THE WEEK: God is not my Co-pilot; he is the Head Pilot and always takes me where I need to go. I need to listen and just relax.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of July 17, 2010

 

CURRENT UPDATES

 

Howdy everyone! Quick update to let you know I made it home safe and sound from Michigan vacation. As always it ended to quick. too short to have the time Alberta (Aunt Judy) and I needed to just be together. Harrisville Michigan still has the wonderful air of being on Lake Huron with fantastic sunrises out of Big Nanny’s window. Brought back lots of memories of my Mother while I slept in her old bedroom. The town was in the process of construction to put in a new water supply but believe me it didn’t slow the visiting tourist from the harbor, beaches, or the grocery stores. I love the country up there, but with the unusual high temperatures and no air conditioning, I longed for my wee apartment in Indy.

 

Rusty took me up on the trip, safe and sound, stayed a few days, and returned to Indy himself. Pam and Layla Belle came up at nite time on the 8 hour trip, so Layla would sleep, as would have it, Layla only slept a couple of hours of the trip. LOL. After a week of fun for Layla, all 4 years old love the 4th of July parade and riding her decorated bike with hundred other kids, beach playing in the sand, which was in the car coming back, fishing, deer watching and playing with cousins, I came back with Pam and Layla. Safe and almost soundly, side mirror came loose from casing and hit the car window and broke, I am sure 21 years of bad luck for us 3. Had to use my brake a few times, you know the one old lady have imaginary on the passenger side. Sure Pam thought she had two kids in the car and not just one. Layla was a great traveler, even took 2 naps. Ahhh, the quiet!

 

I had 2 days to rest and the last week I have been filling in for my manager, who has been sick with a blood infection. The days are full and nite time I found my self too tired to do much on the computer. So I am back and happy to be, the a/c is wonderful as the high temps continue outside. Hoping to get back in the swing of writing again in August each week. Getting ready for the annual Luau under the tent for Crestwood. Aloha all! Till next time, Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK

A good deed is never lost: he who sow’s courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 05-31-10

 

ONE FULL MONTH

 

Here it is the first day of June and I sat and ponder where did the month of May go? As always the month of May in Indy starts late spring off with the busy-ness of the 500 Mile Race. They had an enormous crowd of spectators attend this year. I was not and have never been one of the attendees. Dad always attended though he didn’t always see the race. Two years he was missing in action for 3 days and then returned to not even know who won the race. My life with him was quite eventful, he was a man who enjoyed life to the fullest and made it eventful for all around. I can smile now as I remember though at the time I was one mad scratch hen. LOL.

 

I am recovering from my hospital stay with pneumonia. It is a slow process and not one I recommend for anyone. My 6-week check up went well and my doctor said to get plenty of exercise and eat 3 meals a day and my strength and weight will come back. Don’t know if I want all the 25 pounds I lost back, but sure would like to get rid of the baggy pants look. I am delaying buying new clothes that would fit. Speaking of clothes I was able to model at the Red Hat Fashion Show this month. I modeled 2 eveningwear outfits, sparkling jackets, and stylish flowing pants. One had tights underneath to give that new tummy tuck for women, took me for ever to get into them, of course with weight loss I didn’t need tucked.

 

With Mother’s Day and Memorial Day came visiting with the family. The new wee generation of Great Grandchildren makes my world so much fun watching them grow. Layla at 4 is quite the model herself and poses, though she is tom-boyish enough to have played soccer. Audrey at 2 is a beauty who is at the fun laughing stage, Roxy at 10 months is learning the unsure stage of walking, and Spencer at 2 months is a lovable wiggle baby. Tori is expecting Silas Orion in Oct. so my world will be larger still. They are what keeps me smiling.

 

My Mom’s Thoughts seem to get later all the time and less in numbers. I think back to the days I wrote them for the girls in jails or prison as encouragement. My purpose was clear then, I have slacked off and seem to be busier with my seniors here at Crestwood. I pray God will continue to show me where I am needed to serve and love him and others. To everyone out there in my MT’s mailing list, thanks for staying with me on my journey of life. I love you all. Always, Mom

  

TIP OF THE WEEK: The best vitamin for making friends…B1

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 5-15-10

 

DUMB MOVES

 

Friday, after working in building #1 walking home, I noticed the weed whackers that trim the grass had gotten to close to a purple Japanese Iris. It was laying cut on the grass so, being I love spring and all the pretty fresh flowers in bloom I picked it up as to not waste it. (Reminded me of the big flower beds I had in Harrisville Michigan on Pine Street) So I headed home found a bud vase and put some water in it, so excited about my gift to me. Well it took only about a minute and I realized in the Iris was ANTS. Well another “dumb move” of my life! I took the Iris to the sink and tapped it on the sink edge----Boom, 1 thousand ants came out going everywhere. Yeah, really dumb Jan! I glanced around and there they were another dozen crawling on my kitchen table. You know I recall years ago when I couldn’t resist picking a beautiful pink Peony out of the flowerbed outside of Building #6. When I put it in the vase with water, out came BIG Black ANTS coming from the flower. Oh boy, I should have remembered that from the first time I had to rid my apartment of ANTS. The ones this time were tiny and I like to never have got them all. Pray tell why are some lessons so hard to learn in life?

 

I’ve made some “dumb moves” in my life like turning down a street to only find out it’s a one way and I’ve driven the wrong way! Scary, I guess so! I was lucky not much traffic when I saw the sign and the cars coming at me. Another time comes to mind when I think of cleaning under the bath mat in the tub and not making sure it was pressed down to form the suction. Yep, I made some fast moves not to fall when I slipped. Quick Recovery---nothing broken with that “dumb move.”

 

I have noticed, as I have gotten older I am saying those words more often, “Dumb move” than I use to. Not sure what I need for the old brain to keep Alzheimer from starting in or maybe it already has. Dr. Oz on TV is always giving tips on how to stay healthy and live a better life. His recent article in the AARP magazine suggested Turmeric (Curry) sprinkled on your food breaks up protein in Alzheimer patients. Cinnamon sprinkled on food also builds your brain and lowers blood sugar. Also reading books or working crossword puzzles daily also sharpens the brain. Man, I am needing all the help I can get.

 

My recent visit to the hospital really taught me a big lesson. When I was in the chair feeling worse and worse, fever raising and thinking I’ll get in the bed and feel better in the morning, I should have thought then “dumb move”! Call the kids and tell them you are sick and need help. Hindsight is no good now. I am still trying to get he energy back and getting my tailbone to heal from my fall. Seniors need to learn some sense when they live alone. Well again, I learn the hard way. I hope I limit my future “dumb moves.” How about you, ever had some? Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: One thing you can’t recycle is wasted time.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 5-08-10

 

THE LOVE OF A MOTHER

 

 The love of a Mother is only second to the love of God, he loves us all unconditionally and gentle noggins us daily to become better folks. A mother is one that loves her children and would risk her life to save one of her own. In a recent tornado in the south the news told of a family living in a mobile home where the mother did lose her life but saved her children. She protected them in a way that she knew would cost her own life. She placed 3 wee little ones under a mattress and laid on top of the mattress to protect them from the storm coming. The lose had to be enormous to her family but she left safe and sound 3 children with a future life to live. What an unselfish gift of love.

 

I remember while living in Michigan traveling along a wooded area road, seeing a big Doe standing in the middle of the road. Of course I slowed and stopped, then off to the side of the road bouncing out were 2 little fawns. They crossed the road behind the Mother deer and when they were safe and sound across she joined them. Risk her life she did, and many other animals have that same Mother instinct in them. I have seen ducks and geese do the same. Have you ever tried to get close to a nest of new eggs or babies of a bird? That Mother will swoop your head till you go away. HAHA.  God does an awesome job making us all, animals or humans.

 

For 9 months a baby grows in their Mothers body till they mature enough to be born. They are totally dependent on her blood and body for survival at that time. Birth does not end that relationship, it continues all thru our life, life of love. With a Mother’s guidance and nurturing we grow to adulthood. I love to watch the little children usually around 2 make the connection in families. They seem to sense that if they have a Mommy then maybe Grama has a Mommy too. Recently Audrey was shy to giving me a hug good bye, Dianna said Nana is my Mommy, after a quizzical look, she agreed Nana could hug the 2 of them together. These children connect also that a family is a Mommy, Daddy and have course a Baby. I remember Layla when she started drawing pictures it seems the easiest way to understand a family. The innocent minds at work, how awesomely blessed we are. There is no better job than being a Mother and so rewarding.

 

I would love to have McNamara Florist send a large bouquet up to heaven for our Lord to give to my Mother, putting his arms around her and remind her how much I loved and appreciated her giving me life. She is in my heart and thoughts daily, but the missing ache remains. I think that she is caring for my twins and giving them the love and nurturing they need. God bless you Mother and all the Mothers out there. Enjoy your special day. And men thanks for helping us to become Mothers. Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Call your Mother while you can and tell her you love her. 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-24-10

 

JAN’S NO SUPER-WOMAN

 

WOW, What a statement! One more lesson of life being taught the hard way. I have heard that cats have 9 lives, well I have green cat eyes, but I may not have 9 lives to go thru. If I do I know I have used up before about half so it is getting scary. Some have been close calls but thank the good Lord I am still here.

 

My need to be hospitalized happen really fast. It all started with spring allergies—which I have never really had a lot of trouble with. This spring has been different, had a week of fighting allergies, plus working 50 hours the last week of March didn’t do me much good. I worked 2 buildings due to one manager had surgery and our manager here was let go, that is a nice way of saying she got FIRED. So energetic but DUMB me over did, spent Easter with Dianna, Pam and family which was relaxing. Started the week again with 2 busy a schedule. By Monday evening my allergies went to pneumonia, 105 fever, dehydration, blood pressure dropped dangerously low, plus I fell to the floor while trying to get in my bed hitting my tailbone.. So with a 911 call the ambulance came and zoomed me to the hospital about 11 PM. I never lost consciousness, but I sure was miserable. Spent 6 days in hospital till the doctor said you’d get more rest at home. That was no lie, you get no sleep too much going on there.

 

The sign in my chiropractors office says “It’s easier to stay well than to get well” sure is the truth. So my lesson learned is a hard one, “Jan’s no super woman” everyone knew it but me. It is time for some reduced activities and more time for me to relax. I love working here at Crestwood and all the fun activities but where I am now I am no help to anyone and in many cases a burden on others to care for me. I have a loving family that has supported me for 3 weeks now as I heal and come back. But it’s meant time off work for them, extra time out of their lives. Thank you all, I do promise to learn from my mistakes. I am able to be walking my wing halls now and aiming for back to normal activities first week in May. It all at this point depends on this achy breaky tailbone and the doctors.

 

When there is trouble and woe’s in our world God sends a miracle, his name is Spencer Landon O’Brien born 4-08-10 6 lbs. 11 ozs in the same hospital I was in but different floors. I have yet to hold Spencer but Grama Dianna makes sure I get lots of pictures. His sister Audrey has a birthday party next Friday; this Nana’s goal is to be well enough to attend. God is so good to my family; we have more than our share of blessings!

 

Thank you all for cards, prayers, and even food left at my door. I love you all. Till next week, pray I will be on schedule again. Always, Mom

  

TIP OF TH E WEEK:  The more I learn of others problems, the more my own problems automatically dissolve.   


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 3-27-10

 

CELEBRATION OF LIFE

 

Yesterday was the 76th birthday of my dear deceased hubby Russ. Our family tries to gather once a month for family to celebrate birthdays and anniversaries. March happens to only have one birthday March 27th with Russ’s name on our family calendar Dianna made for us all. His picture reminds us of how much he enriched our lives while he was alive. In 2002 we had a celebration of his life, well we have added to our family since then and once again decided to make our monthly gathering just for his memories. We met at Gray’s famous Cafeteria in Mooresville. We had 17 in attendance  .Good food, cake included and sharing our hearts.

 

My day was one of great emotions and many tears but they were happy tears. Happy because Russ gave me 26 short years of married togetherness before he died at age 47. We had our ups and downs as married folks do but each day was a wonderful adventure with my best friend, partner, and sweetheart. He had a short life in counting his age, but it was filled with fun, laughter, purpose, and he befriended countless folks and enriched their lives also.

 

The copies of different pics I printed out showed various times in his life with pics for each person at the celebration party. I made up a quiz for all to fill in the blanks of events, occupations, his likes, and dislikes, to see how many knew or had heard stories of his life. All did really good filling them out and turned into a fun but sentimental trip down memory lane.

 

Both of my daughters Dianna and Pam’s entered words of tenderness on Facebook about their Dad, memories of dancing with Dad when they would step on his shoes to follow his steps. Thank you both for your love and tenderness, it hurts to lose loved ones so young but their hearts are full of love and memories for Russ.

 

The party was wonderful and I have to feel he some how attended in our hearts and from above. Thanks to Russ’s brother, Stan, and wife Jeannie for attending with their love and shared memories. To all on my mailing list, I suggest if you have loved ones you have lost all to early in life, think about a celebration of their life, it sure eases the pain and grieving. I have lived on for 28 years as a widow but he has been with me each day since. Thanks all for sharing with me, enjoy this Palm Sunday and the coming week of Easter preparation. God loves you and so do I. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 3-20-10

  

MY FAVORITE HYMNS

  

Recently our Pastor Shan gave 2 wonderful sermons on prayer. He shared how important our relationship with God is in our prayer life. He surprised us with a song, he sang with his rich faith testifying voice. His song “How long has it been” since you bowed on your knees to talk to our Lord? As we get older we may not be able to knee to pray, it isn’t one of the requirements to have your prayers heard. I often just visualize myself at the foot of the cross; this helps my relationship with the Lord. As Pastor Shan sang I watched others along with myself wiping tears from our faces. We all know we don’t pray faithfully as we should though we’re told to pray continuously.

  

My soul has been blessed to so many hymns over the years. I have heard that music drives the devil away, and I can understand why. Like “Sweet Hour of Prayer” that calls me from a world of care, giving my soul relief. “Amazing Grace” with words how precious did that grace appear the hour I first believed? How about “He Touched Me” and made me whole. His touch can bring peace to us in trouble times. With Easter and the Resurrection coming in a few weeks it makes me think of “Because He Lives” I can face tomorrow, all fear is gone. 

 

Pastor Shan spoke of a song that is one of my Sister Alberta’s favorite and mine. “In the Garden” I come to the garden alone. Words like, he walks with me, he talks to me, and he tells me I am his own. The Joy we share none other has ever known. Our Lord went to the Garden alone before he went to the cross, with one on one in his prayers to God. We too have to do the same alone we develop that precious relationship with God that fills our soul. I love the old Southern Gospel Songs—they mean so much to me. I miss them with all the new songs for praise and worship. Somehow these new ones don’t have the same effects, the tears, the peaceful feeling of the presences of our Lord. I feel these things as I hear and sang “I Surrender ALL” humbly at his feet I bow. All to thee my blessed Savior. 

 

With the first day of spring beginning today, I am seeing everything coming alive after a long winter. I realize how wonderful Easter comes in the spring to remind us of the cross and how we become alive again with our eyes on the Lord Jesus. Happy Easter all, Enjoy the kids with their Easter Egg Hunts. I am looking for a bunny to hide plastic eggs here for the residents to find in the building. They love them with candy, change, and even a few with $1 bills. Always, Mom 

 

TIP FOR THE WEEK: Your mind is like a parachute ---- it functions only when open. 

 
MOM’S THOUGHTS FOR THE WEEK OF 3-06-10

 

SIGNS OF HOPE

 

It is amazing how quickly we can get ready for the changing of seasons. This week our thermometer ‘s have actually seen 40 degrees and SUNSHINE. Of course, when we think Spring is here, we head outside only to be fooled and blasted with a cold wind chill in the 30s. Makes us wonder why we didn’t put our winter coat and gloves on.

 

We have been hit by cold snowy winter here in Indy, We are inpatient waiting for signs of spring and hope. As the sun and warmer temps of just a few days has melted the snow almost completely, given us signs of hope. Under the snow has revealed heads of crocus, tulips sprouts and green grass. Bring it in----we are so ready for spring. I have always loved spring--- it is a season full of hope. Gives us the promise after long dead winter of things coming alive again. In a few weeks we have daylight savings time changes to spring forward an hour on the 14th and then on March 20th it will be the first day of spring on all the calendars.

 

So appropriate is Easter coming up in April. As spring makes us feel changes of all things coming alive, it makes me think of our Lord’s Resurrection, coming alive again. With it gave us the promise of being reborn again and receiving everlasting life thru eternity. WOW, what a gift of hope. Truly spring is the season of hope, the promise of all things being reborn. I often go to the Book of Ecclesiastes Chapter 3: 1 thru 22; it gives the promises of the seasons of life. When we let God be in control we see he plans our days for us, fills them with blessings most of us really don’t deserve. His love for us is always expressed in many of our trying times of loss and sadness. They are always followed by things being brighter next, like the sunshine coming up in the morning following the long dark nights. You can count on God being there for you each step of the way.

 

Spring is in the air---enjoy every minute of it, watch the earth come alive, birds in the air, flowers buds opening and even we will notice a little bounce in our walking step. ENJOY! See you next time, Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Be kinder than necessary cause everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 2-20-10

 

SNOW SNOW AND MORE COMING

  Congrats Tori and Ryan on Baby #3 !!!  You go, Girl !!

 

The month of February has really hit hard on this nation especially the Midwest. There has been snow where it hasn’t been before or if it was it was years ago. Sally in Mobile, Alabama says it only lasted on the ground about 20 minutes but long enough for kids who had never experienced snow could enjoy it. How about snow in Texas, Florida, and parts of Georgia? All I can say is I’m ready to hunt down “whoever” made Mother Nature mad and shoot them.

 

I have even thought of a FREE sign of advertising to get rid of the snow. Usually you get takers on anything FREE. Connie out in Arizona won’t even take it if we ship it to her. She’s refused my snowball fights on Face book too. I keep trying to put some humor into our circumstances to try to get thru this snowbound Indiana. All in all I am sure the folks along the east coast with more snow and electrical outages would say we have it darn easy.

 

Here in Crestwood the maintenance crews are daily out trying to keep our roads open for the traffic and sidewalks open and cleared of ice. We daily have ambulance and fire trucks coming in and out. They have done a super job over-all but imagine 7 buildings with parking areas of cars and senior drivers unable to clear their own spots. My car has been parked a lot but the disadvantage is the snowplow snows you in.

 

Even with al this snow it didn’t stop our residents from our Casino Nite affair this week. Lots of gamblers showed up to play poker, bingo, and win prizes after cashing in their winnings. Lots of gift certificates, dollars off their rent credits all pays off. As I headed out after the bus stopped running residents around campus, I decided to walk home. With the streetlights shinning on the white snow, no wind, all seemed peacefully quiet with the stars shining above in the night sky. It reminded me of years ago when I did a lot of walking at night after the kids were in bed, ended the day of being in with kids. It always relaxed me when the nite was peacefully, calm and not really cold. Try it, it is great before retiring for the night.

 

I placed some artificial silk red tulips in pots in the mailroom with valentines on the walls, hoping somehow our weather gets turned around to normal. I am soooooo ready for spring, crocuses, robins, and mostly green grass again. This black and white landscaping gets old after a while.  Hope everyone is enjoying the Olympics from Canada. I believe we have their cold and snow, it’s been warmer up there than usual. Those kids are sure doing the USA proud bringing home the gold.

 

Got warming news this week from Tori and Ryan, great grandbaby #5 has been ordered. Layla is four and really getting the feel of being the big sister, with Roxy now 6 months and a new, boy we hope, due in October of this year. THINK BLUE everyone, the Browns would like a son to finish their family officially. Rest up Grama Pam you’re gona need it. Tori I think you out did me, with 3 under the age of 4, I had 5 under the age of 6. Fertile folks aren’t we? Congrats to you both!

 

Well the weather is posting 4 days of snowstorms starting on Saturday. Here we go again, don’t put the snow blowers away.  Till next time, seems I am running every 2 weeks now with the Mom’s Thoughts instead of weekly, but remember how important you all in my life all the time, Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK; The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 2-06-10

  

SURGERY RECOVERY

 

I am sure to some my recent surgery has been a surprising going on. Thursday of this week I had a tumor (basil cell cancer) removed from my hairline on my head. Thanks to my hair dress I was able to keep it covered and pretty much no one knew I had it prior to this week. except my kids, they were the ones that insisted I go to the Dermatologist back in November. This was the earliest they could get me in for surgery. The biopsy was done in November, so we had some time to sweat it out.

  

As some one making a dumb decision, I thought I could rid the spot on my own over the last year. I tried treating myself with many medications, alcohol, and peroxide, antibiotic ointment, all over the counter stuff. I was sure one would cure it. Well, wrong! Finally when I showed my daughters they wouldn’t let up till I made the appointment. When the biopsy came back CANCER it was the last thing I wanted to hear. Skin cancer due to all the sun bathing I did over the years at the pool or even the fact I never wear a hat winter or summer.

  

18 years ago I had throat cancer on my vocal cord, surgery to remove it was followed by 35 radiation treatments. The 98% cured odds the doctor gave me made the treatments worth it. At that time the quick appointment when I noticed trouble in my throat is what saved me from it taken roots and growing which would have taken a vocal cord. It saved me then and I have been cancer free ever since and mostly healthy through the years. I have been truly blessed and once again I count myself blessed. This growth now is a one-time growth and not the kind that spreads to other parts of the body. Again a blessing. Cancer is a terrible disease, one that pain and fear takes a lot of faith, self-encouraging through the hard journey you face for yourself and your family. As with all health issues time allows you to accept it’s happening to you, then you can face the options open to you.

  

My faith has brought me thru, changing me as time has past. I love where I am in my life----the Nana of 3 beautiful healthy great grand babies with another due in March/April. Life is precious. The wonderful news that Layla Belle’s test results for Cystic Fibrosis came back last week it was normal. All being results of plenty of prayers by prayer warriors and our awesome GOD. We are so fortunate to have the advanced medical field we have now. My doctor’s expertise has left me 11 stitches hairline scar that will let the hair grow back with my hairstyle staying the same and no need for a wig. HOORAY!

  

So learn from one stubborn old lady—don’t delay going to the doctors. I love you all, thanks to my family for love and support thru my 2nd journey with Cancer. Couldn’t have made it with out you. Always, Mom

  

TIP OF THE WEEK: SUPER BOWL TOMORROW AND I AM ROOTING FOR THE COLTS. BLUE AND WHITE TREE WILL COME DOWN NEXT WEEK IN OUR LOBBY. EVERYONE WATCH THE GAME.   GO COLTS!


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 1-30-10

 

FOUR A’S

 

I receive daily messages from Hazelden Org. most of the messages are based on the AA program 12 steps of recovery. Many of them give me time for thoughts regarding life’s cycles that we human have in our journey. All humans have changing situations constantly affecting us. This one was based on ACCEPTANCE, AWARENESS, ACTION AND ATTITUDE. All four great words are ones I have faced over the years at different times.

 

ACCEPTANCE was a hard one for me to learn. I had lots of why me’s to deal with at different times in my life. Finally I got the message WHY not? I am human, living with situations of cancer, financial problems, loss of loved ones, jealousy, hurt coming from others, all building resentment in me. Acceptance has taught me some things you can’t change but it may be happening to add growth and strength to build on your faith, making you a better person when you come through them.

 

AWARENESS has always grown when I take my focus off ME and put it on others. The world around me changes me to reach out to others. Realizing it can’t be all about me.

 

ACTION is again one we need to have enforced when you’d like to ignore circumstances and do nothing. Changes come hard but certainly forces action for any of us to take positive steps. I have had times of limitations and my capacity to fix my world has made me look for positive solutions. There is always a positive any time we’re faced with negatives. It all depends on what you want to spend your time concentrating on.

 

Lastly ATTITUDE has been one of the largest areas I have had to work on. I am thankful over the years I have turned a negative self-center attitude into making me a more positive human beings that enjoys life filled with others. Life is to be enjoyed regardless of our circumstances. ATTITUDE pulls us through when nothing else can. When I worked at Meijers as a Greeter, I met some nasty complaining folks even in public, creating negative effects on others around them. I always thought, “Boy am I glad I don’t have to go home with them!” Your attitude is one area you control, so make living with yourself better.

 

Hope all are staying warm and dry wherever you are. Winter has been rough with all the bitter cold, wind chills, and snowstorms. I for one am grateful every time I hear the heater click on and more grateful Justus pays the bill. So many have had to deal with loss of electricity in their homes.  If you haven’t then curl up and read a good book.    Take care, till next time, Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Each one of us is unique in our own way. Much like the snowflakes no two alike. So love yourself, God does and so do I. 



MOM’S THOUGHTS FOR THE WEEK OF 1-23-10

 

WEEK OF DEVASTATION

 

This has been a devastating week since the enormous debilitating earthquake in Haiti. The losses of lives have been recognized as the highest of any quake in history. The United States is feeling the enormous grief with so many of our missionaries and youth volunteers trapped below  the collapsing buildings. As with all tragedies I believe God has his angels on this earth, angels of mercy, who come forth as heroes who have volunteered to be rescuers needed to find survivors and help the injured medically. They are unique folks that have strong faith and strengths to endure the day after day work needed. Many only receive minimum amount of sleep at night. Our prayers are needed for there strengths to sustain them.

 

Back here at home, we too are affected deeply by the goings on in Haiti. With our live on the pot news coverage, we quickly can find ourselves depressed and feeling of helplessness to help others. I learned a big lesson with the Twin Towers Tragedy and the effects on us individually. We all want to know what’s going on, what progress has happen----but we need to step up--- turn the news off. We can’t handle the 24/7 coverage of negative and depressing news going into our minds. Most of us have enough in our own world to deal with. Lots of questions of why occur daily and we seek understanding of answers. We don’t always receive the answers we are seeking daily; instead it may be time for us to pull thru our faith. We have a God who knows our circumstances, knows what we dealing with step-by-step, day-by-day. He may not give us all the answers to why, but he is there always and will help us weather our storms. What a wonderful gift of peace he gives us that he is in control of all things. Our strength of faith will come as he sees we need it. He created us, he loves us, and he will protect us.

 

Try to keep your self and your world in an upbeat positive mode. Our blessings way over number any storms we might have now or in the future come our way. I love you all, I wish my Great Granddaughter Layla Belle a Happy Birthday on the 21st. she is a big girl 4 years old. She is being a big girl too going thru tests for Cystic Fibrosis. Keep her and the Brown family in your prayers this week. Till next week, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: GOD NEVER GIVES US MORE THAN WE CAN HANDLE. RELAX AND ENJOY LIFE.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 1-09-10

 

WINTER BLUES

 

Merle Haggard’s old Country song “If we make it thru December… better days a coming.” Making it thru the holidays was really a faith tester for me. With a few unexpected deaths, lots of illness and health issues to deal with, our senior folks here in #3 and I made it thru the social activities. So far other than less goings on, we haven’t changed much. I am so ready for a slower pace for a while. The 4 inches of now Indy received this Thursday almost brought us to a halt. We were able to have the Men’s Breakfast with the snow coming down, my men walkers from another building roughed it by walking, I was proud of them. The bus hasn’t run for 2 days, but back at it today. We had about 28 hungry folks for breakfast, mainly the maintenance crew from out in the cold.

 

The rest of my day and even today has been watching the snowfall out my balcony doors. Only activity is our maintenance snow blowing and spreading salt. I am trying to talk my self into making it to bundle up and tackle 14 degrees and try to get to my car. Keep thinking the sun will come out and I wont have to do it but I must be dreaming.

 

The winter so far has been hard on our little ones too with illness. Layla Belle had pneumonia on Christmas Eve and has tried to over it and hasn’t. Still has a bad cough. Roxy has bronchitis and their parents are hoping it doesn’t worsen like Layla’s. Audrey and Tom both have had coughs but no worse than that. It is hard on wee ones to be sick and can drain dear ole Moms and Dads down caring for them and running to the doctors. I am calling on all Prayer Warriors; I have kept Lois busy with prayers for my family. She is such a wonderful prayer warrior but even she has had a long list of her friends and loved ones. I told her do you reckon we need just to say “Everyone” instead of doing individual requests of our Lord. Our wonderful God already knows our needs before we ask and also the outcome. Lots of us get our faith tested often and winter doesn’t make it easier. Alberta and her son Rob are facing some health problems for him that has been very stressful for them to handle. They too are leaning heavy on prayers; don’t know how we would cope without our faith to get us through. God is in control and our job is to trust in his control of everything.

 

Now more than ever during the winter months others need our prayers and support, with our love. Take time today to help those near and far. We are hanging in there with our support for our Colts football team. Their 14-0 at Christmas all too quickly followed with 2 losses. They are still very much in the run for the Super Bowl. So here in #3 we are all white and blue in décor and the Colts Christmas tree is still up for the “WIN.” So keep those fingers crossed and yelling GO COLTS.

 

Hope the New Year of 2010 has been good to you so far, hoping you haven’t written too many checks with the wrong year. I loved the debate over it being Two thousand and 10 vs. 20-10. The young ones are going more for the 20-10 and us oldies are for the 2 thousand 10, we didn’t say 20—09 so what is the debate for? Okay enough news all stay warm and healthy. I love you all. Till next week, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:  If at first you don’t succeed, then skydiving is not for you. AMEN. 


Mom’s  Thoughts for the Week of 12-18-04   (12-19-09)
 

Few of my Favorite Things 

December and so far no snow to speak of, I have been thinking about praying for some to make it feel more like Christmas. But, I thought that really would not be fair, I don’t have to get out in it daily and can stay in where it is warm. So I hadn’t been praying, but when I looked out this morning and saw snow flurries, I said, “YES, I will be happy with that.” I guess all my memories of Christmas past; have snow and lots of it in them. It always represented the feeling of Christmas, and something we required to get in the mood of Christmas and shopping for gifts. I do love snow, always have, and love to walk in it when it is new and falling slowly, specially in the nightlight. The making of snow flakes, not any two is one of those awesome makings of God. One I don’t know the reason for but do enjoy the miracle of snow. Beautiful snow, white and clean, yeah, how many of you already see it dirty and underfoot, work of shoveling and the driving on the slick roads. Just remember I have NOT prayed for it, but I don’t think we will be seeing it too soon, the weather calls for in the 40’s temps. May not get that White Christmas this year, way too warm, but it is Indiana and things can change and quick.

 

I attended the Christmas Program at our Church this past Friday and Saturday night with family and friends. The music was absolutely beautiful and the Choir, with the help of others, outstandingly did the whole event. The feeling one left with was that “Feeling of Christmas, mainly JOY.” The story of the birth of Jesus, the soul reaching music, and singing along with the Christmas Carols, gave one the joy of the heart, bringing God so close and his gift to us, so enormous and unselfish, showing his awesome love. Music, it is so much a part of Christmas, as we sing of joy and praise it can only place us in the high-spirits of Christmas. I can’t imagine what it would be like not to have and feel music in our lives. So I count it along with snow as two of my favorite things, how about you all?

 

After our program Dianna, Tom and I drove around checking out the pretty lights decorated in the Oak Meadows homes, they have mostly clear lights and they decorate the neighborhood. What a beautiful sight to behold. My favorite one was one in different colored lights, and appeared to be a Gingerbread House; there were deer, snowmen, Santas, trees and bushes decorated, and flashing. What a lot of work to give so much pleasure to others. Dianna found the reindeer with the red nose first though Tom and I were trying to find it. I had seen it on the trip with the senior bus light tour last week, but forgot where it was. “Eagle eye Dianna” saw it though Tom and I think she cheated us.   (Note: She also found the error on last weeks MTFTW, I do have 6 grandchildren, and proud of each one, excuse my senior moment).

 

Memories of the heart aren’t they wonderful; they do keep getting recalled thru our mind. I have recycled cards to give in Building # 6 for the last 3 years. Everyone seems to like my verse on them, so I will share with you all too. “May this recycled card bring back the warmth and love of Christmas pasts, filling your heart with love, joy, and happiness shared with loved ones and friends.” Enjoy the blessed season everyone.  Always, Mom

Tip of the week:

The LIGHT is not just at the END of the tunnel; it’s IN the tunnel.



Mom’s  Thoughts for the Week of 12-18-04
 

Few of my Favorite Things 

December and so far no snow to speak of, I have been thinking about praying for some to make it feel more like Christmas. But, I thought that really would not be fair, I don’t have to get out in it daily and can stay in where it is warm. So I hadn’t been praying, but when I looked out this morning and saw snow flurries, I said, “YES, I will be happy with that.” I guess all my memories of Christmas past; have snow and lots of it in them. It always represented the feeling of Christmas, and something we required to get in the mood of Christmas and shopping for gifts. I do love snow, always have, and love to walk in it when it is new and falling slowly, specially in the nightlight. The making of snow flakes, not any two is one of those awesome makings of God. One I don’t know the reason for but do enjoy the miracle of snow. Beautiful snow, white and clean, yeah, how many of you already see it dirty and underfoot, work of shoveling and the driving on the slick roads. Just remember I have NOT prayed for it, but I don’t think we will be seeing it too soon, the weather calls for in the 40’s temps. May not get that White Christmas this year, way too warm, but it is Indiana and things can change and quick.

 

I attended the Christmas Program at our Church this past Friday and Saturday night with family and friends. The music was absolutely beautiful and the Choir, with the help of others, outstandingly did the whole event. The feeling one left with was that “Feeling of Christmas, mainly JOY.” The story of the birth of Jesus, the soul reaching music, and singing along with the Christmas Carols, gave one the joy of the heart, bringing God so close and his gift to us, so enormous and unselfish, showing his awesome love. Music, it is so much a part of Christmas, as we sing of joy and praise it can only place us in the high-spirits of Christmas. I can’t imagine what it would be like not to have and feel music in our lives. So I count it along with snow as two of my favorite things, how about you all?

 

After our program Dianna, Tom and I drove around checking out the pretty lights decorated in the Oak Meadows homes, they have mostly clear lights and they decorate the neighborhood. What a beautiful sight to behold. My favorite one was one in different colored lights, and appeared to be a Gingerbread House; there were deer, snowmen, Santas, trees and bushes decorated, and flashing. What a lot of work to give so much pleasure to others. Dianna found the reindeer with the red nose first though Tom and I were trying to find it. I had seen it on the trip with the senior bus light tour last week, but forgot where it was. “Eagle eye Dianna” saw it though Tom and I think she cheated us.   (Note: She also found the error on last weeks MTFTW, I do have 6 grandchildren, and proud of each one, excuse my senior moment).

 

Memories of the heart aren’t they wonderful; they do keep getting recalled thru our mind. I have recycled cards to give in Building # 6 for the last 3 years. Everyone seems to like my verse on them, so I will share with you all too. “May this recycled card bring back the warmth and love of Christmas pasts, filling your heart with love, joy, and happiness shared with loved ones and friends.” Enjoy the blessed season everyone.  Always, Mom

Tip of the week:

The LIGHT is not just at the END of the tunnel; it’s IN the tunnel.



Mom’s Thoughts for the Week of  12-19-09

6 DAYS to CHRISTMAS

 

This Mountain wing arrived in my email box just at the right time. Since most of us are too busy and not having enough time before Christmas arrives, I thought this was worthy of sending to all of us as Mom’s Thoughts this week.  Merry Christmas I love you, Mom

 

A MountainWings Moment    #9353:  Wings Over The Mountains of Life

 

Each December, I vowed to make Christmas a calm and peaceful experience. I had cut back on nonessential obligations - extensive card writing, endless baking, decorating, and even overspending. Yet still, I found myself exhausted, unable to appreciate the precious family moments, and of course, the true meaning of Christmas.

 

My son, Nicholas, was in kindergarten that year. It was an exciting season for a six year old. For weeks, he'd been memorizing songs for his school's "Winter Pageant." I didn't have the heart to tell him I'd be working the night of the production. Unwilling to miss his shining moment, I spoke with his teacher. She assured me there'd be a dress rehearsal the morning of the presentation. All parents unable to attend that evening were welcome to come then.  Fortunately, Nicholas seemed happy with the compromise.

 

So, the morning of the dress rehearsal, I filed in ten minutes early, found a spot on the cafeteria floor and sat down. Around the room, I saw several other parents quietly scampering to their seats. As I waited, the students were led into the room. Each class, accompanied by their teacher, sat cross- legged on the floor. Then, each group, one by one, rose to perform their song.

 

Because the public school system had long stopped referring to the Holiday as "Christmas," I didn't expect anything other than fun, commercial entertainment - songs of reindeer, Santa Claus, snowflakes and good cheer. So, when my son's class rose to sing, "Christmas Love," I was slightly taken aback by its bold title.

 

Nicholas was aglow, as were all of his classmates, adorned in fuzzy mittens, red sweaters, and bright snowcaps upon their heads. Those in the front row- center stage - held up large letters, one by one, to spell out the title of the song.  As the class would sing "C is for Christmas," a child would hold up the letter C. Then, "H is for Happy," and on and on, until each child holding up his portion had presented the complete message,

 

"CHRISTMAS LOVE."

 

The performance was going smoothly, until suddenly, we noticed her; a small, quiet, girl in the front row holding the letter "M" upside down totally unaware her letter "M" appeared as a

"W".  The audience of 1st through 6th graders snickered at this little one's mistake. But she had no idea they were laughing at her, so she stood tall, proudly holding her "W".

 

Although many teachers tried to shush the children, the laughter Continued until the last letter was raised, and we all saw it together.  A hush came over the audience and eyes began to widen. In that instant, we understood the reason we were there, why we celebrated the holiday in the first place, why even in the chaos, there was a purpose for our festivities.  For when the last letter was held high, the message read loud and clear:

 

"CHRIST WAS  LOVE"

 

And, I believe, He still is.  ~Author Unknown~

 

Tip of the week: Take some time to be still, listen and know he is God!


Mom’s Thoughts of the week 12-06-09

 

SEASON OF GIFTS

 

Ahh, December, the time of the year to get into the wonderful world of Christmas. I have been working all week on decorating and preparing for the Christmas Bazaar of all 7 buildings here in Crestwood Village South. We had cookies to eat as we heard “Deck the Halls” playing, the “Rocking around the Christmas tree” with Brenda Lee always gets us moving with the music and into the season. 2 Beautiful trees are decorated in our lobby; we leave everything lit up for the residents and families to enjoy while coming and going. The mailroom has a waterfall surrounded by artificial red potted poinsettias and twinkle lights surrounding them.

 

While having the fun of decorating and using my creative genes, I thought and pondered on the God given talents he has given me as gifts to share with others. I am so grateful for them and feel very blessed. All my little folks here are like little children, with sparkling eyes as they behold the glitter, the pretties of the red bows, lighted trees with gift boxes under them (though wrapped they are empty) and stuffed animals. The pleasure of their faces, make all the hard work, lugging and tugging from storage worth it, even the hitting of my fingers with the hammer is okay.

 

This season brings people to the malls and stores buying gifts for family, loved ones and friends. The season of gifts can become so commercial, if we are not careful we get all too involved with material possessions and how much the gift costs that we receive. We forget what the season is about, our greatest gift of all, celebration of our Lord’s birth. I believe the real gift he wants for his birthday is for us to give back to God the ability to share the gifts he has given each of us. The gifts of giving to others love, understanding, compassion, comfort when we can, someone to listen, encouraging words or praise, and even a hug might make some days go easier. These are gifts that have enormous worth but are free to give to others. This is our way of saying “Thank You” to God. I know my life has become so much richer since I started trying to put others needs ahead of mine. Hopefully I will continue to grow in God’s beautiful life he has blessed me with.

 

As you make your list of giving this year, stop and think how many free gifts you have to share with others. Have a great week, snow is coming, and we are off into the Christmas spirit of things. I love you all.!!!!!!!

 

Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Each day comes bearing it’s own gifts. Untie the ribbons. by Ruth Ann Schabacker


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-20-04  Recycled 11-26-09

 

Happy Thanksgiving:

 

I once worked retail business at Meijers, it then irked me when they started Christmas playing of songs in October. Well, things have not changed nor will they most likely, mainly due to the nature of our retailing business. It really is something that upsets me that we go from Halloween to Christmas, totally by passing Thanksgiving and the season it represents. To me the Thanksgiving Day is one that only comes second to Christmas and the birth of our savior Jesus.

 

Thanksgiving reminds of our forefathers coming to this land as Pilgrims, and there first feasts here. I believe they shared their riches with the Indians as well as knowledge, one sharing with the other. The beginning had to be excited though their possessions had to be few do to the long trip across the ocean. But still the new land, their belief in a new start for their home, had to be enormous. Do we in our land of plenty now over look the riches of our lives and forget to say “Thank you” to show our appreciation? I think we sometimes forget to take the time due to the rat race we find ourselves in daily. 

 

Oprah once said to make a list of 10 things in a journal before going to bed would help not only your awareness but change your attitude toward life.

 

I have also heard of writing a daily list of 100 things to be grateful for that you can think of. Yes, it does help to list the things we take for granted, like breathing, being able to get up and out of the bed in the morning, having a warm and soft bed to get out of, the beauty of the sunrise or sunset, good health, for the birds to watch, the love of our love ones, the list goes on and on, when we stop and pay attention to all we have to thank God for them. 

God blesses us with so many gifts we never say thank you for enough, mainly because we don’t take time . God hears even quick thoughts of “Thank you Lord” that never gets verbalized but go through our minds.  He would much rather we take the time to talk to him but he counts even those small “Thank You’s”. So, my dear children, put some GRATITUDE IN YOUR ATTITUDE, it’s an old saying but it will change your whole being. Be aware, as your prayers of gratitude go up, your blessings will be coming down from above. God loves you and our appreciation. 

Happy Thanksgiving, you are all at the top of the list of my richest blessings. Have a great week. 

Always, Mom 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Don’t try to eat it all in one day, leftovers are good for tomorrow. Dr. Oz says the normal eating of Thanksgiving Dinner is up in the thousands of calories consumed.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-21-09

 

TWIX AND BETWEEN

 

This week has been one of those I call TWIX AND BETWEEN week. A lot of going on but all to often I find I’ve started projects but due to timing, waiting for payday, or waiting for someone else, things I start don’t get completed. Then I find the ole ’feeling that calls for patience-----patience not being one of my virtues makes it hard to deal with.

 

Monday Dianna and her boss Rose did complete the beautiful blue and white Christmas tree in our entry just in time For the big one point win for the Indianapolis Colts over New England Patriots. So our celebration was just in time, we now have the Colts mascot under the elegantly lit tree. May cheer them on to the super bowl in January if so, the tree will stay up. However, this week the Red Hat Society Social called for red and purple in our lobby décor. With fall decorations scattered thru our mailroom for this week’s coming Thanksgiving Day. This assortment would make any interior decorator feel unfinished TWIX and BETWEEN projects. Thank goodness Black Friday comes the day after Thanksgiving with all the big sales at our nation’s stores, beginning the Christmas season. So if I make it to Friday I can help residents decorate our big ole fashion tree for the building lobby. Then continue on to complete Christmas decorations on every thing that doesn’t move.

 

Too many times I have come unnerved with projects I have started and lost interest, never to finish or complete. It is really against my nature and I am not to please with me. Must be a Sagittarius trait. Of course it is not as bad as being a perfectionist I once was, glad to be thru that period of my life. As I aged I found some things really are less important than I make them in this ole life cycle. I am thankful that I have grown and learned many new lessons over the years. There’s always room for growth when we let God mold us his way.

 

Have a blessed Thanksgiving; hopefully you’ll all be surrounded with love of family and the traditional abundance of Turkey with all the trimmings. Till next week, be good to yourself. Love, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more, it turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, and confusion to clarity. It turns a meal into a feast, a house to a home, and a stranger to a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past. Brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow. Put Gratitude in your Attitude today!


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-14-09

  

A Blessed Week

 

Last Sunday my son Rusty had a birthday open house in honor of his 50th, his day was spent with Football Game of the Colts, Chili and Hot Dogs and all his friends. I decided to show just what he was doing making his mother older than dirt, I dressed in black from head to toes, covering my hair with a veil for I was truly in mourning, mourning of the child hood he was leaving behind. I topped the outfit with a dozen black balloons bouquet in my hand. I do believe I surprised him with my entrance, and it was all in fun. I truly am grateful to see him reach 50 years old, his Dad dying at 47 and his grandfather dying at 37, all made for a hard act to follow. Rusty has had hard times with Hepatitis C, but God has blessed him and his health has improved. Proud to have him for my son, again I am blessed too.

 

Today I attended church with my daughter Pam and my great grandbaby Roxy, as I looked into this child of 3 months sweet innocent face, I once again said a prayer of thankfulness. Roxy, Layla, and Audrey have brought so much love and pleasure to my senior years of my life. Dianna and Pam see that I get my time with all of them, thank you daughters of mine.

 

 This being November I always think of Thanksgiving as the month to concentrate on our blessings and be thankful for so many things we take for granted. Thanking God for blessings can pretty much keep you in a constant prayer mode as you go about your daily routine. Thankful for family, friends around us to comfort us and help us with daily problems. So many live alone and face loneliness daily. Some face hardships, which makes sunrises, sunsets, rainbows, even clouds a beauty they cannot see. I have been blessed with good sight, hearing may be bad, but my hearing aids corrected that. I can go on and on with my list of blessings, and I need to listing them for God to know I know I am blessed. Have you started saying “Thank you” for your many blessings, start today.

 

Tomorrow starts the first Christmas decoration to our building #3. Dianna is coming over to decorate our entry white tree. She has only decorated 7 at McNamara Florist where she works already, so I think she has had practice enough to do ours. (smile) We have so many socials we are hosting that we have to get things a going. Red Hat Social here, Christmas Bazaar right after Thanksgiving, Dinner & Dance not too far behind that. So, I am doing my blessings now before the mad holidays activity begins. Once they begin I will be prayer for strength and energy to get everything done.

 

Have a great week everyone, I count all of you as one of my greatest blessing. Love always, Mom

 

 TIP OF THE WEEK: A true Thanksgiving: An Open House, An Open Heart,

Here Grows A Bountiful Harvest.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-08-09

 

LIFE LIVES ON

 

It is a beautiful sunny Fall Saturday morning as I sit in my chair; the beautiful colored leaves are in slow motion today, falling to the ground in a floating style. It is ending a season for them, which began in the spring with the new leaves sprouting to life, then through the summer months it gave the tree shade for us all, now it is the fall time which they have given us the beautiful of their glorious brilliant color, created only by God’s touch. Our trees have been beautiful this year regardless of the strange cool summer we had. Once the tree sheds the leaves from its branches all too quickly the tree is left bare, empty with the life gone from it. The life span of leaves is so very short that I can only compare it with our own lives and how precious our time is with our loved ones.

 

The last few weeks have been full of loss, sadness in our nation as one thing after another has created loss of lives, the H1N1 Flu has put fear into us all striking our young people, and many lives have been ended. The loss of lives at Fort Hood Military base not only came as a shocking event taking the lives of so many and leaving other victims to months of surviving wounds. Harm to others seems to be everywhere and so uncalled for. It is so hard to lose ones we love and try to deal with the voids in our daily living. Here at Crestwood we lost one of our dear resident of our building family. She fought long and hard with wonderful care from her family, but the cancer finally took her life. That loss left her family with a big void though they cared for her every inch of her final journey. How do we cope with all the sadness in our life and depressing news we hear daily? Those with out the faith to go on and the promise that we will be together again one day giving us hope, I don’t know the answer. Living this life can be hard even when we have our faith to help us day by day knowing God is in control.

 

My dear Pastor Shan from our church GCC, performed the final service for Phyllis and her family. He personally did not know her, but through his comforting of the family he learned of Phyllis and the type person she was. She had many traits of love mother, grandmother and great grandmother, caring loving ways of smiling to others and joking when many times she was in pain, she loved doing jigsaw puzzles and the family saw to placing one piece in her hand. Shan’s words awaken a thought in me that I would like to share, the comfort it gives is positive and full of hope. It is so hard to lose someone you love and face them being out of our daily lives and the void left. Shan said take the traits you loved the most of the person and bring them into you, as long as that trait is in you that loved one remains with us. Even making us a better person because of it. In so doing we keep our loved one living in our heart. I have so many traits of my mother in me that I acquired after her death, even now she always still feels so close in my daily life. There are people that project so much love to others, caring ways of doing volunteer work, helping where they can, and shame we can’t take over some of their good deeds and even make changes in our lives.

 

Thank you Shan for always giving comfort and strength to others where needed. I again say you live a life of “Going around doing good!” You practice what you preach for sure.

 

Hope everyone is doing what you can to protect your self from germs. Get those flu shots, wash your hands over and over again, and stay home when you are sick, protecting others from catching it. Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: My son Rusty is 50 years old on the 9th of November. Man I should deserve an award for giving that guy life. Seriously Happy Birthday Rusty I love you more than I can express in 3 small words.
 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-31-09

 

PRIORITY TIME

 

Tonight we go off Daylight Savings Time once again. The good thing is we will Fall back and receive 1 extra hour of sleep. The bad thing is once again we face the changing of our body schedule timing. I am still one that liked it when Indiana stayed the same time all year through, never changing. We never realized then how good we had it every year, to do nothing when everyone else changed their time. Changes usually point out the good and the bad as we make adjustments.

 

When I start thinking about time and how it affects our life, most of us never seem to have the time we need in a 24-hour day. We rush around all day long and collapse into bed when we drop out of need for rest. Next day we get up and start all over again busy, rushing with the clock to have time to accomplish what we have on the agenda. It took along time for me to realize the greatest gift of love one could give their family is exactly what we all want the most, TIME to spend together, TIME to hang out, do nothing special but just TIME to talk, reminisce and TIME to let each know they are important in our lives. I have been quilty as we all have of wasting time, I don’t waste time anymore watching TV shows I don’t even call entertaining. Nor wasting time doing for me when I could be spending time encouraging some one else.

 

I have had good times that I keep recycling through my mind and makes importance on happy times, even the bad times in my life has often made a better person of me when they were done and over. They taught me patience’s and endurance, faith in God that he is in charge and never will leave me alone to face obstacles with out his help, he is my strength.

 

I welcome times I get to cuddle or play with those 3 great granddaughters; I treasure the laughs, the smiles, and fullness I receive after “Nanny Time.” I love when you kids call me and say “Mom you have time for a quick lunch? I’ll pick you up!” Time is what we make it when we prioritize what’s important in our lives. Time for friends come second to family for me, but what ever would I do without time for friend, specially the ones who stand by me in my hard times. May I be aware of the times they need me to spend time with them. It’s okay to sleep that extra hour of time this week for yourself. But work on your times schedule of days ahead. Do you need to make some changes to have more time for those that love you?

 

Happy Halloween, don’t let the ghost and goblins get you, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

My theory is that if you look confident you can pull off anything……even if you have no clue what you are doing. :<)



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-24-09

 

OUT-OF-PRACTICE COOK     (concrete or mashed potatoes, which is it?)

 

A few years ago at a family reunion at Alberta’s home in Michigan, my sister in law Lee and I were delegated to make the mashed potatoes for he crowd on hand. Both of us have become “Microwave Cooks for One,” so we both were out of practice cooking for a large number. To handicap us even further we had to make it with instant potato mix. Yeah, I can hear many saying “No Problems.” We, Lee and I survived the questioning of how much water, how much, miss and how much butter and the overflowing of the water after we put the butter in, the butter starting a fire in the next burner on the stove, and when all was finished we received compliments on how good they were. We laugh so hard every time we think of it.

 

Well Lee, I sure could have used you again this week; we had an in house dinner of the month here at Crestwood Building #3. Great menu, Meat Loaf, mashed potatoes with brown gravy, buttered corn, rolls and butter, and variety of puddings with whipped cream and vanilla wafers for dessert. MCL catered the meat loaf for us, they brought it early, and then had to return with more meat, and they forgot the brown gravy all together. In the mean while I found out I was the only one who could do the mashed potatoes for 45 residents dinners. Now I have never served in the service nor was my family ever that big, Yep, I time to panic and no time to hit the panic button. After a few words of inner you can do this, I put 2 big pots of water on for a starter. Got it started to boil, reminded me of they always boiled water when delivering babies, yeah, I had to deliver mashed potatoes. I grabbed the package it said directions for 63 half cup servings, I said a quick prayer for help and decided to try mixing the hot water, potato mix and butter till it came up with the right consistency. Started beating it like I was mixing concrete---I had done that before a few times when I lived in the little gray house on Pine Street. The only thing that panicked me was the HOT water and it called for 6/2 qts pitchers and me getting scalded. I said the heck with measuring just keep adding till it looked right. Finally the too soupy went to too thick to finally the mashed potato consistence, added salt, and pepper. Said another prayer “Lord please make these taste like potatoes and not chalk” and asked one of the residents to taste it. I had a taste, surprise not bad. After taking the pan to the steam table I realized I was only half way home to finishing, I needed another pan full of mashed potatoes.

 

Between mixing up another pan full of Mashed potatoes, I was moving the meat 7 meat loafs out of the oven to make room for the rolls to be baked. It reminded me of Thanksgiving dinner when all had to be ready and hot to serve at the same time for my family, though there was only 5 of us. It also was 25 years ago when I was more confident and sure of my abilities back then. So this out of practice cook made it, I held my breath till the residents started eating and saying how good everything was. Okay kids don’t get the idea that Ole Mom is going to start cooking again. I will gladly go back to being the Microwave Cook for one. Had my fill of pressure in the kitchen, so next time we get all catered or have sandwiches. I am too old for feeding a large crowd as cook, I don’t mind serving, and clean up but the responsibility of feeding the cooks has is not for this lady.

 

God bless you all, till next time, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

You make more friends by being interested in them than by trying to get them interested in you.

 
 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-17-09

 

FOOTBALL ADVENTURES

 

It seems like regardless of where you live these days Mother Nature is playing with your weather patterns. She seems to want to get into the games we play. We had so much rain and more rain as I mentioned this fall here in Indiana. Last week after days of depressing rain we approached the weekend. All the High School Football games are usually played on Friday  or Saturday rain or shine. I recall my High School years of Football games; weather never was a factor, rain, cold, or what we showed up. I loved it going to cheer and root for the ole Home Team. There is no dedication like young teens spirit with the players in uniform and the cheerleaders with pom-poms dancing in the air. Always victory when the team won but even defeat was only a quick moment passing on the spirit of the game.

 

Last week I found a lighter side to smile and reminisce even more. I found myself watching the high lites of the high school replays around Indiana; again it had rained forever all week, so the football fields were one wet and mudded mess. Never slowed down the many sports fans with umbrellas, ponchos, or just roughing the rainfall as they watched the games. The spirit of the on watchers certainly related to the teams playing the games. The teens playing in their football jerseys came to win, though with the mud and wetness it became hard to tell which team was which. Uniforms were mud covered, players slipped and sliding made it hard to move around, and many balls were dropped because of the wetness. Of course at the loss of the ball, a mad dash was made by the whole team to intercept it. Even with my response of “Oh MY!” “Those poor guys” and occasional laughter as they tried to run the field, I had to admire them all with their determination and true grit to win regardless. Most of the scores ended up with low final number, but the spirit were high in determination and pride.

 

I have seen mud wrestling before of 2 individuals and thought who ever thought up this sport. Must be for entertainment! It was entertainment for me to watch 2 complete teams of hard driving teens playing in such wet environment made me proud of our young folks. The skills they show will certainly result with some of them going on to Professional Ball one day. Sports have always brought forth some amazing talents and skills in our youth.

 

As I watch the weather report today---shows early snow in the east and northwest states, accidents on the highway sleeted roads, I will not complain about lite rain, I will look at the brightness of the fall colored leaves of the trees and count my blessings. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Happy 82nd Birthday to my sister, Alberta today. Happy 47th Birthday to my daughter Dianna tomorrow the 18th.  XOXOXO



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-09-09

 

RAIN RAIN GO AWAY

 

“Oh what a beautiful morning” I felt like singing when nite darkness turned into dawn light. As the day lightens I actually could see SUNSHINE. After a week or more of rain here in Indy it was beautiful to behold sunshine again. I wondered if we might need to build an Ark with all the flooding going on in Indiana. The days have been depressing with the chill in the air, the rain nonstop and no end in sight. I am sure rain in many ways can be a blessing from God. The farmers pray for rain when their crops are dying from drought, I even prayed for rain while living in Michigan for my flowerbeds so I wouldn’t have to water the all too many for one yard I had to care for. Speaking of Michigan this month in 1996 I return to Indy to live, I recall driving with the beautiful color of the leaves and all their beauty. As I came upon a valley I noticed the cars were stopped along the side of the road. Unusual for Interstate 69, but as I neared I looked to the left only to find a double set of rainbows upon the tops of the trees. A double with all the brilliant colors would surely have a pot of gold at the bottoms of them. The beauty God creates for us when it is a surprise is something we have to take time to notice and enjoy. Many from the cars were stopping taking pictures of the sight in view. So many unexpected gifts from God are only passing moments ---too often unnoticed in our busy lives.

 

This month also is the anniversary of my Mom’s Thoughts, wow, 7 years of them, I am writing 334. So many to write about life and its adventures. I was honored this month in our Crestwood Chronicle Paper, which goes out to all 4 Crestwood Village Residents once a month. They spotted me for the Moms’ Thoughts and my web page, and also the Walking Club.  One resident commented I was a celebrity, as I responded “No, only a Mother trying to stay in touch with her children by way of the Internet.” I did appreciate the compliment, certainly humbled me with the honor.

 

Had to cancel 2 walking trips this month due to rain down pours. Have to say my seniors showed up to “walk a mile” with umbrellas. I am so proud of their dedication to exercising routinely to stay healthy. Most were first in line on Thursday to get their flu shots. We had well over 100 residents take advantage of the Health Fair even with raindrops coming down. Hope all you folks are planning to get the regular flu shots and the Swine flu shot when it becomes available. A little precaution sure is wise to keep you healthy. Till next week, hope no raindrops fall on your parades. Sending love to all my loved ones and faithful friends. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: a good exercise for the heart is to bend down and help another up.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-03-09

 

JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS

 

This week’s topic is one I hate to say I’ve been often guilty of over the years. I’ve always liked to study folks especially in a shopping mall full of people. But I quickly found my self-creating their life story before even saying hello or talking to them. The old expression “You can’t judge a book by the cover” is often true. My first impressions often shortchanges others, who at first I don’t find interesting or friend material. Then after a few words of exchange I find them warm, compassionate and one you could trust as a friend. Again, totally wrong on my first conclusion.

 

I have even tried to go by my “Guts Feelings” only to be proven it can be wrong. As a child growing up I was many times considered stuck up by others, the quietness was a cover for a shy person instead. Now I have been told ole talkative Jan could never had been shy. Guess I can say Meijer’s and working as a Greeter at their store taught me to overcome any shyness I had. My job was to greet each and every person coming into the store by me. Has one man say don’t you get tired of saying hello to strangers. Well guess not it has continued here at Crestwood Village South, where friendliness is contagious.

 

My guidepost this week daily message was: When you’re forming your opinions, Do it carefully-go slow; Hasty Judgments oft are followed by regretting---that I know.

 

Jumping to Conclusions can be costly—I’ve almost lost valuable friendships over my life and all due to miss understandings or believing untruths. Too Too often I open mouth and insert both feet. I hope God will keep working out my faults starting with me listening first and speaking second. If I am not the only one out there with the problem, I hope he will keep working on you too,

 

My time will return somewhat to my own again. Connie has been taught just about all I know. She might have an occasional question come up. I am available. Wishing her the best as the new Manager of #3 and hope it becomes enjoyable to her. Serving others can be hard, but it also is so rewarding. Next week is my 7th year anniversary of writing Mom's Thoughts. Send my love to all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools.

(Ecclesiastes 7:9)


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 09-26-09

 

Fall in the air

 

The end of September is leaving me to wonder where did the summer go?   Hard to believe it is fall and time for the leaves to start changing. As always my days zoom by and stay full, sometimes too full! This month here at Crestwood was full of fun activities for the residents. I’m always so blessed to watch the enjoyment, smiles, and laughter of the seniors here. Makes all the hard work and time spent worthwhile. We had a Western social with Country & western 5-girl band, felt like I had been dropped into a western movie of days gone past, saloon atmosphere, and all. Even the Sheriff badge I wore didn’t keep me out of the jail. Found myself looking between the bars, close as I care to get to a real jail.

 

Yesterday we had our wonderful Ole” Fashion Days for the year, horse and carriage rides around the campus, folks dressing up for pics of ole black and white days, again musical group playing, and beautiful fall mums for sale. The weather was crisp air but sunny for the event.

 

Only one event was a sad happening, Pat’s retirement party caught us all with feeling the loss of a wonderful Manager here for 13 years. Residents turned out for cake and punch to wish her well, a crowd of 95. I was happy that she felt the love from us all, she said it was a lovely party with all of us teary-eyed. She started her retirement with 2 weeks in Florida, hope the sun shines on her and she gets the rest she needs with her family.

 

Our new Manager Connie is moving along with her training and became a resident also this weekend with her move in. I have one more full week of training then I may reduce my hours to the part time sub manager I like, it gives me more time with family. During this month our Scott Family started with a wonderful cookout 16 members all attended on Labor Day. Had fun getting all of us on Dianna and Don’s front porch for the family pictures. I, being the oldest and little Roxy being the youngest, brought tears to my eyes that my hubby couldn’t have been with the family he and I started. I am sure he would be proud of each and every one as his own. My busy schedule has kept me from the new kids, but the pictures they send on the computer keep me up to date with the wee ones.

 

Our trees haven’t really started into changing of colors, but the air is cooler and crisper. Good time to sit on the balcony and watch the silly squirrel we have burying white patio stones in the ground. Haha…wait till he tries to crack that white nut. Residents keep adding stones and he keeps burying preparing for winter like God made him to do. He thinks he has found a gold mine.

 

Stay in God’s care everyone. Don’t forget to thank him for your many blessings. Till next time, I love you all, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

When you wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and smile, It will make your day a little brighter. God loves you and so do I.
 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 9-15-09

 

THANKS TO ALL TEACHERS

 

I am running behind this week with getting Mom’s Thoughts out, sorry but this ole gal has been to tired to do much of anything when evening comes. The last two weeks has been spent on getting ready for our new manager here in Building #3 at Crestwood. Our loved by all Pat has retired after 13 years of service to the residents here as manager. She will remain working as a sub manager when she returns from her vacation to Florida. Her one request was for me to straighten the files out and help the new manager get situations in the transitions. So, I am planning a retirement party for Pat on the Friday afternoon where all the managers, our residents can attend and wish her well plus say thanks. She truly has been one that has taught me all I know about being a manager and how to do the socials we have here. She has been a mentor to me and will be missed though she remains in our building as her home.

 

Along with the teaching and training of the new lady Connie, I have been exhausted at the end of the day. It made me think about all the wonderful teachers we have teaching our young folks, college professors, and all teachers of any business organizations. They most certainly earn their salaries and more. It certainly taxes the ole brain to do teaching 8 hours a day; most of the teachers I know are truly dedicated to their profession.

 

I always thought when you kids were growing up over the years that you surely asked too many questions. I answered many “why’s” as all parents do. I now have questions from the residents, plus Connie. I believe in asking questions, don’t get me wrong, it is the best way to learn. I once had a boss that when I asked questions she would reply, “you don’t need to know that.” Didn’t take me long to know she was in fear I would know as much as her and take her job. I didn’t go for it, but I have always thought I needed to know how my job fit in to the wheel of the company I worked for.

 

So one more week of training and teaching all I know and this little ole lady is hoping to returning to a slower pace life, and doing what I want to do, which is seeing family, getting hugs from my great grandkids, and even get back to doing my Mom’s Thoughts on time, reading, and crocheting. So my hats off to all the Teachers out there, Roxanna I know you love teaching your high school kids Algebra and they are so fortunate to have you. You also taught my brother Vern about living a happy life full of love. We are blessed to have you in our family.

 

All for this week.  Thank everyone who is teaching in your life. See ya next week.
Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Sometimes you learn more from listening instead of talking non-stop for others to listen to you.



Mom's Thoughts for the Week of 9-5-09

 

IN LAWS

 

I was so pleased this week to receive a great report regarding my sister’s (Alberta to me, Aunt Judy to you kids) trip to Wisconsin over last week of August. She had the opportunity to attend a wedding from Uncle Bob’s side of the family, the Boda’s. She had debate whether to attend and the cost involved of hotel, food, and gas of trip. Of course I gave her a large shove and said, “Of course go and enjoy.” She has only seen those folks a few times since Uncle Bob died, and being her health is so much better now after her painful session with Rheumatoid Arthritis.

 

There is so many jokes or negative reports of “In laws” and how they can make your life miserable. I so disagree for I count my relationship with the Lee Family as a true blessing; they were like a second family to me when I married. They helped in my growing up, supported me with the raising of you children. When Dad passed they grieved with me and gave me support I need to get through the loss of one we all loved. They have continued to include me in their lives as “Family.” I think that is the way it should be and those of us who have that relationship feel deeply the blessing of their love.

 

So, my sister too was blessed with the Boda Family. Uncle Bob may be missing but his love still lives in all the relatives that attended the wedding. Aunt Judy said she was so at home with fun, laughter, memories of days past and present. The wedding was beautiful in spite of the showers of raindrops on the outside event. I still chuckle when I visualize 500 guests under umbrellas. What a great picture that sight will make and so colorful. Sis and I sure laughed with her reliving the events on the phone. Thanks too Rob for care giving my sister on the trip, he has become a great nurse and sees to her care 24/7, son’s make great chaperones.

 

With Labor Day coming up it will be one more chance to gather families together. Family is so important, don’t let pettiness, or anger cause a negative situation to occur. In-laws or Out-laws - we are all God’s family. I am looking forward to hugging those precious great grand babies of mine, Layla, Audrey, and Roxy on our Labor Day outing. So, make memories of laughter, fun, and most of all love. Will see you all next week, Love, MOM

 

TIP OF THE Week: In matters of style, swim with the current; In matters of principle, stand like a rock.   –Thomas Jefferson



MOM’S THOUGHTS FOR THE WEEK OF 08-29-09

 

THE PANIC BUTTON

 

Have you ever had a moment when you absolutely come un-glued, panic and almost become unable to do anything but sit in shock? Well I finally had just that moment. For years I’ve programmed my self to keep my debit card, my driver’s licenses, and library card in my change purse with my money for easy accessibility. Never letting all get far from my body when I am out and about. It was my way of not having to carry a big purse all the time. It has worked well and was a solution to over the years of seeing my kids-stuff their money into a jean pocket or jacket pocket loose and just waiting to fall to the floor when they removed something from their pocket. Sure I preached about safety and being more organized with their money, did it work----they still do it! I would rant and rave “Don’t you want to know where your money is and have it safe in a wallet?” Even found it in the pocket when it went thru the laundry!

 

Well, here I stand at Joann’s with my new silk flowers in hand (75% off a good deal). I reached in my pocket for my change purse and started to pull my debit card out, I looked and looked NO debit card. First stage of shock set in, that debit card has become my best-est friend since the day I was freed from writing checks for everything, well surprise it was not there. I told the clerk I must have left it at home and paid my debt with cash. the walk to the car, my panic button got pushed. Oh my Lord, who could have taken it, who, when & how---my mind shifted into gears----when was the last time you used it and where were you? Have you ever drawn a total blank? well I sure did, wasn’t even sure where I was other than in the car! I drove home praying like crazy “Please let it be in my purse at home!” The drive home had my mind racing, if some one had it they could clean out my account and more, panic----I was thankful my other cards were there but still I was unglued. I sat in the car in our parking lot and retraced in my mind yesterday. (Well that wasn’t easy---sometimes I can’t remember what I ate last). It finally came to me I had picked up medicine at lunch time was the only time I used the debit card recently. Out came the cell phone calling CVS pharmacy and “No, I’m sorry we don’t have your card!” I recalled when I went thru the drive thru so maybe I lost it in the car or was it in the garbage bag at home with the prescription bag I threw away? Again another panic button got hit! I reached my hand down between the seat and the door and “God is so Good”! there was the debit card. I must have dropped off my lap when I reached to give the clip board back in the transaction.

 

I only recall one other time I went into the panic mode, it was years ago I loaded my groceries in the car and left my purse in the grocery cart and drove off. I was blessed again----an honest cart boy turned it into Meijers customer service and all was safe and sound. The $5 tip I gave him sure didn’t feel like enough, but it was all I had to give. I am sure I am not the only one that can relate to my predicament. Especially women with purses. Identity loss is on the TV all the time. Someone being cleaned out of bank accounts or charge cards being maxed out with stolen cards. We humans so easily go thru our daily routines only half aware of our surroundings and others in it. I do hope I have learned and this is a wake up call and learning once again a hard lesson, it can happen anytime. I am grateful not to have bad happenings all the time.

 

Take care all and remember I love ya very much, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Keep your ideals high enough to inspire you and low enough to encourage you.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 8-21-09

 

 MUSIC TO MY SOUL

 

This week as I passed the laundry room headed to Church on Sunday, I was surprised to hear a male voice singing Hymns while folding clothes. I have always loved to hear a deep-rich male voice sing hymns; it does something wonderful to my soul as well as my ears. 

 

I use to have a member of our church sitting behind me on Sunday. I told him he was a true blessing to my soul when he sang. I wanted to be still and just listen to him sing. Most men don’t do it quietly or mellow, it is usually deep from their mid-section. This gentleman is still at church but now being a blessing to others. Sure hope they appreciate him like I did. 

 

Makes me think of a dear friend, Hershell, he passed in the fire we had in building #6 three years ago. I often would pass his apartment down the hall from me, and would hear him singing “Amazing Grace” or “How Great thou art” in his rich baritone voice. Hershell was one of those country southern Gentlemen who’s faith showed in his actions and how he treated others. He loved parties or socials here at Crestwood and often would put on a hula skirt for our luau’s. Brings a smile to my face to think of him. I hope he is able to sing richly in heaven with joy in his soul. 

 

I guess I’m sharing “one of my favorite things” as I think of my liking tenors, baritones, and trio’s singing our ole hymns. We always love it when our pastor Shan at GCC treats us with his voice, Shan can never sing enough for us. He once agreed that they must sing “Southern Gospel” in heaven. Lois and I both agree we’ll have lots of singing in heaven. “Bring unto our Lord a joyful sound.” Maybe all should start practicing more now. Most folks I have noticed that sing or hum as they go thru their day are usually happier folks to be around.  

 

My week ended with a treat from Lois. She and I attended a concert of the “Greater Vision” group last nite with friends. Lois said she had waited all her life to see them and she was treating for the tickets. They were fantastic, talk about deep, rich male voices. They sang and entertained for over 2 hours, along with another trio. We certainly left with a glow and easily said, “It is well with my soul.” Thank you Lois for the treat. I will escort you any time. Have a great week everyone. Love Always, Mom

  

TIP OF THE WEEK:

 

Somebody has said there are only two kinds of people in the world. Those you wake up saying “Good Morning Lord,” and those who wake up saying “Good Lord, it is morning.”

 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 8-13-09       Click pix to enlarge

 

DOUBLE BLESSED

 

What would get me back to this ole computer finally but God’s blessings coming fast and furious to my world. Yesterday I once again was blessed to add a new wee one to the Scott Family Tree. Roxannah Noele Brown was born at 9:51 AM on August 12, 2009. She weighed 7 lbs. 12.6 ozs. and is 21 inches long. Healthy little girl with that black hair galore, a miniature Tori, as I compared baby pics today. Mother Tori and Dad Ryan are doing well following the c-section of the birth. Ryan so bravely watched his 2nd time has video if you might be interested. My stomach couldn’t take it even when it is such a wonderful event. Needless to say Layla Belle is wearing the Big Sister label proudly. As with Layla’s birth all the Nana’s showed, Papa Dude (Carl), Papa Guy, Mamma Pam, Mamma Debbie and all the love showed as we all beamed. God has so blessed us with Layla Belle for the last 3 ½ years as one of his miracles, and now he has blessed this family once again. Congratulation’s to the Brown Family stay blessed.

 

As if I wasn’t floating on cloud nine and staying teary eyed, I received a message from Dianna when I called to apologize for crying on my voice mail to her about the baby. They received a message in the mail with a card with Audrey’s picture on it, her shirt stating “I’m gona be a big sister”. Now I have heard of making announcements of one being pregnant but not that unique way before. Scott, Dianna son, and Brittani had Audrey April 19th of 2008 and broke a long chain of boys for the O’Brien family. She has added happiness and love to us all. Now we are going to try and go back to a boy baby to complete their family next April. So Congratulation to the O’Briens and the Garvin’s for another blessed event to look forward too.

 

Babies sure make us all smile with happiness. To add such precious ones to each generation to carry on our family tree is wonderful for me. I am sure Papa Russ is smiling from heaven as much as I am. It is good to be back at the keyboard after being off a couple of months. I was in bad need of a break, enjoyed my time with my sister Alberta, and otherwise worked some, read quite a few books so it is time for me to get a going. Hope all has had a great summer and ready for the beauty of fall. Miss hearing from you all. God bless, may you be smiling too. Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: If things are tough, remember that every flower that ever bloomed had to go through a whole lot of dirt to get there, author, Barbara Johnson

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 06-18-09

 

SUMMER TIME OFF

 

It dawned on me I didn’t get my March Vacation this year, due to Alberta and I didn’t go south to Georgia. It has been a hectic year for both of us. Seems we have had one thing after another. Both of us are doing well now putting one foot in front of the other. Most of all taking one day at a time. I have decided to take some time off on my Mom’s Thoughts and get some R & R for a few weeks. Before that I want to up date my going ons:

 

Last weekend we celebrated Flag Day with all our seniors here at Crestwood, had a wonderful parade of Veterans upon a float, walkers and electric carts decorated in red, white and blue. Our Walking Club participated as well as others on and in cars, Motorcycles, residents dressed as Uncle Sam, Betsy Ross, and our own manager Pat dressed in a beautiful red, white and blue gown full of stars. Well you have heard of “Don’t rain on my parade” well it did and many of us were drowned and soaked to the bone. The spirit got us thru and all enjoyed the strawberry shortcake served afterwards. Flag Day is always so special to me, my dear step Mom Esther was born on Flag Day, plus my first granddaughter Tori was born and named Catherine after Grama Esther. They shared many birthdays together, Tori was 24 years old this year and dear Grama would have been 94. My kids often tease me about my “would have beens.”

 

Tori has finally received a due date for Layla’s baby sister, August 14th. Couldn’t make it on her Grama’s birthday on August 2nd, but we are hoping for a healthy baby girl and we will all be happy. The ultrasounds show a beautiful healthy baby. Layla is doing well at 3 ½ but has acquired Asthma, due to a leak in her bedroom closet wall-causing mold. It is repaired now and hopefully she won’t have another attack. She is that active talkative 3 years old as a normal child, even with her hard beginning in life. Audrey my second great grandbaby is doing super too, last time I saw her head was full of curls and she is walking like a pro at 1 ½.  Three beautiful Great grand babies, I am truly blessed.

 

Guess you all wonder how I am doing with my new teeth; they still feel like someone else’s. I have been determined and have left them in my mouth daily but so relieved when bedtime comes. I would never have know you have to learn to talk all over again, you have to learn what to do with your tongue because it is so active with all this strange things to explore, and learn not to spit on others that stand close to you. The rinsing is 4 times a day with salted water, which takes time taking them in  and out; I am still on Jell-O, puddings, soups, and ice cream. Did tackle some pancakes yesterday and did okay. NO STEAKS in the near future. I have had lots of compliments on the looks of these choppers and feel I had a great dentist and very little pain with it all but still am missing mine.

 

Lastly, I hope all enjoy Fathers Day coming up this weekend. My children have missed having their Dad and Grandpas for so many years, but I know the replacements they have found with spouses or friends have given them ones to love here and now. I am thankful for my son, my son in laws and the love and guidance they have given their children and grandchildren. I look forward to Fathers Day in our new sanctuary at church with our Pastor Shan sharing the sermon with his son Pastor Dan who is visiting. God is so good to us, if we just open our hearts to him in our life.

 

All take care; I will see you again in a few weeks. I am looking forward to my visit with my sister over the 4th of July in Michigan. Love always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:     Take time to smell the roses, winter comes all to soon.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 06-09-09 

 

MOM'S CHOPPERS 

 

OK, I looked away, covered my eyes and someone put someone else’s teeth in my mouth. They looked like mine when the dentist handed me the mirror but they felt like an oversized mouth full. Grateful they didn’t look like big horse teeth. Alberta said she remembers when our Grandma Thornton got her new set of choppers they came from the catalog. Back then you received the gunk in the mail to take the impressions and returned them my mail. No dentists to deal with don’t know that Sears still offers this service or not. Can’t even imagine, you had to adjust them your self if they didn’t fit, you took a file and worked them over till they fit your mouth. Better than being all gums. The second nite I took mine out and damn if I didn’t look like Grama’s mouth, toothless and sunk in lips.

 

I am now on day #5 after having the last 2 eyeteeth and 3 crowns removed last Thursday. Then plunk I had teeth in my mouth and sent home with Ibuprofen 800 mgs. with the directions of “Leave then in your mouth over nite and just spit, tomorrow morning start warm salt water rinses after you remove them 4 times a day”, scheduling all this in is something else. Things have gone fairly well but not knowing where all this spit comes from, after radiation I had dry mouth and no spit. I know the pain I am having as the stitches rub the plate s will change as I heal but to feel normal is far into the future. Jell-O’s, pudding, soups, and ice cream sure don’t make for a great diet to a gal that loves 3 square meals a day.

 

I am not the last to have the false teeth experience. I recall Uncle Vern having all his teeth pulled, the dentures put in, and the same day drove to Harrisville Michigan about 9 hours. Why, cause he promised to build an addition on to Alberta’s house. He would work awhile, head to the bathroom--- take them out rinse them off put them back and resume working. Yep, my family has always been tough and leaves hard steps for me to follow. Not too much gets us down. So minute-by-minute I repeat this too shall pass, Hang in there! Bite the old bullet and go on about your business.

 

I am so grateful to have this behind me and I am sure my health will be better for it. I was thinking no fillings or decay to deal with and then remember I only got a partial on the bottom, 9 teeth are still mine. I will take care of them for sure; don’t want anymore dentist trips any time soon. All for this week, all take care and remember I love you all,
Always, Mom 

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Words of advice, take care of your teeth for when they are gone there’s no gluing them back.

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 05-27-09

 

Catch up on Jan

 

Late one more time. The month of May surely has put me behind, especially with the computer time. I am sorry to be so far behind on answering emails. It is wonderful to have such great friends that understand when I get too busy for my own good. My horoscope says, “Sagittarius are fun loving, quick problems solvers, honest, shows great loyalty to their friends”. So please all remember these words and know I love you all, just peddling too fast to stop and write or email.

 

With all that said, May had many activities for me to get involved with Mothers Day, Memorial Day, 500 race here in Indy, walking club each week and an outing last week and we finished it off with a Chicken Dinner for 200 under the tent here at Crestwood. They named it ‘Living Life to the Fullest”, and that is just what we do, we all love the fun and laughter from all the seniors as they gather.

 

Up date on my sister, Alberta, she is doing better with the rheumatoid arthritis but still dealing with the pain. Doctors had her on prednisone and we all know the side effects from that are hard to deal with. I am anxious for the 4th of July weekend, Pam, Layla and I will spend 5 days with Alberta. I love the effects of Lake Huron on me and the chance to see my sister, but the thought of 7 ½ hours with a 3 year old in a car, hmmmmm, I asked Pam can we travel at nite so she will sleep. Nay, I can’t take that, so say your prayers all for me, and sure need a safe and sound trip.

 

The long process of extracting teeth will end this Thursday the 4th of June. Last two that holds my old bridge will be removed and new shiny pearls false teeth will be replacing them plus a partial lower plate. With the cost of these teeth I am insisting the kids at my death have a smile put on my face as my friends and neighbors last see me. That along with my other request of a casket full of gardenias is all I ask, of course Dianna said “gardenias are expensive Mom would you settle for potpourri?”

 

Miss Lois is busy too with her family in from Arizona, daughter in law, Connie, Becky, a granddaughter and her two children. Lois at 94 is amazing to spend time with all and be on the go, but she is so happy to have the visits. Precious family time and memories.

 

Summer months are so full of cookouts, family get-togethers, poolside relaxing; the days hurry by so fast. I hope all are enjoying your special times and the weather is sunny at your home too. All too quick the winter months will return and we will be curled up with a good book or days full of television. So make hay while the sunshine. I love you all, I promise personal individual emails soon. SO keep yours coming. Love always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

 

It may be your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

 MOMS  THOUGHTS FOR THE WEEK OF 5-23-09

 

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN START YOUR ENGINES! 

 

Here we are in Indy and today the weather is beautiful. Tomorrow is the 500 Race and as usual rain is predicted. The month of May has been rainy as usual but seems to come along when they are trying so hard to qualify and run that 500 race. From the looks of the crowds out at the track, they will have one more successful run regardless of the weathers cooperation. Of course it would not be the 500 without Jim Nabors sing the loved “Back Home in Indiana” on Sunday. News says he even comes from his home in Hawaii just for the 500, only having missed one year due to illness. Can’t imagine leaving Hawaii for a race, but that’s okay.

 

So when they say over the mike “Gentlemen and Ladies start your engines” once again sports fans from all over the world will be happy. Surprisingly they don’t cancel church for it, but folks make mad dashes home afterward or go to their favorite eating places with big televisions or radios. The Greatest Spectacular in Racing the 500 mile race, so sports fan enjoy the weekend.

 

I hope all out there have family outings at the park or under a shelter if rain comes during the next few days. I last heard Don and Diana were cooking Coney dogs on the grill on Monday, so I look forward to being together with all my family once again.

 

Remember on Memorial Days the sacrifice all have made for this country in past years and even now while they protect and keep us safe and out of harms way.

 

Till next week, I love you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Striving for success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven’t planted.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 5-16-09

 

Another World

 

I have often thought of stopping the world and getting off. Well, this week I must have done it without knowing it. All of a sudden here it is Monday and I didn’t get Mom’s Thoughts written much less mailed out’ Sorry but I got myself in another world.

 

Recently Miss Lois (as Tom calls her) and I found the computerized world of the public library at our disposal. Lois has been an avid reader of Christian novels for years. She inhales them, reading in quick time. Her only worry has been she might run out of books that she hasn’t read. We have been limited to the Book Rack, used bookstore for ones we could afford and most of the times they didn’t have new ones by authors she liked. So we discovered the use of the Internet to order books listed in alphabetical order in her have read and hasn’t read listings. So this past week I found us with two pickups of books we requested totaled 10. Sudden the realization of “I think we are addicted.” Both Lois and I decided maybe we ought to slow down on requesting books. The library works too swift and obtains them from the county overnight.

 

While reading I found I had awaken the young girl in me, memories of grade school where I loved reading and getting into novels creating another world of interest for me. Little Women, Abigail Adams, Books on Pioneer young girls, and all took me away to a fantasy world. That desire to pick up a book find a quiet corner to get in soon finds you completely unaware of this world and the time passing. It is an entertainment that can draw you into an addiction very quick, especially if you find your self in a series of 5 or 6 books continuation. Rusty is the only child I have that always has a book in his hand. Wasn’t that way in school but a habit I am glad to see he acquired the habit.

 

I don’t think I’ve discovered a bad thing but it must be balanced with some other things in my life. I still have the Walking Club, had a Red Hat Tea Party I attended, never seen so many teapots in my life or different teas to taste, hot and cold, I fitted in 2 appointments for dentures impressions, and that is another world to talk about, and this week have a monthly birthday party and monthly dinner for our building residents. I am 3 Afghans behind because I turned the TV off to read my books. Okay, time to talk balance to my life again.

 

I am sure there is “Book Worms” out there that know where I am coming from. It is a wonderful world to get into and so relaxing unless it’s a good mystery that you hang on the edge of your chair and jump when you hear a noise close by. So, when was the last time you read a good book, try it you will like it. Everyone have a great week, I will try to get back on track. I love you all, Always, Mom

   

TIP OF THE WEEK: 

You can’t tell a book by its cover, you have to look inside and that applies to people too.

 


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 5/09/09

 

"HOW-TO" DO BOOKS

 

 

When I lived in Michigan I bought a Readers Digest “How to do” home repairs. I used it quite successfully while having my little gray house on Pine Street. Ended up giving it up when I gave the house up. The knowledge I learned is still there though.

 

When I look back to then with all that has happen since I returned to Indy, I realize I was being divinely led at that time. I moved in across the hall from Lois Pratt  here at Crestwood, she quickly became my proxy Mom. Thru the years this lady of 94 years of age, has shown me a new “How to do book” one of how to live my life. The book being the Bible, I never thought of the Bible being a guide to how to live life, my faith back then made me aware of right from wrong taught by my parents, and I knew the 10 commandments but connect that directly to me I didn’t. The bible looked confusing to me a different language than one I understood. Soon after meeting Lois I became aware of her devotion to her bible and the word.

 

I soon realized the Bible had instructions for living, planning, releasing worries, I became amazed that it fit in with our NOW world and not just biblical folks of long ago.  As we were taught in school as children we learned a little at a time new ways, new beliefs. I soon learnt I had a friend I could talk to 24/7, one that is so much more than just a Sunday request time with our Lord. How often I’ve heard a sermon and think I need to make changes in my life, only to go home and fall back to the ole’ routine. It takes practice to lean on Jesus as the daily one there to help us when called on. Again, I often forget to ask for help, so I am still growing in faith.

 

When I think of the ways Lois has helped me change my life, I see she has me reading once more, Christian books that too tell of Life’s problems and ways to solve them. Thank you Lois for sharing  and witnessing to me over the last 8 years, my Mother would to say thank you for helping me to a better life.

 

This week end is Mothers Day, so many Mothers out there on my emailing list, have a Happy Mothers Day. As Lee said to me, that having children is the greatest accomplishment in our lives. May you realize the importance of your children in your lives.   Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Yesterday as I headed to the grocery store pulling out of Crestwood I noticed a Mother Canadian Goose headed to cross Madison Street at 5 PM busiest time of the day, behind her was 8 baby geese in straight formation, and the Daddy Canadian Goose was bringing up the rear. The cars stopped as traffic halted to see the sight in front of them, the babies had there eyes on the mother if she moved they moved, such wee ones to have that instinct in them. Pray tell what happen to our children, that we couldn’t have them so disciplined. Haha! I did learn that must be where having your “Ducks in a row came from”. Till next week be blessed.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of  05-02-09

 

Hello out there, I am sharing and cheating a little bit this week. I loved this Mountain Wings Thought and I am borrowing it. This week has been busy with working in the office, having the final tooth pulled, 2 walking club outings and resting when I can. I am beginning to think I need to do something on the subject of workaholics. Yea, I know I recognize me in that. Till next week. Enjoy this Moment with Mountain Wings. Always, Mom

 

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MountainWings      
A MountainWings Moment #1085         
Wings Over The Mountains of Life
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Nods and Shakes
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Have you ever wondered where the universal gesture of nodding
your head up and down to mean "Yes" and shaking it from side to
side to mean "No" came from?

No matter what language you speak, country you travel to,
religion you practice, race you claim, your social status,
educational achievement, or economic status, you will likely nod
or shake your head to mean "Yes" or "No".

Why?

The theory illustrates how early habits are formed and that some
things are intrinsic to all humans.

Watch a newborn baby.

Watch the baby when it's hungry.

As the baby seeks its mother's breast, the head nods up and down
searching for the source of nourishment.

When baby finds the breast, it latches on and fills up.

The action calms the baby and calms the mother.

Ask any woman who has breast-fed a baby.

There is little else more soothing for them both.

Look at the same baby after it's full and the mother tries to
push the breast into the baby's face.

The baby shakes it's head from side to side telling mama that it's
full and doesn't want any more milk or comfort from the breast.

The baby doesn't want any milk or comfort, and it won't give mama any comfort.

That's one theory of where nodding and shaking came from.

Interesting isn't it?

Notice another thing.

Nod and you have a tendency to smile.

Shake your head and you have a tendency to frown.

Try it now and see.



Warmth and comfort given in pure love always brings a smile.

Refusing warmth and comfort given in love always brings a frown sooner or later.

The next time you nod or shake. . .

Think about that.

It gives the milk of human kindness a whole new meaning.


~A Mountain Wings Original~



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-25-09

 

SPRING & JUST A SWINGING

 

Ahhh the wonderful time of the year, everything turning green, the trees, the grass, the flowers coming out with color after all the rain April has brought us, and the wonderful 84 degrees. I love the warmth in comparison to the winter cold. Guess my roots started in the south, though I am not one to go barefooted and don’t like the heat of 90s and 100s temps.                                                                                         

 

I have my chairs on the balcony but some how my thoughts got off to the wonderful swing I had on Ripple Road. Our home was made on the outside with fieldstone and it was two story’s, with 4 bedrooms and was built about 100 years prior to us buying it. It set on the acre of land, once owned all the Rocky Ripple acres and lots before they started separating them. Anyway, I fell in love with the house, though your Dad tried to talk me out of it from the start when we found out it was for sale. After a long time of insisting and telling him “I want it,” he knew there would be no rest for him till he bought it for me. This house had a large porch that wrapped around ½ of the house. Finally after so many other homes I had one that belong to have a porch swing on the front of it.

 

Coming from the south and my roots of Georgia, the memories of evenings sitting with kinfolks and listening to their stories came back so vividly. The adults always got the swings and us kids got the steps, or just the floor of the porch. It was fun listening to the adults, Grandma and Grandpa, Aunts and Uncles, Mom and Dad, who ever would always gather after dinner was done and the kitchen cleaned. Of course the topics was the olden days, who was sick or who the latest gossip was on, all watching as neighbors drove by and received a big howdy wave or horn toot. It may not sound like much now with all the busy lives we all lead and always rushing here and there. But I can’t help to think we outgrew something that was so special. Rarely see a swing on any porches, or even in the yard, folks don’t take the time with each other just to be together and visit like on the ole porch swing. I remember being so relaxed hearing the old porch swing squeak as it was rocked. Can’t help but wonder if it will come back to being popular again or just have to stay in our memory bank of days gone by. I wish all our love ones who have passed where here they would have that ole porch swing for sure.

 

Can’t believe this one is #319 for this week.

If you want to hear more about the ole fashion porch swings go to Mom’s Thoughts #128 written April 30, 2005. It is listed below in green. 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 04-30-05

 

The Ole’ Porch Swing

 

As I traveled south this year, I once again had memories of the Ole’ Porch Swing brought back to me. Seems everyone had a Porch Swing  (southern) or Glider (northern) to relax on and converse over the happenings of the day. In the evenings after dinner, they would be spent talking, staring off into space, thinking of nothing in particular, gliding, or swinging. There is something about the movement, the same as a Mother rocking a crying baby to sleep in a rocking chair, it is calming and relaxing. Soothes the soul.

 

I loved my childhood memories of the Ole’ Porch Swing. Somehow it was okay to sit with parents and grandparents and ask questions. Conversations have always been special for those that participate. How often do you see that happening in families of lately? Seems our world is so fast, never time to sit and do nothing, like it’s wrong or a sin to sit and be idle. I am one that needs relaxation, soft soothing music, quietness and prayer time with God. I now have a balcony, no porch swing, but the chairs are out on it, and I think it is heavenly to sit day or evening on it, listening to the birds (which I hear again with my hearing aids) and chill out.

 

I remember the Porch Swing I had on Ripple Road, had one in the yard on Pine Street, lots of good time to get in touch with my soul, talks with Big Nanny or my sisters and neighbors, fun with the grandkids, telling stories or swinging me too high with giggles. Little kids make life fun.

 

I read recently in an article by Gisella Zukausky: “Anytime you are not making an effort to think with your conscious mind, you are in your subconscious mind, a state of mental relaxation. That is what we call meditation, daydreaming or even hypnosis. People who take this time out are healthier, live longer and can better deal with everyday stresses. Have you been recharging your battery? Isn’t it time you do?

It is Spring-----the rains will be leaving and clear days are promised for next week----so get out on that porch furniture, and if you have an Ole’ Porch Swing --- consider yourself RICH. I love you all, have a great week. Always, Mom

 

Tip of the Week:  Relax; you are not responsible for everything in the universe. That’s still my job. Love, God

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks for coming along with me on memory lane, hope you too have some great memories of your childhood and swings. If I remember right I got lots of emails back then when I picked that topic.

 

Enjoy the spring, May is coming next week, and all us in Indy are getting ready for the month of 500 race and the wearing of black and white the whole month. Pray for me on Wednesday, I have one more tooth to come out. Love you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

“Life is like a coin, you may spend it anyway you wish, but you may only spend it once.”


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-19-09

 

The Dentist

 

My survey of folks this week has proven one thing, all either dread or hate the mention of seeing the dentist. As much as we hate to give in when we have to ailments to our bodies and see a doctor, we too have the same with making an appointment with the dentist. Nothing is worse than the anticipation of drilling, extracting, filling, or even the cleaning process for your teeth. Thru all we our imagination over does the process before and during the process, I have always kept my eyes open cause closed I visual the worse scenario.

 

Sixteen years ago I went thru 35 radiation treatments for my throat cancer. The doctor gave me 98% cure odds for 7 weeks. I am grateful to say I am still cancer free. However, the side effects have occurred, my stent surgery was due to scar tissue in my carotid arteries. The other side effects has been the deterioration of my teeth over the years, they have broken, fillings have fallen out, and they have had to be pulled, capped or crowned. The money in my mouth led me to comment to you children “when I am in the coffin, make sure I am smiling.” Haha.

 

This past Wednesday I had 5 back teeth pulled on the left side at one time. The dread and nervous prior to the visit was truly severe. I even thought about canceling my appointment but didn’t for what other option did I have do it or let them rot and fall out? Amazingly this new to me dentist was fantastic—when the Novocain wore off there was no pain and still 4 days later no pain. Wow, that doesn’t happen often. I have had some swelling and discomfort but no pain and no need for painkillers. My diet consists of pudding, soup, ice cream, and yogurt. Can’t believe I didn’t plan a big steak last Tuesday, too late now. Next week I go to have one more removed on the right side, then the process of healing for a couple months before getting those “uppers.” I still have teeth so I will be smiling; some folks do with out teeth up to a year, s o once again I ma blessed and appreciate the days I have been given the last 16 years.

 

Good Luck to you also Pam. She is doing the same a few out at a time, you will be fine. We’ve even been comparing notes on rising and eating recovery. Haha! Glad we both have been able to work.

 

This weekend our family shared another bunch of blessings. Our little Miss Audrey celebrated her FIRST birthday on Saturday with a big party full of balloons, monkeys, kids, and cake & ice cream. One adorable kid who just started walking alone last week. The second blessing was on Sunday the 19th; her Dad Scott was baptized at Church Services at Grace Baptist Church where Brittani and family have their membership. I am so proud that Scott realizes the need of faith and a relationship with Jesus to help him and Brittani to raise and care for his family. The pastor said he had one time getting that big young fell under for immersion, and then struggled to raise him back up. He was joking of course, though he was smaller in size than Scott. The baptism brought tears to my eyes Scott being my grandson. Congratulation Scott, may the rest of your life be as close to God as today was with your faith-growing daily.

 

Hope you all had sunshine in your world this week as we did.

Love, Mom

 

Tip of the week:                                                                                                           
People want the front of the bus

The back of the church and the center of attention.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-11-09

 

ETERNAL HOPE

 

This week, Holy Week, has been focused on our Lord on the cross of years ago and the meaning it has in my life. I am sure many of you have also thought of the suffering of our Lord as he carried the weight of the world sins, our sins on the cross. He took on all the possible sins one could do and commit in a lifetime for us. Certainly wasn’t for his sins for he had none to be forgiven for, he was only Love, and he represented it so well. What a gift of Grace for us to be eternally forgiven thru his love.

 

I believe the largest gift felt by me was the “Eternal Hope” given for my life. It replaced worry, distress, frustration, selfishness, and all feelings that live within my earthly body, most planted by the devil’s lies. I can remove these thoughts with “Eternal Hope” promised to me by the Lord and which lives in my soul. Daily I still have to remind myself of the verse, John 16:33, “In the world ye shall have tribulations: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.”

 

Happy Easter Everyone, I pray his Eternal Hope lives in your heart and soul. Enjoy the children’s Easter Egg Hunts—they are wonderful to see and the excitement of children gathering eggs with their baskets in hand. Children add to all holidays and make them fun for us. Blessings!    Love always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:   “Part of learning to count my blessings is accepting that many of them I would not have chosen if it had been left to me. I must first give any attempt to compare what was with what might have been. By accepting God as my Shepherd I must also accept the path he sets me upon—and the blessings from whatever circumstances of life.” from The Sacred Shore by Janette Oke and T. Davis Bunn.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-04-09

 

ONE DAY AT A TIME

 

Those words came across my daily message from Hazelden Foundation on April 1st. Thought at first it was a joke cause it was April Fool's Day, specially when it stated: “I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me all at one.” It brought out my humor for Yes, I have had days like that. Many at that, sometimes wondering how I can fit them all in one 24-hour day. Ever had a day, if it could go wrong it did and it all came together, your car have a flat tire and you don’t have time to stop and fix it, or maybe a friend calls and needs help when your schedule is already on overload, you have a big run in your panty hose as you walk out the door already late, or school calls and says your grandchild is sick and you need to pick them up from school. Thank heavens those days don’t come often but when they do we sometimes come un-glued.

 

We all handle our problems differently, the organization Hazelden sends out daily messages to NA (Narcotics Anonymous) and AA (Alcoholic Anonymous) to folks recovering from their addictions. All messages are positive and lessons in learning to lean on your “Higher Power” for solutions to daily living. I would guess the number of recovering with this help of 12 steps has to be in the millions or more by now. Many have been helped to regain their lives back and the respect of their families. Their lesson learns that when problems come addictive behavior is no solution; drinking or getting high helps no one. Pam has often told me at times my Mom’s thoughts sounds like the 12 steps program for living, I have had addictions to habits that weren’t good for me, like drinking, smoking, cussing, and even for a while chasing men, (not really, but I did look) HAHA. With God’s help I was able to recover from all, and learned to take it one day at a time. Facing God has control of my life and he only knows his plans.

 

When those crazy days happen with you, one just wants to stop the world and get off—can’t do---but you can take a deep breath, say a prayer for peace to come to your rescue. Too many times the things we get stressed out on are truly upon review unimportant in our lives. I have often cooled down only to take a look at what shook me up and laughed at my foolishness. You know if we could only take a lesson from children, ever noticed how much they laugh in one days time, we need to lighten up and do the same. I use to plan my days so full of things to do, upon rising a few phone calls would change my whole schedule, so now I just wait for those calls and usually my days are more fun than if I had planned minute by minute. I smile more that way.

 

So take it one day at a time, but when problems come to shake you up, do what you can and turn it over to that “Higher Power” that is in control of our lives, he can take them, solve them, with no stress.

 

Love ya all, always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

Give me a sense of humor, Lord.

Give me the grace to see a joke,

To get some humor out of life,

and Pass it on to other folks.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 3-28-09

 

ROLE CHANGES OF LIFE

 

As I sit here and watch out of the window of my world I have watched a Mother and a Son go thru a typical week. Lottie is a 89 year old resident, she declares daily “I’m going to live to be a 100 years old & I get up at 4 AM everyday”. She still goes on our bus every day to different places, bank, store, or just to ride. But what grabs my attention and heart is twice a week her son comes and picks her up on Hair Day and Church Day, I watch the interaction of her with her son. Lottie shuffles when she walks and some time uses a walker, but on these days she holds her son’s hand to walk the sidewalks. The picture of her shuffling slowly along her small frame that watches the side walk so as not to stubble, holding the hand of her son who’s over 6 foot and about 200 lbs, a grown man. I can picture in my mind in years pass that Lottie being the Mother in charge walking and holding the small hand of her son as they walked together, him feeling safe and sound and comfort from her.

 

God has blessed Lottie and her son with a beautiful relationship over the years of loving and leaning on one another. Time seems to transfer our needs through times of our lives. There’s a switching of roles as we age.   remember with my Mother (Big Nanny to you kids) it was a hard transition for me to become the Mother and her the child. The disease of Alzheimer’s caused this change in her senior years. Yet our relationship of Mother and Daughter knew this time would come when our roles would transfer. All seniors want to remain independent and able to care for oneself but sometimes our health changes things we can’t do, eyesight fails, bodies developed limitations from arthritis, past injuries etc. Does it make it easy to change roles, NO, all changes are hard but so necessary.

 

As I age I have already noticed changes of adapting and one day I may have to call on you children for my care, I know you will be there for me. My problem area will be letting you do them and letting go of my independence and learn to lean and depend on you children. I joking have said put me in the Masonic Home and bring me yarn once a week and I will crochet my life away. Of course there is more to it than that. I pray the Lord will help me to reach my hand out for you children’s hands, or the grandchildren’s hands. The generation changes as I think of Layla taking my hand the other day and saying, “Nana lets go,” with her eyes showing love and safety for her.

Lord allow me to be needy of their way of showing me love and caring for my needs. As parents we have been so blessed to have on loan these wee ones, we are blessed with the opportunity arises we can care for them in return for the love they showed us in childhood. Us Thornton kids to this day thank God for that privilege of caring in return to both of our parents.

 

We have Easter coming up in the month of April, late this year but still will be plenty of children with baskets out gathering those eggs which have been hid by loveones. Take time to attend church with your love ones, it really means a lot and don’t forget those magic words, “I love you!”

 

My love to you all, you are all so special, Always Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Life is like an elevator—it has its ups and downs ending up in the right place sooner or later.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 03-21-09

 

MARCH TIDBITS

 

Well, back in the groove here at Building #3 of Crestwood Village South. Too much to do to stay on the sick list long. I still have a couple of bruises on my face that haven’t faded, I’m sleeping better due to my arm is having less spasms at nite. A fall is one of the hardest things I have had to over, even tops surgeries and baby births. I am blessed it wasn’t a worse fall than it was. All I have left is getting the energy level back to normal. Maybe starting walking my mile a day will help that.

 

With spring coming in on the 20th of this week we had lots of lively socials going on for Crestwood. The wearing of the green on St. Pat’s Day made me the leprechaun making sure everyone attending had green on or they got pinched. Only found 3 men without green, one said his underwear was green, I said pass, and I will skip you! 3 out of 90 isn’t bad. I think the spirit of the 17th always makes everyone Irish. Following that, had one day to rest and we had our monthly dinner for 45 folks here in the building. From that the next day we went to Red Hat Society for the Ladies. We had a stand up lady comic for entertainment with the Red Hatters joining in telling Knock Knock Jokes. All had fun and laughter flowed easy. The final for the week socials was International Day, different countries were represented by the 7 buildings, with sample foods, costumes and pictures of the countries. There were 4 young ladies doing CLOGGING dressed in Irish outfits. That wore me out watching their energy in dancing for 39 minutes. Wow. Our building represented Greece with samples of feta cheese, pita chips and crackers and Hummus Pepper Dip. Pat dressed in a beautiful costume she made. I worked but didn’t dress for the country style.

 

The more social activities we have the more I notice the residents have retired from the work of the social activities is why they have so much fun. It’s wonderful to see the attendance and the smiles of enjoyments, even if it requires the staff of Crestwood to wait on them.

 

From the seniors I am switching to what keeps us going the most, grandchildren and great grandchildren that light up our worlds. My sweet Layla Belle is now 3 and is growing like crazy and loves to place dress up as Cinderella. She will have fun dressing her little sister when she arrives around August 19th. Yep, we are having another girl according to the ultra sound. Her name will be Roxannah Noelle Brown, and she is healthy and beautifully made by God already. Tori and Ryan had hoped for a boy as most Dad’s do, but are excited with having another girl. We all hope she is as sweet disposition as Layla. With my recovery from my fall I have missed seeing my second Great grandbaby Audrey, she is beautiful and  will be turning 1 year old on April 19th. Maybe when Grama Dianna & Papa Don return from Florida I will get to see Miss Audrey on Sunday afternoon or at her celebration party. She is a crawling from last I heard and will soon be walking here and there.

 

So there is the update from this end of the world, mine is looking good and hope you corner of the world is too. The feel of spring in the air will make anyone happier, robins in the yard, daffodils are blooming, and 70 degrees sunny weather is happening here in Indy.

 

All take care----smile God loves you and so do I. Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I was intended to be.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week 03-14-09

 

GEORGIA SPRING TRIP

 

Usually by this time of the year Alberta and I were already in Georgia enjoying their springtime. We both became able to travel on our annual trip the year after Uncle Bob passed away. We both were nervous about traveling  just the two of us, but we quickly forgot the fear when we realized we had an opportunity for us 4 siblings to spend time together each year. As with most families where you marry and get a family of our own you’re in for the long haul till they reach 18 or so and move out on their own. With time being devoted to our hubbies and children we were only together with siblings now and then when we could manage, seldom all 4 of us at one time. We always felt grateful when we could drive in one day to each others home, hadn’t always been that way due to Uncle Bob being in the Navy.

 

I think back to our trips to Georgia, the fun times us “sisters on the go” would have together. We’d head out the first of March to our sister Geraldine for the month. We had lots of time before the Thornton-Anderson Reunion later in the month. The fun was getting on the road to see places in Georgia where we lived in our childhood, see kinfolks cousins, Aunts and lot of family we had never met. We’d find ourselves laughing and giggling like the kids we used to be. The most fun was calling our brother Vern who was working and saying “ We are visiting with so and so, eat your heart out.” Vern always loved to get together with family. He was always so faithful about traveling to the reunion so we could all be together. We all four siblings always found time to visit Mother and Grama’s church and cemetery in Screven Ga. We’d place new silk flowers and clean up the winter trash from their area and whiten the marble around their graves.

 

Another highlight of the trip was visiting The Ritch Baptist Church, it was a treat for our souls. The wonderful hymns out of hymns books, the penny marches by the children with baskets to collect all those pennies from each in attendance. The warmth and love always came from the members when we visited, hand shakes and hugs freely flowing down there. Yes, I am missing that by not going this year. I had hoped to hear some of the tales on the “Sassy Johnston Girls”, who are members at Ritch, I know they have some good ones from their youth. The members of the Sunday School classes have kept me alive and well over the past year with praying and sending cards. I chose to fall sick in their church hall floor last year, ambulance run, and all. They have flattered me on my Moms thoughts weekly. Also Congratulations to them, The Ritch Baptist Church now have nice bright painted signs for travelers to see. Lords knows I complained enough about that when I visited. Praise the Lord for that painter and his skills. You have made our Lord and members smile!

 

I remember the long walks while in Georgia to keep me healthy. It was always time for the spring flowers to bloom. All growing wild everywhere you looked, azaleas, forsythias, and the gorgeous wisterias. Wow what a wonderful aroma in the air in abundance. My walks were always full of prayers of gratitude. They were peaceful, calming and made one forget the troubles of the world. We always knew when the roses started blooming it was time for us to head north just in time for our springs up there. I know my calendar says spring here in Indy begins March 20th, but I don’t believe the south can be topped for spring in the month of March with their beauty.

 

My heart is still so full of memories that my sister, brother and kinfolks who have passed and times we shared in Georgia. Alberta and I may try the train next March, we will wait and see. It stops in front of one of our cousins home. God willing and those creeks don’t rise!

 

Thanks for reminiscing with me. Have a great spring break everyone. Till next week, I love you all, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

You can learn a lot by just watching!



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 3-8-09

GREETINGS FROM THE HOUSEBOUND

 

Hello to everyone, this is a short note to let you know I am still recovering and I am determine to survive. I finally broke down and went to the Doctor yesterday, due to the Chiropractor has just about done all he can for me right now.

 

The doctor checked me out and said he too thought it is a bad sprain but lets get a x-ray to be on the safe side. The results were NORMAL, no breaks or damage done other than the sprain has created inflammation causing the pain. Pam said she was always told that a sprain is harder to treat than a break, I am beginning to believe that. So, I have found out many things while recovering:

 

1. I am blessed to not have to deal with a cast for 6 months or more, dealing with rougher changes in my life.

 

2. I have found out I can not take heavy drugs for the pain, Vicodin had me suffering from a hang-over till afternoon the next day. Darvocet made me keep my eyes closed all day and not sleeping. So, I am blessed I can't become a drug addict, or resort to alcohol, I will stay away from all.

 

3. I am blessed with all the friends who feed me, beautiful cards of well wishes, including one from Rona comparing me to a chameleon with my changing of the colors of my skin, great humor there my friend, also all the encouraging phone calls, my friends for driving me cause I am too woozy to drive myself. All of you, thank you so much.

 

4. I am blessed to have prayers going up for me to heal this ole body and soon.

 

Don't forget to change your clocks this Saturday nite "Spring Forward". 'Til next week hopefully I will be a little clearer head and write some good topics. I love you all, always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Formula for youth-keep your enthusiasm and forget your birthdays!



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 2-28-09

 

ENDURING PAIN

 

I am working on the second week since my fall in Pat’s office. My time in the apartment hibernating is starting to get to me. Been out only to go to the Doctor. I am now green, red and blue on my face, slowly it is fading. I am getting treatments twice a week of Electrode on my left arm. As he explains injury means spasms and pain. The treatments does help by heat vibrations and will break up the swelling caused when I tried to stop my fall. Guess we automatically try to stop a fall from happen and end up injuring ourselves worse than if we just roll with the fall and relax. The pain is like a throbbing toothache and is worse when trying to sleep at nite. So I am quite irritable after a week of sleep deprivation.

 

I have been fortunate to have minimum amount of pain in my life, never had a broken anything, lots of skinned knees, black eyes and temporary pain after surgeries. I realize there are lots of folks that live with pain 24/7. Those having fibromyalgia have excruciating pain in the whole body. Also the ones with rheumatoid arthritis. I surely feel true compassion for these folks and hope a medicine can be found soon for them to tolerate the pain.

 

When you children were small often you had to deal with pain in sickness. Like most mothers I always wished I could relieve you and take the pain myself. Of course we can’t do that, but it is so hard to see wee ones sick or hurting, especially when they can’t tell you what the matter is. I think of Rusty when he was 7 or 8 years old, I took him to the dentist for a routine dental visit only to find out the dentist said he had a infected abscessed tooth and had never complained nor knew he was hurting. We all have different pain levels; some can tolerate more pain than others. Rusty complained when he got a scrap or little scratch and wow could he yell.

 

The doctors always told me my pain level was high, when I complained it would be unbearable for most. I count my blessings that I have been mostly healthy over the 70 years with this ole body to live with. So I try to tell myself this pain shall pass in due time. There is a time to heal (Ecclesiastes 3.3). I just have to be patient, take my vitamins, eat right, and sleep when I can. Most of all I need to think before rushing into things while I am on my feet. Terrible when I can’t blame anyone but my self. Again lessons you learn the hard way.

 

Hope everyone out there is well and watching where you are going.

Hang in there spring is coming on March 20th and get ready on the 8th of March to spring forward your clocks. Love, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Don’t squat with your spurs on.



Mom’s thoughts for the week of 2-21-09

 

IN A SPLIT SECOND-----

 

In a split second my well-being was changed on this past Tuesday. I felt my shoe catch on the rug and I was falling toward the office computer and desk. In that split second I fell into the desk hitting my forehead and out went my left arm to try to catch myself as I went to my knees. I hit my forehead knocking my eyeglasses into a crush but thank God they did not break. I was at the mercy of angels once again to help me fall without harm. I laid there thinking, “ Now this was a dumb thing to do!” Overnight I developed one black eye, one huge lump on my forehead, skinned places on my forehead and nose. I asked Pat if my nose was straightened for I have carried a crooked nose since Vern and I were children, the baseball bat accidental hit me catching behind him. Year or two later I got him back, not on purpose but he ended up with the same crooked nose. Well anyway, No, it did not straighten it, if anything it is more crooked and then swelling. I am so blessed not to have broken anything in my crashing.

 

I have had other times when “In a split second” my world was changed and not always for the better. I remember hitting “black ice” on Interstate 69 and the vehicle hit a guardrail, which flipped the car head over heels at 50MPH. It caused a Pepsi bottle to fly to the windshield hit then bounced back and hit me in the forehead. Knocked me out cold, the hospital doctors were puzzled I was alive and had no broken bones. Guess the Pepsi was a good thing to hit for I relaxed and didn’t hit the windshield myself. I ended up with only one black eye and wore a neck collar for a few days to be on the safe side. Being I wasn’t killed, I realized God’s Plan was to have me around to care for Mother when no one else was available to, with her Alzheimer Disease for 9 years.

 

Things happen so fast as I said “In a split second” in many of our lives and different ways. We can lose loved ones just as quickly to death in an accident without warning. Those times are really hard when we don’t get the chance to say “Good Bye.” I relate that the most to losing my brother Vern in his accidental death. To have those times to go through are really hard times and I know with out God’s help I would never have made it. He gives us strength to stretch ourselves further than we think possible. I usually come through them stronger and one more step in growth as a person.

 

Here I am 4 days later, face is still black and blue on one eye with swelling, hurting in my arm and neck, but thanking God I am fine and nothing is broken. I went to Sears to have my eyeglasses straighten and the looks I got from others taught me once again another lesson. How many folks with birthmarks have had to live with the stares of others? Mine is only temporary, Again I am blessed-----

 

My Chiropractor has a sign in his office, It says “It is easier to stay well than to get well”. Amen to that! Everyone be careful for in a split second you may be faced with instant changes beyond your control.

 

God bless you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Some times just listening is the greatest act of love.


Mom’s thoughts for the week of 02-14-09

HAPPY VALENTINES' DAY 

Happy Valentines Day to all you sweethearts out there! This the time of the year all women want to be in love, have some one to show her with gifts, like candy, jewelry, and of course Red Roses by the dozens. I have to add there are almost as many men who want the special treatment too. We all like to be someone’s sweetheart! Dianna’s working especially hard this week to see all deliveries for McNamara Florist are on time and will put smiles on the receiver’s faces. The stores are full of red and white valentines and many gifts to choose from. Recession or no recession you guys, you better find a dollar or two to buy a gift for the one who stole you heart. 

I was married 26 years to a wonderful man, your Dad did always remember Valentines Day and cards for me, some candy, some jewelry and many times even strange gifts. Just every Lady would like a sewing machine, that was a good one, how about a vacuum cleaner, might need one but for Valentines Day? Also received a portable screwdriver with a tool belt. Yep, I needed that too! Even got a push mower one time! Needless to say your Dad was not the mushy mushy kind of man, not the real romantic lover or dream man we wait to come along. He was a good husband, friend, and a good provider for his family.  I got taken out on our Anniversary for steaks at Dodd’s House, taken out for breakfast and dinner on the days we had to work his last few years alive. So all in all I consider my self very fortunate to have a good man that loved me.

I had a treat from my son, Rusty one Mothers Day, a massage, pedicure, and manicure. I sure felt spoiled and very much loved. Yeah Rusty was a little better at picking gifts for a woman. Dad would have been proud or said you wasted that money, she could do all that for herself. Any ways, thanks Rusty I loved it.

I still dream of Russ, the one man of my life that loved me. I could hear his voice, feel his presences near me, then all too quick I would awake to find he is gone, and it is a dream. If only I could take him out of those dreams for a while and have some true time with him. I would let him know how much I loved him and appreciated his strength and protection of me. I have no doubts he knew my love for him and same for me. I would have liked 50 or 60 years with him but that was not the plan for God in my life. I don’t feel cheated I feel “blessed” blessed I got 26 years with my sweetheart. Good and bad times but so much more than many folks ever have together, and we came thru them together.

Hope you all tell your loved ones how much you love them; we don’t always get second chances.    Till next week, MOM

Tip of the week:  Husband Fact

No husband has ever been shot while doing the dishes.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 2-07-09

 

PATIENCES AND NON-PATIENCES

 

I Have heard from my sister Alberta many times that I am short on patience.  Many times she has proven right. We are the end of our family on this earth. The Alpha and the Omega, Beginning and the End, She is the oldest and I am the baby of the family. She is short and I am tall (though, shrinking more everyday), she has the patience, can wait forever, I however gives it time and then my patience gets tested and it ends.

 

When we both lived in Michigan and I cared for Big Nanny, we both loved to order from Gurney’s Plant and Seed Catalog during the winters.  Neither of us could afford the mature plants that showed in the pictures, luxurious beauty of 2 or 4 year old plants. They always offered a small one “starters” and often they would be like a single small stick with a couple of sort roots. She say “don’t worry they will grow when planted”. After planting and watching for growth, you’d find me getting inpatient, I would say “it is dead and I am pulling it up”. She would say “water it and give it time”. Time always means patience so it wouldn’t be long and I would pull it up and throw it away. However Sis could wait forever and usually did, so come the next season or so she would have the beginning of a beautiful plant growing in her garden. Most of them are still alive and gorgeous.

 

I lost a beautiful Choke Cherry Tree we got out of the woods as a baby, cause I thought though healthy and growing well, it didn’t look like the birch tree we thought it was. Yep, so I pulled it up and tossed it. In the spring when the Choke Cherry trees started to bloom their gorgeous white blossoms I again realized I should have had more patience and not pulled it up.

 

Over the years I look back and realize I was short of patience raising you children, I so wish I could go back and change my, having more time to listen and not jump at correction before I got the whole story of situations and expecting adult behavior out of my kids.

 

So what makes patience so easy for one and not for another. We were raised by the same parents, so it must be genes, and giving from ancestors of long ago past on. Patience, we cant do anything directly about many of the matters that try our patience. They’re mostly beyond our power to manipulate or control as God can. I think of Jesus on the cross at Calvary, look how patient he had to be with the crowd that condemned him. He always teaches us to show patience as Christians as examples for others. I am sure I’ll never learn patience as perfect as God. But I  am sure I can improve my patience with his help. I have often ask God for his help with daily problems , only to tire of waiting for an answer, so I jump into my own solution and have lived to regret it many times, when the correct answer is made apparent to me.

 

So God is working on and through me, to produce some patience. Wish me luck everyone, till then take care and I will see you again next week. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Patience with other is love,

Patience with self is hope,

Patience with God is faith.

              (Adel Beslavros)



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 1-31-09

 
SNOW, SNOW, AND MORE SNOW

 

Okay it is time for me to turn off wishing for snow. True we have only had 10 inches thru mid January for the winter. Well, Mother Nature paid us a visit Tuesday nite and Wednesday morning in Indiana. We received 10 to 12 ½ inches depending on where you were. Here at Crestwood it measured 11 inches, setting a record. Most all vehicles stayed park or got stuck, even ordered off the streets. Our snowplow was late getting going. Most of our residents hibernated for the day. The Crestwood bus was cancelled on doing its runs, and it sets covered under 11 inches of snow.

 

The snow was beautiful coming down in the morning before it was touched. But now it became a backbreaking job for everyone. I left my car untouched but prayed for lots of sunshine to melt it off. I remember the days when you kids shoveled at home what your Dad didn’t push with his snow blade. Then when done you were sent to your Grandparents to shovel them out or even the neighbors to help them out. Must be a generation changes---- my car is still sitting under a snow mound 2 days later untouched my human hands.

 

With all schools being cancelled, the snow gives the children lots of time to build snowmen or find a hill for sledding. My memories goes back to all of you kids when we lived a short way from Butler University hill. Great for sledding down. You’d come home with clothes wet with snow and stiff as boards but all smiles on your faces for the fun you 3 had with your Dad. I helped with building snow people but he sledding was for me. Also, we were always time for snowball fights.

 

We were so fortunate once again to have gotten the snow and not the ice, glad it went over to Ohio. Many homes over there and beyond are without heat and electricity even now. It sure places a hardship on everyone when winter storms hit. Most homeowners are already having trouble with the cost of heating their homes with utilities.


Well I do believe I found another “Senior Angel” here in Crestwood. One 80 or so year old gentleman dug my car out while I was working in the office. Shoveled it himself and even helped others dig theirs out. Noah didn’t come with an Ark, but with a shovel in hand. My thank you note couldn’t express how nice it was to go out and get in my car and go today. He came from the generation who taught when you help others you always feel blessed in return.

 

So as Indiana digs out-----kids enjoy your time in the snow, how many in this generation knows how to make an angel in the snow? All you snow birds in the south laying near the pool and sunning enjoy and smile you are not up here digging out. See ya all next week. Hopefully spring is just around the corner. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Who trains the Groundhog when to stick his head out? Anyone know? 


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-24-09

 

DREAMS DO COME TRUE

 

The celebration of Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday on Monday preceded by one day the inauguration day of our first African-American to take the oath of office for the President of the United States. Was it coincidental or was it maybe in the time planning of our Awesome God? It surely gave the message that our nation is one under God and full of equal rights for all. The long awaited dreams over the generations of a couple lifetimes finally was coming true. It was true history was made as we witness Kings dream come true, it was shown on whites as well as blacks in the crowd gathered in Washington DC. I watched 2 days of history in the making on the television, it seemed the best place for this ole lady. I couldn’t have taken the bitter 28 degrees bitter cold of the outdoors nor the crowds of over 2 millions. Many arrived only to be stopped at the gates after long walkings to get into the city, Disappointing but many say it was worth it.

 

I can only imagine that being in such a crowd of people wouldn’t warm the 2 ½ foot space you would be standing in. As I sat in my warm apartment, over time I made quite a few pit stops in my own private bathroom. I can’t imagine sharing one port-a-pot with 500 others. I panic when I see a line of 10 ladies outside the bathroom door when I’m out. Imagine trying to take 4 layers of clothes off in a port-a-pot. I would guess they all took Imodium or put on Depends before leaving. They sure couldn’t go to the White House and request the use of the bathroom. Not a place for me to be, I will take the comforts of home.

 

I can only imagine how many had to max out their credit cards to be able to attend the event of a lifetime. Expenses for sure, travel by plane, bus, car with the cost of gas, all would be out of sight. Then the cost of a hotel room or suite if you could find one. One elite suite was rented out for $7,000 for the one night before the inauguration. True it was a once in a lifetime event but it may take another lifetime to pay the credit cards off.

 

Can you imagine the 95 service folks inside the White House with only 4 hours to change from one family home to another? Included from the desk and documents, to personal items in the closet. Bet they were like ants inside, everyone with a job whether it was painting, packing, or unpacking, making the transition from Bush to Obama families. This really interested me, details sort of the inside scoop. I am not a history buff but was fascinated in the transitions of our past Presidential families moves in and out. I would have loved to had all that help when I moved here, how bout you?

 

All in all, the 44th Inauguration even pulled us together not only America but around the world. I witnessed and had myself many tears of emotion during it all, the peacefulness of the crowds reflected the feeling of hope for all for our future. Can one man pull a young and older generation together to change our world economy back on the positive side----I am encouraged and hope you all are—it is going to take a group effort to bring us out of a recession. The crowd says, “Yes, we can!” I say with God’s help we can!

 

Hope you all shared in the excitement of the event. I am going to the birthday party of Layla Belle Brown, cant believe that God Child is now 3 years old. She has brought lots of laughter and love to the Scott family. She says she is having a baby sister in August and Mommy and Daddy are having a baby brother. We do have history of twins on the Scott side, watch out Tori and Ryan. Happy Birthday #3  Layla from Nana.

 

See ya all next week with my love, Always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

Most of us want to change the world but only a few of us are willing to change our own minds, or to put the effort out for change.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-15-05 (re-cycled)

 

The Stillness of Winter

 

On Saturday morning I opened my window blinds, as darkness still appeared, I viewed a beautiful stillness of the night. While I slept the rain, ice, and snow had fallen on a windless city that slept. Indy was a winter wonderland of beauty. The effects it had left on the trees, grounds of Crestwood were absolutely breath taking. I love snow as you all know, but this radiated peace, quiet with no human effect. This is a wonderful time of the night & morning as I feel the presences of God; the calming effect touches my heart and soul. The tranquility is deeply felt; no wonder folks love to go to the woods, mountains, and serene surroundings to become unstressed on vacations. The calming serenity is awesome to my inner soul.

 

All to quickly I am pulled back to the real world, my mood is changed with the snowplow appearing on the streets, the morning paper delivery folks make their pre-dawn drop off of the Indy Star. The wind blows enough to show the ice that remains under the snow on the streets, sidewalks, trees, and cars. What was so peaceful now becomes dangerous to be on and in. This past week the TV has been full of the ice damage in Muncie, Indiana & surrounding areas. The weight of the ice has broken power lines leaving 100,000+ homes without electricity. It can really place a hardship on families as they try to find warmth, shelter, moving in with relatives, all that is required to survive the cold.

 

I recall many times being without heat in our home, once when Dad didn’t pay the gas bill on time, disconnected on weekends and us

huddled by a fireplace on Ripple Road. That big 10 room house sure wasn’t heated by one small fireplace.   Another time in Michigan with Big Nanny, (my Mom) without heat for 5 days. Created a real hardship on us with no generators available and with her Alzheimer’s Disease not allowing her to know why she had to stay covered. With days spent at Boda’s and tons of blankets at night we made it without leaving our home. The cold definitely goes deep to the bone, even layers of clothes doesn’t seem to give warmth. I recall as a child being put under layers of homemade quilts, each weighing at least 10 pounds each, and Mama saying don’t get up. Haha, who could move with all that weight. That was in the south where they had no furnaces only a wood stove in the kitchen, which we huddled around to bathe, & dress. Front side of your body got too hot and the backside was freezing cold. Memories…

 

As I look out my windows I see the maintenance men working as a team to dig us out of the snow. Guess when good times turns to bad times, when calm turns to storms, that’s what it takes team work, everyone helping to bring things back to normal and under control. It sure takes all of us trying to give our best effort to make this world keep a going. Have a great week everyone, stay warm, and Lets pray the electricity gets back on soon for those Muncie Hoosiers. Love to all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:  Building up is always harder than tearing down. But when you build up, you have something. When you tear down, you have nothing.
 
 As you can see from the date up above  I am recycling again. The time of this month and the time of that one I wrote before so much the same only 4 years apart. Some things change and others stay the same. Enjoy your snow, and if you don’t have any be thankful you don’t have to shovel. Be careful on the road everyone in the north. Love and will see you next week.     Mom


MOM’S THOUGHTS FOR THE WEEK OF 1-10-09

 

SNOW MEMORIES

 

My sister Alberta mentioned at her Michigan home they were already at 60 inches + of snow for this winter. I recall the snows up there (I loved them) the snow starts in October and don’t stop till the following May, or sometimes even after spring. You were almost guaranteed you’d have fresh snow each morning to shovel on your pathway to the world. I have memories I am thinking of, the year we had so much snow that my brother Vern, had to come up and shovel it off the roof of my little gray house. I remember well cause he cussed me out for having gutters put on the house. (He didn’t care if my flowerbeds got washed out when it rained or not in the summer time.) I think of him so much he would have been 75 on the 8th he is so missed. His yelling was seldom at me, but he was the big brother,we enjoyed the fun times we had together though.

 

Can’t think of snow without thinking of the time my sister Geraldine (while living with me and caring for mother in Michigan) she came home from the store all upset. Coming from Georgia, Geraldine and her children hadn’t seen much snow, so she took a roll of film of the snow to show her family. Well she yelled, “I took a roll of pictures in color, and look they gave me all black and white prints.” Well I laughed, showed her one picture that had something of color on it and was in color. Snow is white and covering about 4 feet of everything, trees and bushes are black in the winter---now tell me where do you get much color out of that when you’re taking just scenery. I so miss Geraldine also, both her and Vernon left a big void for us to deal with, the loss still hurts, but one day we’ll be together again, I trust my Lord’s promise of that.

 

Many times up there in Michigan they had to put tennis balls on antenna’s of cars (most don’t have them now) so you could see each other’s vehicles approaching at cross ways. They also use their snowmobiles when they can. Snow of no depths slows the Michiganders down. I loved my years up there, and the very carefree lifestyle.

 

Indiana this winter has only had 2 inches of snow max, the snow falling may add 1 more inch. It was so nice to watch the snow fall out my balcony doors, it is coming down so slow and relaxing me to watch. I thought of snow memories of your Dad, he loved the snow also, not so much to watch and relax, more like the idea to get out and play in it instead of shoveling. He loved to get on the tractor with a plow. He would stand up so as to see ahead with the snow blowing in his face, he might be on that tractor all night clearing the streets of Rocky Ripple, but he didn’t complain cause he was having fun. He loved to slip and slide on the snow and often had to pull himself out of the ditches, the fun was worth it. He never out grew the fun of being a child in the snow.

 

Well, I look out and the snow has stopped falling, the ground is still to warm for the snow to remain. So I will continue to recycle the snow memories of the past. Hope you all out there have fond memories of snow with your families in the past. Thanks for sharing mine with me.

Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

Each snow flake is unique, for they are each different when made, some what like us, no two alike. What an Awesome God we have!


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 1-03-09

 

CLEAN SLATE 2009

 

Happy New Year 2009 Everyone! I am sure the ball dropped in New York and the New Year came in without my help. I hit the bed about quarter to 9, didn’t even make it till the normal bedtime of 9 PM. So out with the old and on to a New Year with a clean slate for us. Reminds me of the Lord taking the bad away and changing over to a new slate of life for me. The mistakes we made in 2008, the troubles or storms we faced are all behind us, in the past and that is where they need to stay.

 

I am not one for making resolutions as many do at midnight of the old year and beginning the New Year. I have quit drinking, quit smoking, now eat more sensible, quit chasing men, HAHA, so what is next. After pondering my weakness’ in areas of life that needs improving, one comes to mind. I need to listen more to the inner small voice I hear now and then. Often it tells me things I ignore if I am into something I feel is really more important. There is the self thing again we humans have. Many times others will come to my mind that I need to visit, call or send a card, which gets put off and ignored. How about the one I need to drop a treat off to some one who is sick and shut-in. Usually not soon after I hear the person has passed or they needed a friend to just listen, all just a matter of taking the time on my part. Life is so short in many ways, the unimportant things we get involved with can just fill too much of our time, and often brings regrets we deal with.

 

Secondly, I need to say thank you more for my blessings. A few weeks ago in the midst of all the Holiday rush, I got a phone call from Tori, my granddaughter, Pam’s Daughter and Layla’s Mom, just for clarification, any way, Tori’s news was great, she is pregnant again. Tori and Ryan decided it was time for Layla to have a brother or sister. Well, as this Nana always does with heart shared news, I cried. Of course it is happy tears, I thought of my Russ and how much he has missed being Great Grandpa of these 3 precious babies. Congratulations to Tori and Ryan, and all the many Grandparents who have loved and helped with Layla, they will, I am sure, love this new one when it comes in August. Maybe it will be born on Grama Pam’s birthday on August 2nd.

 

Blessings, Yes, I have so many, a great family and all you friends to enrich my life. Thanks for being there for me. Happy New Year again, remember I love you all, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Fear is the darkroom where negatives are developed.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 12-27-08
 

LOVE SHARED

 

A late Merry Christmas everyone, I am looking out my window on the world, watching families pick up their family members for Christmas Day. I never would have thought a cold or airborne virus would have made me “homebound” for 10 days. I had to cancel Christmas activities and outings every day since my 70th birthday on the 15th. I looked forward to them all but the one I cancelled on Christmas Eve was the hardest. Our “Charlie Brown Christmas” had to go on without me this year. All members of the Scott family made it to the Garvin’s in Bargersville except me. My germs are down to a minimum but my hacking cough continues. Couldn’t risk passing  it on to anyone especially those great grand babies. Well, not to be left out I received a phone call from the party going on---all 15 surprised me singing, “Rudolph the Red nose Reindeer” to its entirety. Sorry but I don’t think they will make it as a church choir. Then each talking to me over the phone following that. It was their way of including me and it certainly made me feel special and a great gift of love. Thank you my family.

 

This has been an unusual Christmas season, our nations economy taking a nosedive, loss of jobs, foreclosures on homes, reduction of finances, all has changed our world. It has even become more noticeable that many families’ gifts at Christmas have been to reach out to those in need and not expecting gifts in return. It reminds me of the spirit of Christmas of the older days, the ones of our parents before the world exploded with greed and the big “me me needs.”  The spirit has been catching I think,  due to all our worlds being less secured for the future. Our building residents donated so generously to our Christmas Family, which the fire dept. located for us, a family of Grama, Mom. and 4 kids received clothes, toys, and food. Plus we helped another family with children with groceries due to the Dad is without a job. Our residents are mostly on social security but they amaze us, their hearts are bigger than their incomes allow. Most have been thru the depression so they know how to share with others. Pat and I both are so proud of them for their generosity.

 

The Spirit of Christmas in others is beautiful to watch, and surely warms the soul inside. God’s blessing of a “senior angel” in our building has really been proof God places you where he needs you. Bonnie Payne  has been an answer to filling others needs. She has cared for the homebounds, whether it is temporary illness or every day needs since moving here after her husbands death. She faithfully has come to my door each day to get my mail, brings a book for me to read, and nutritious lunch usually  with Jell-O and whipping cream. Her tray may be full with other resident’s lunch too. (SMILE- I just love her cheerful out look on life)  I am not the only one on her list, she often reads the bible to those that have trouble reading due to failing sight. Bonnie sees a need and jumps in with both feet, I know she makes our Lord smile too. I may never be able to thank or repay Bonnie for all she has done for me, but I assuredly will pass it on when I can for others in need.

 

With a New year coming I can look forward to it, even with all our nations problems, we are a strong, caring nation and helping one another we will come through this recession, maybe we will be stronger for it. The worse of things often brings out the best in people.  If it teaches us that maybe we need to return to the way of life of generations ago, those folks were proud, humble folks who knew the value of family love and where our priorities should be, helping our neighbors, placing less value of what we can own but what we can share with love. It may even take us back to our knees with gratitude and praise for what we have to God.

 

Happy New Year everyone, I wish you lots of love, good health and much happiness. As Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Here is a test to find whether your mission on earth is finished: if you are alive, it isn’t.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 12-20-08

 

CHRISTMAS IN MY WORLD

 

When I pass the shopping malls these days and see very few empty if any places, it is a great sign that Americans are into the Holiday Season full force. Gift buying to celebrate Christmas is a tradition in most families. It makes me think if Christmas is a celebration of Jesus’ birth in Bethlehem, where would we be without his birth, would we still be buying gifts or what, just call it Dec. 25th, 1 day to shop till we drop just because---- I can’t even think of a world without Jesus, we would probably be selfish, hateful, angry and greedy folks around. Jesus came as a savior to a sinful world, one that was full of folks just like that after Adam and Eve began the sin cycle again. In the Old Testament they looked for years for the one promised by God to remove the sin from our world. That being the reason for the name “Savior.” The living promise of hope we all needed.

 

Looking at my world, I think back to the years I was searching for a better life and future, I was the mother of two in January 1960. I realized I couldn’t do it alone even with Dad’s help, it was to big a job raising children and all it entailed. I had attended church and had heard that Jesus saves and fills the void in us. Thinking at nineteen it couldn’t be that simple, so I fought it for some time. I needed faith and hope in my life, which I found when I accepted Jesus as my savior, and was baptized by immersion on Jan. 15, 1960. It has made me aware how God has planned my life since that time. He took me from that date as I was, wiped that slate clean and began to change me. I am sure I didn’t realize even then how much my life would change, but his guidance was there. He’s had a up and down time with me, times I put my back to him, only to be welcome back when I began to feel lost again, with a craving eating at me, he’d help me get back on track. It’s been a slow process but I have seen changes for the better in my life over the years. And I am sure he still has changes ahead for making a better me.

 

So where would we be without our savior's birth? I really believe lost and into the ways of a sinful world, no care of where we plan to live eternity. Without Jesus we would face no heaven, no life after death, no reunions with deceased loved ones, no promise of eternity with no tears or pain after our death. Only live for this day and not care about anyone or thing.  It may be a selfish thought by me, but who would I carry my burdens to after days of pain and suffering to receive assurance that He is in control and He will take the heavy load that is too much for me. There is no limit to what we would not have in our lives, no peace of mind, no grace, no hope and no love for one another. He is the teacher of a better life hoped for.

 

In my world, I can and will continue to be grateful and full of praise that that wee little baby God gave to all of us came at Christmas time. It helps us to sing the wonderful Christmas carols, full of wonder, love, and joy of the arrival of the Christ child. What an awesome gift was given to us all.  May we all remember the reason for this season and keep our eyes on that manger.   Always, Mom


TIP OF THE WEEK:   God created us—Jesus saved us and the Holy Spirit guides us!



Mom's thoughts for the week 12-13-08

12-21-02 (recycled)

 

            Merry Christmas this week. I had 25 years of sharing family traditions with a very unique family, the Lee's, and their offspring's.  Louise and Otis Lee had one of the most loving and fun bunch of children around. Frances, Ruth, Betty, Helen, Bill, Fairy and Kack. Seven children that I was blessed with knowing, and grew up with in marriage. Not a Christmas goes by that I don't  think of Thanksgiving and Christmas spent with all of them. 

 

            We started out going to the Buckner farm when Pam was a baby, then later they moved down town Trafalgar, after Uncle Keith died.  At Christmas time we would rush around to get the presents open so we could get out the door and on the ride 30 miles south. Well, after all the complaints about having to leave the toys, we soon got the dinners changed to later in the day.  When that family got together you never knew what to expect but it would be fun.  Dinner always consisted of delicious homemade cooking, all good cooks, and desserts out of this world.  Fairy would cook for weeks before to have enough for both places. 

            Once the food was out of the way, the cards went on the table, they were all serious card players.  I always got stuck with dishes cause I didn't play cards.  I remember the wrapped gifts of gags Fairy and Bill always exchanged, you never knew what was going to be all wrapped up.  You have to remember it was before Spencer gifts and all the artificial poop was made.  Nothing stopped those two and you soon learn not to sit next to them, for anything could fly out of the boxes.  Someday I hope to get the slides developed onto CDs, where there are some pictures of the bunch of Lee's and Christmas. I remember most of the drives home where spent laughing, while you kids slept, exhausted from being with your cousins, first, second or third. 

I have a lot of beautiful memories of growing up with those special people. I was only 17 when I married into the family, and I  miss them all now. Uncle Harold at 91 is the only one of that generation left. They are for sure in all your memories too.  Just remember the fun, the laughter, the enjoyment of life, they were beautiful examples of getting the most out of life with the least. Bet they are having one hellava party up there for Christmas this year. 

 

            As you spend Christmas with your families, I hope you are making good memories too.  Merry Christmas, Hope Santa's good to you.  As always remember I Love You, Mom


Mom’s thoughts for the week 12-06-08

 

THANKFULNESS

 

Here we are into the first week of December with the holidays in full swing. I hope all had a wonderful Thanksgiving with family. Mine was slow gear, home all day resting and then to Garvin’s for dinner. Enjoyed seeing Scott, Britt, and little Audrey. Audrey is growing like crazy, always inquisitive on exploring all things. She is beautiful and all her grandparents and this great grandma can’t get enough of her.

 

  I continue to be so thankful for my family for who they are and the adults the grandchildren have grown into. The great grandkids are special and yes I am prejudiced of course, they are mine. Didn’t get to see Layla Belle for she was visiting with her other grandparents around town. I do get the treat of having her come with her grandmother on Sunday and ride the church bus with me. She loves it and looks forward to playing with all the kids, Grama Pam sneaks her into church the last song so she can sing with Nana and the whole congregation.

 

This week I had my check up with the stent surgeon. Had to have an ultra sound first. Then secondly I got the great news, the stent is open full force in the right one, and the left carotid artery has cleared with the Plavix medication. Even greater is the news I can get off Plavix on the 17th and only take an aspirin a day. I was so happy I had to hug the assistant’s neck. What was a long troublesome time had been worked thru and ended well. I am so thankful also that the blood pressure is under control with the old meds I was taking, I now can walk without shortness of breathe and I have my energy level back. We have am awesome God who never leaves us, if we just trust that he is walking with us each and every day. He will bring us thru any troubles we may have. Thank you all for your prayers along the way they meant so much.

 

Keep a smile on your face, enjoy each day of the holidays. Recycle those memories which live in your heart of Christmas pasts.

 

Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:  Nothing is as bad as your imagination makes it.



Mom's Thoughts for the week of 11-13-04  (for 11-29-08)

THIS TOO SHALL PASS

Many times when someone needs encouraging while in a crisis situation, or when they feel a large loss, I don't have the right words of comfort they may need at the times. So I often have used what I thought was a verse from the bible, This Too Shall Pass and some how they will come through it okay. After finding out this wasn't in the bible, then I decided if more women had written books in the bible it surely would have been in there. The words are so true, with patience we do work thru times we didn't think we could handle and we do survive better than we could imagine.

My Mountainwings message last Sunday were on these same four words, over the last two years of doing Mom's Thoughts I had often thought of writing on these words, AHA!!! at last God says it is time. I love my daily messages on the computer and in my Daily Bread devotional, they usually are right on God's Time. The Mountainwings states: "When you are on top of the world, that is but a fleeting moment, things change, always remember, This Too Shall Pass. When you are in the pits, all nights are followed by day, at your lowest moments remember also, This Too Shall Pass. All external circumstances and material things change. No matter what your circumstances, remember This Too Shall Pass."

The things we worry or gloat about are temporary and of the material world fleeting by. The true important things are beyond this earth and life are eternal. I have found it to be true if you look back at the years in the past you will find situation and crisis, you didn't think humanly possible to come through. You survived and usually became stronger and wiser while doing it. This is what learning is all about, getting us through in the best way possible. So, let the four little words be your guide line to get you thru your next valley of trouble, remember, This Too Shall Pass!!!! Life is continually changing, make it for the better.

Have a great week, stay warm for BRRRRRR wind chills again-------I think winters here in Indy again. I am ready for Indian Summer and the air outside has felt like SNOW. OK, This Too Shall Pass. Love you all, and keep on smiling, Always, Mom

Tip of the week:

Temper is one thing you can't get rid of by losing it.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-22-08

 

PUMPKIN GRATITUDE

 

It’s just about he end of November, a month of seeing God’s beauty in the changing colors of the trees and tranquil peace of watching the leaves falling slowly to the ground. I’ve had time to ponder about Thanksgiving and what I am grateful for; other than the delicious turkey feasts we treat ourselves to with our families and friends. Of course I know my blessings are too many to count, mostly with my family, loved ones, and friends who is always there with love, caring and support.

 

There is another one who is always there for me 24/7, my blessed Lord. He is my greatest blessing to be thankful for; it reminds me when I see the pumpkins in the fall everywhere in their orange splendor. I have had a time convincing Miss Layla Belle that a pumpkin changes to a jack o lantern, she still calls them pumpkins. I told her the pumpkin gets a happy face making him a jack o lantern. I am often reminded myself that I was once like the pumpkin, till our Lord took me, cleaned me out, and put joy in my life with a happy face. What is wonderful is he starts with where you are in this world of selfishness, greed, jealousy, full of acts of sin and unforgiveness. You don’t have to do anything but trust him and he carves you out, replacing the bad with the good. In gradual change you become more caring of others instead of self, forgivingness, the lost of direction is replaced with satisfaction and assurance of peace. God’s love for us can do impossible tasks. My gratitude can never be enough to make me worthy of all the blessings he has brought in to my life.

 

I look forward to the season following Thanks giving, for I will be able to celebrate the birth of our savior, what a gift of love!!

 

“Happy Thanksgiving” you’re all blessings to me. May I never take a one of you for granted. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Smile God loves you and so do I.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-15-08

 

GRATEFUL AMERICANS

 

On Tuesday I watched as Veterans gathered near the flagpole here at Crestwood. The raining and wind didn’t bother most of them, with umbrellas and caps. Others stood in doorways able to hear the PA systems of the service. All soberly watched the American flag go up the pole with their hand over their hearts. I am sure all remembers their time of service to defend our country. Homeland many lost their lives to defending to keep us free. Many had tears falling down cheeks as names were read and a beautiful poem dedicated to all Veterans. All stood proud as the minister stated we are All Americans even if we weren’t born here, this is our home, the land of the free.

 

All were ready for the hot chili that was served after the service ended. We served about 75 in our building and probably just as many in the building across the street from the flagpole. What a way to start November, a month of gratitude as we near Thanksgiving. So many years the country jumps from Halloween to Christmas and don’t take time for Thanksgiving. Our building went from decorations of red, white, and blue over nite to Thanksgiving leaves and turkeys. I am always grateful when the decorations turn out as I vision in my head.

 

Thursday of this week we planned an early Thanksgiving at Pat and Jessy’s farm, prior to Alberta heading north to Michigan. Jessy and Alberta cooked a full course Turkey dinner from the bird, cranberry to pies of apple and pumpkin. Most all-else was grown in Jessy’s garden this summer. I was grateful to spend the day with my sister, before my kids, grandkids, and great grandkids came for dinner. We missed Kevin, Don’s son, Natali & Ryan, Jodi’s kids being with us. It was an evening full of blessings to see all enjoy the food, and chatter of togetherness. My girls did a great job clearing and cleaning the dishes, so Jessy wasn’t left with them to do. Thank your Dianna, Pam, and Jodi, I appreciate you all.

 

So many blessings, I try to keep my heart and soul full of gratitude to my Lord. He has blessed me with so much love in my family and friends. Sure keeps that warm and fuzzy feeling in you. I hated to see Alberta head home to Michigan, but I so appreciated her surprising me with her visit. We had some time together, parting is hard, but again, my gratitude is felt for blessings I received. “Celebrate Thanksgiving this month with prayers of gratitude.” We all have so many blessings we overlook. Love always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: Climb the mountains and get their good tidings. Nature’s peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into the trees. The winds will blow their own freshness in to you, and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves.   (John Muir)

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 11-08-08

 

ONE NATION UNDER GOD  

 

This last week has had me pondering due to the events. The election on 11-04 brought the end to 2 years of primary selection of our next president. We’ve never had a primary last as long as this one, it set the stage for the final draw of selection. Our country turned out to vote the largest ever election for Republicans and Democrats. The voters all were clear they wanted a change to take place. The change electing Barrack Obama, Democrat candidate into office brought many disappoints to the Republicans who wanted John McCain to win. Watching the TV coverage of the polls brought another thing to ponder on. Witnessing a unity of people joining together, black, white, or what ever nationality of Americans to bring history to our country. History that has taken our nation from slavery to the election of our first Afro-American as president. What an accomplishment to all Americans who voted.

 

I hope, as others this will bring our country together to keep our nation out of a depression. Changes are hard and always take team efforts to accomplish goals. One of our goals so badly prayed for is our troops to return home from Iraq and the war.

 

This week Crestwood will celebrate Veterans Day with a memorial service around our flagpole. Our Veterans will be honored for their past service to our Country. As we pray for world peace, remembrance of those who have given their lives for us to be free, may we be grateful we are free and one nation under God. Thank your Veterans in your families, while still living, they have paid a super price for all of us to be free and out of harms way.

 

I had a wonderful surprise, Alberta, my sister came in from Michigan and spent the nite with me. Rob, her son dropped her off on his trip to Alabama. So she is here in Indiana at her daughters home till after Thanksgiving. Wonderful to get some fast unexpected hugs together. Our time always seem short but oh so sweet.

 

Have a great week everyone, hope you are doing better with this daylight savings time change. I have shorter days and wake up at 3 AM thinking it is time to get up.

Love Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

The courage to speak must be matched by the wisdom to listen.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week 11-01-08  

 

WIN OR LOSE  

 

 

There are always competitions whether it is sports, games like the Olympics, and times in life when the final results become apparent you will win or lose. Regardless of who we are we always want to win, it is human nature in us. Some how we connect losing to being a failure. I guess that is why us parents had our hands full when it came to teaching losing some times can be a positive thing in the long run. When children grow over their youth, it is always hard to explain they may not win regardless of how bad they want to. Has nothing to do with having the qualifications or being better than, it just may be that winning at that time may not be the best thing for you or your future. Sure you will be discouraged and disappointed when you want to win so very much, and lose. We adults often find many tears are shed just like our children do when they don’t win.

 

Over the years so often I have prayed for something so badly and it never came to be. I was disappointed yes, but over time I realized God was the wisest to not answer those prayers, as I wanted. I would have been miserable and faced many obstacles and unhappiness had I had my way. At the time I didn’t see that, I only wanted to have what I wanted at the time. Lessons are so hard to come by.

 

Our country will very soon vote for our next President of the United States. Many many prayers have been said that God’s wisdom be intervened bringing the best party to the White House. Republican or Democrat whichever it is will face a hard upward climb to get our troubled nation back on its feet economically. Many have lost jobs which are badly needed to support families, loss of security and homes. This time more than ever needs us all to pray for our country and its leaders, not once or twice but daily. We need to be the “One nation under GOD”, trusting him to bring us back stronger than we were before. We have helped so many countries but it is time for us to help bring our independence back to our land.

 

Each person has one vote, don’t think one can’t make a difference it can. It is an obligation and responsibility we have fought and lose lives for. So don’t take it lightly. Get out and vote! Just as important is our individual prayers for god to step in and lead our next President back to a country of pride, integrity and independence. May our winner have the ability to do just that. May the loser realize he doesn’t face failure but that his strengths may be needed worse in another position in the future. As a nation we will need all the positive prayers we can send up to God--- we need God to bless the USA as the song “Lee Greenwood” has sang with patriotism for years.


Get out and vote everyone---pray ----search your heart for our leader---then go and make your vote count. I ‘ve always said you can’t gripe if your don’t vote, it is your obligation as a citizen of the USA, and not all countries allow that citizens that right.

 

Don’t forget to set your clocks back one hour this Saturday night, remember FALL BACK for the winter, and then SPRING FORWARD. Mercy are we programmed or what. I love this time it is the summer I have trouble with sleep hours.

 

Love to you all, Always, MOM
 

TIP OF THE WEEK:


Today I Will Trust

Today, I will stop straining to know what I don't know.
To see what I can't see.
To understand what I don't yet understand.
I will trust that being is sufficient,
And I will let go of my need to figure things out.
 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-25-08

 

ANNIVERSARY #6

 

Can’t believe I passed up the anniversary on October 6th, my trusty calendar didn’t jiggle my brain. I have written 293 with this Mom’s Thought. Hard to believe I found that much to write about all this year much less for 6 years. As a review this years is: KNEEL AT THE CROSS, TRANQUIL THOUGHTS, NOVEMBER HAPPENINGS, ADVENTURESS SUNDAY, TWO SIDED GIFT, CHRISTMAS 2007, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008, HAPPY NEW YEAR ONE  & All, MAKING LIFE FUN TO LIVE, TRY A LITTLE KINDNESS, VIVA LAS VEGAS, AWESOME EYES, LOVE IS IN THE AIR, ELVIS IS IN THE BUILDING, GROWING PAINS, THE STILLNESS OF WINTER (RERUN 1/15/05), ONE IN & TWO TO GO, SAFELY HOME, THE RITCH BAPTIST CHURCH, BLESSED ARRIVAL, BABY SCENTS & STUFF, MOTHERHOOD, MOTHERS DAY 2008, HOOSIER PRIDE, CRAZY WORLD, CRAZY WORLD 2, PLAYING CATCH UP, GENERATION TIES(RERUN 6-4-05), WEDDING MEMORIES, MOM’S WEDDING NOW, 100,000 MILES, ANTICIPATION, ON THE MEDICAL MERRY GO ROUND, STILL HOLDING ON, THE SMILE OF A CHILD, DOG DAYS OF SUMMER, I’M LATE I’M LATE, LABOR DAY 2008, FALL & ALL, LIVING & WAITING (HAZELDON MESSAGE), STENT SURGERY, TRYING FOR BRIGHTER DAYS, BUSYNESS, FAMILY LOSS, LIFE AND THE HOUR GLASS, AND THIS ONE Anniversary #6,

 

Wow, that is a bunch of weekly thoughts, all can be found on Amy’s web page she set up for me, if you missed any of them. (The webpage link is at the end after Tip of the week) I believe a couple of you got kicked off by mistake of the mailing list. So I do check them now and then lately to make sure Ole Smart Dell Computer is not at it again. Last week was a mess sending it as an attachment. So we are now going an easier way hope it comes thru on the Internet for you, if not yell.

 

It has been a privilege to me to have so many of you stay faithful to being on my mailing list. I don’t have any jailangels to send to any more. They are all out but I still mail to one very special one, Mary Lee. She stuck with Pam while both were at Rockville Prison. I am grateful to her for helping Pam come to her senses and learn to lean on her faith. My prayers still go to Mary Lee for she is facing some of the disappointments on adjusting to the out side world and how hard it is to get back up after being down. May God continue to give you strength Mary Lee!

 

I am doing much better since having my stent put in on Sept. 17th. Am now off the blood pressure med that I believe was causing my shortness of breath. I am not as tired as it was making me and puffing when I walked. I get to see my 2 wonderful little great grandbabies, Layla 2 ½, and Audrey now 6 months. They keep me happy and smiling. God has blessed me with my family. So as long as I have someone to listen I will keep writing about life to all you folks. Please keep commenting when I hit on something that jiggles your memory bank as a fun or happy memory to share. I sure don’t want to be depressing every week, but hope to be inspiring and bringing smiles to you all. We are all in this world together for better or worse, it is better to have great friends to make the journey with you.

 

All for this week, I have been filling in for another manager to be on vacation, so come next week I get to take a vacation and just be lazy at home. Take care one and all, Always, Mom


Tip of the week:

The easiest way to find something you have lost is to buy a replacement.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-18-08

 

LIFE AND THE HOUR GLASS

 

Have you ever seen an hourglass with sand in it, you turn it over and the sand slowly seeps into the empty bottom section. When the sand fills it on the bottom it can be turned over again and the sand pours into it again. Lately I have thought of my life as that sand, slowly seeping away. Some days it moves quite fast and I find myself saying, “Where did the time go.” Much of my time is wasted away watching TV and here lately so much on the election that is only a few weeks away. It is 2 and half weeks away. It won’t be to fast for me, I am tired of the “I approve this message” statements with all the slamming of the other guy. I do feel voting is our duty, but the TV coverage of it can get too much.

 

My thoughts came one day this week when I read an article in Women’s Magazine on Dr. Phil and his wife. In his talking he stated, “You realize how short life is by a small calculation, cause it is a fact we are all going to die.” When you reach our age 50’s and up we realize that you’re down to months, that is scary, left to live. Such as my self I will be 70 in December, my grandmother lived to be in her 90s. So if I have 20 years its 20 X 12 =240 months. Now that is different way to look at it. My hourglass is for sure seeping sand and life is getting shorter.

 

I don’t mean to be depressing, for my options, die, and be with Jesus and many of my family happy and no tears forever more, is a wonderful peaceful promise Or continue to live to the day God determined for me when he made me and do it to my best. I know he placed me in my Mothers womb, knowing then the life he planned for me. I through faith rest assured that he is with me each and every moment of my life. He even knows how many hairs I have on my head, and believe me there is less and less, thinning and at times my back of the head looks like my brothers, balding in spots. HAHA. So each day I will be grateful for the months I have left, no way of knowing how many but I have the option to make them good ones.

 

Right now I am enjoying the beauty of fall, glorious to see the reds, gold, yellow and even browns of the trees. Fall is a fun time. Gathering pumpkins, making faces and turning them into jack-o-lanterns. Our walking club has a trip on the bus coming up next week to the apple orchard in Trafalgar, we will walk to the pumpkin patch and have a picnic in the orchard it self. Hope you all are making the most of the sand seeping in your hourglass. God made us to have fun and make good memories.

 

Love ya all, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

Winners - people who tell you what they did and not people who tell you what they think you ought to do.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 10-11-08

 

Family Loss

 

On September 27th I received word from Lee Synnestvedt, that my stepbrother, Don, had finished his long journey with cancer. Don was a fighting warrior all the way, he like so many others was determined to beat that devastating disease. My own belief is that with each death our research teams learn one more thing, so no ones death is in vain. There will be a cure for cancer, being a cancer survivor I know our nations walk a thons, and the research all make one more step closer. God in his time will place that cure in the rightful mind of a researcher and we will beat Cancer.

 

When My Dad met and married Mom Esther, I had no realization of the effects this wonderful lady would have on our family. She not only married my Dad she married our family and she combined two families to one. Along with her she brought her children, one a teenager, Sandy, and 2 married sons, Don the oldest and Dick, (who I found out later we were in the same high school years prior). Mom Esther brought stability, refined class, her wisdom, strong faith, and pride and oh, so much love to our family. The wonderful traits were known as we became closer to our stepsiblings. Soon the word step had no meaning for they were our family. This all came from our dear Mom Esther.

 

Due to distance of homes and locations in other states, we had little time together as the brood of 7 adult children of her and Dad, Dad passed first then Mom Esther “flew away” as her wish to heaven, we all shared the loss and her love. Mostly due to all missing her we drew strength on our get-togethers here and there over the years. The wonderful family gatherings at Vern and Roxana’s were times to get to appreciate sharing our love. We had a few days in Michigan at Alberta’s Thornton reunion, even with Don’s chemo treatments, all three made it north for us to be together. Such dear memories in our hearts, the laughter of things we shared of Mom Esther & Dad, the out of practice cooking of Lee and I making instant mashed potatoes for a large crowd and almost burned the house down, the memories of Mom Esther attending a southern church service with Dad, when she panic when she heard they were washing feet and she knew she had panty hose on, Dad relieved her mind and said it was only members of the church were required to do so. What wonderful days we had together, us remaining siblings, with Vern’s untimely death in the past few months and Geraldine’s death in the summer before. It only made our time together so much sweeter.

 

There is no way Alberta and I can lessen Lee and her family members grieving for Don. He was a man who mirrored his marriage, raising his family, his many branches of career, serving his church in the same dignified way of Mom Esther. His family proudly came through his hospice final journey beside his bed, a peaceful exit from this ole-troubled world. His touch will live on in each member of his family. So Don rest in peace, I can only imagine how happy you are to be with Mom Esther, your Dad you lost at a young age, and all the others who welcomed you on the other side. We will miss you deeply, but our memories bring a large smile to think of you.

 

Life and time passes so quickly, it should make us all treasure the time we have together with loved ones. Take the time to make some memories today.  All for this week. I believe we are in Indian Summer Indy, so enjoy and keep those jackets close by for when it ends. Happy Birthday to Tom who is 18 this year. We are so fortunate to have this happy guy in our family. Tom and Layla had one fun day at the farm with Jessy, his horse and tractor and wagon gathering pumpkins from Jessy’s garden. Great memories for these kids.

 

Love always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

What a different world this would be if people would magnify their blessings the way they do their troubles.



Mom's Thoughts for the Week of 10-5-08

 

BUSYNESS

 

When was the last time you watched a squirrel with a nut in his mouth trying to find the perfect place to bury it, so to have it later? In the fall mostly, I have had the privilege of watching the squirrels busy at work trying so hard going from one place and dig, then to another with the same ole nut in his mouth. The more he digs dirt out and decides “No, not the right place” he actually becomes more frustrated and frantic in his search as many as 10 or so times. The burial is for his future needs of food so he must prepare, in his haste he decides to cross the street to a better place. His busyness ends up costing his life, as he runs to the street unaware of the car that takes his life. He is gone in only an instant. Wonder what happen to all the nuts he actually did bury, they return to a natural state in the dirt, if not located by another squirrel.

 

How often do we do the same hurrying and become more frustrated and stressed as we try to keep up a heavy pace in life? The more frustrated we get the more our mind becomes pre-occupied and we become unaware of what is going on around us in our daily activities. Our pastor, Shan, gave a sermon recently on busyness. We all are guilty of getting involved in small knit-picking small to do things, often over looking the more important things. I learnt long ago that if I don’t have take time from 6 to 7 AM meditation time with my Lord, to often I’m too busy to even say a full prayer till night time. I think quick thoughts of “Thank you Lord”, “Be with them Lord”, “What do I do now, Lord?” etc. I learned that hour could be worth its weight in gold. Night-time I am tired and often fall asleep before I get to Amen. I try hard to remember the next day to continue on where I left off with my prayers.

 

Thursday morning, I was a Men’s Breakfast serving residents at 8:30 AM here at Crestwood. I laughed to myself thinking they didn’t even have "early rising" in that manager’s description I read. Lets see my days this week were full of collecting rent from 93 residents, registering residents for flu & pneumonia shots, heading business meetings for the building, announcing activities for October even though they have newsletters, planning menus for residents for this month's in-house dinner, lining up entertainment for the birthday party, taking meal orders for week, doing work orders of apartment needs for maintenance, handling family & residents on 911 calls, listening to complaints, arranging coffee and donuts for Wednesday mornings, arranging furniture needs orders, tale and chairs for building, attending Manager meetings with Justus Corp, speaking to each and every resident I come in contact with, seasonal decorations for lobby, and half of the day answering the phone and follow ups, making computer flyers as needed for activities. Whatcha think? Sounds like too much busyness! No wonder I am crashing at night in my bed. It’s a full time job and I respect each and every one of the managers here that go all out for serving others. Pat, my manager and who I am filling in for has the ability to make each person who enters her office feel like they are the most important person to cross her office door. As you can tell she is busy but she doesn’t let them know it. Very few people in this world can do that and it makes them special people. It shows she loves her job.

 

Check your daily schedules out, are your days busy with unimportant activities? The ones that make you neglect the most important things like family, time for yourself and most of all time for God. I am sure you daily pass up the chance to help others in need, remember that little ole squirrel; our life can end all so fast. Time to get a moving, headed to my easy chair and time for Jan. I love you all, have a great week, and watch some squirrels for a while. Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:   Some time one pays most for the things one gets for nothing. (Albert Einstein)



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 9-27-08

 

Trying for brighter days

 

Somewhere I read if you’re not going thru some ups and downs trials of life, then you’re in a cemetery and dead. Life does seem to have its challenges for us to deal with daily.

 

First of all, I am doing fine as far as the stent recovery. My shortness of breath was felt last nite as we walked the Indy Canal route downtown. The Walking Club of 25 residents on the bus walked 2 ½ miles, and then stopped for dinner before returning home. So the solution of the blood pressure medicine being changed is still in the process. Trying to have some time between stent surgery and changing meds.

 

The beautiful thoughtful cards I have received have really perked me up. Rona had a crafted one she made, and the Ritch Church Sunday Sunday School Class of Screven, GA. really pulled on my heart strings. Thank you all and most of all for your prayers. As trouble always goes, one thing follows another. And I need you all to keep praying. My son Rusty, soon to have his 50th birthday called with the news, the doctor plans to do an angioplasty (dye to find trouble areas in arteries) has been planned for Monday morning, with the possibility of stints in his heart. The heart is where his blockage is not the carotid like mine. Rusty has had problems with his health for some years now due to hepatitis C. We are grateful he has my genes and not so much of his Dad’s, so his heart is strong and should be fine after the stents are put in place. He too shares high blood pressure like his Mom, but thank goodness I don’t have hepatitis C, I escaped that one.

 

I have noticed the news on the TV is full of negative frightening news on a daily basis. Makes it hard to try to find the joy our Lord talks of. It should make your faith stronger, for none of us can handle the stress alone. Remember you have some one that can lessen your load, just lean on him. The Lord hears it all too. Our church, as well as others has also, daily prayers for our nation and its leaders while our country is in such dire economical straits. We are hopeful the Democrats and Republicans can work together to build us back up so we don’t have to face a depression like our parents and relatives did. Our prayers too should be the best candidate for President wins and will be able to solve some of the problems our country is going thru. We all are dealing with the feeling of helplessness as we watch our country appointed officials debate the plan to save us from the crashing of the stocks and a depression.

 

So whether it be personal health, friends illnesses or families, we all feel the load and need to keep our faith strong. Daily talks with the Lord, knowing he knows the best plans for us, so we need to trust him to help. Stay strong---- love the ones you can and help them to make each day better. My last “jail angel” that I was blessed to share Moms Thoughts with has been released into the world again. She has served her time and I hope she has received enough encouragement and faith strengthening to keep her on the out side. Jail or prison is no life at all for them and their families. So God bless you Mercie, may he give you the strength you need to adjust. It has not been easy for Pam, my daughter has witness but it can be a new beginning for a new live and you Mercie get to make the choice.

 

Pat is in Florida sunning herself for 2 weeks. So I am on duty around

Building #3. Say a prayer or two things stay quiet and no 911 calls.  Love you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: 
 

Decisions are like Jell-O molds. They only turn out firm when the right amount of water is added.

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week 09-20-08

 

STENT SURGERY

 

Well I am home and taking it easy, Sally reminded me while I am sitting around I can type. LOL. Thanks Sally!!  I am thrilled to say the stent surgery per the doctor went PERFECT and I am a PERFECT PATIENT. It was one of the harder ones I have ever gone thru, mainly cause you have to stay awake and following instructions. Laying 11 hours with out moving is not what I call fun. The only pain this ole body suffered was from the laying in one spot and it let my ole back feel like it was broke.

 

The surgeon was fantastic as was his assistants. He was one of the best at IU Hospital for placing stents. I ended up with a longer than usual stent because I have a long neck. It was tube-shaped and looked like the old-fashioned crinkle aluminum foil. It was placed after the doctor-injected dye into the arteries to from the groin to the brain in my head. When the dye is injected you have to lay still, don’t move, don’t breathe, following it is a group of fireworks or lightening going thru your vision. Thank goodness this test did not make you feel like you wet the bed, though I did due to all the dye being injected for 4 hours. My bladder went into overload!!  No modesty here!!!!

 

Following the placement of the stent I went to recovery for 3 hours while they got my blood pressure back up to normal. Then the 6 hours of waiting for the incision to close in the groin and the danger of a stroke to pass. They tested my body almost constantly for reflexes or any trouble signs.

 

I had one nurse who, bless her heart, knew how and where to place the pillows so the pressure was less on my back. I would have done anything to have been a person who could sleep any time, however the noise in a hospital is bad, and little sleeping is done.

 

I feel so blessed to have had the support of all you prayer warriors, friends, and loved ones to get me thru this journey. When the oxygen mask was put on, my arms were tied down, and the doctor said he was ready to begin, my human inset came out as fear, I began my quiet talk with the Lord for I knew he was my strength to bring me thru what was ahead. My faith and all your prayers have me home, recovering slowly, and resting. The pharmacist at the hospital found the problem with my shortness of breath, so that should be corrected with going back to the old medicine I was on for blood pressure. I am so blessed to be in the good health and yes, I am grateful for my family genes passed on to me.

 

So this next weekend Pat will be going on vacation for 2 weeks to Florida. I will be filling in as manager. I know she has sweated this surgery as much as me, though they easily could get another sub to fill in. The residents are like family to me now and will help where they can till she returns. They are all so grateful to have Pat up and running the office following her surgery. So till next week. I say once again THANK YOU ALL FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART.  My kiddos were super and gave great support to me. Thanks, Dianna, for missing work to travel with me. Always, MOM

TIP OF THE WEEK:

 

If you think you are strong enough to face and fix your own life, let fear set in on you and you will see how quick you search for our LORD.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 09-08-08

 

Fall and All

 

Have you noticed my weekly Moms Thoughts is now running about every 10 days instead? Last week I declared I was late, well now I am double late. It is harder all the time to gather my thoughts and even come up with something of interest cause I seem to be at one doctors or another. I added the chiropractor to the list of ones to be seen by. He is my friend keeps me in good running condition, only get in trouble if I sit too much, or delay going to see him as I did. Usually it is once a month, and he can pop me as Tom says, and I am in fine spine straight for another month. He rid me of my pinch nerve when I moved down here 8 years ago, and it has never returned. He also was the one that found my high blood pressure 200/100. Dianna has her family going to Dr. Brian also, Tom loves him when he gets his adjustment he laughs at Dr. Brian. Anyway that is where I went today and tomorrow I go to the Pulmonary Lab at the hospital; see what they come up with as the reason for my shortness of breath. Dr. Brian and I agree it is the new blood pressure meds they have me on. I am ready to go back to the one I was on before with no side effects, just happen to be one that works but had been around awhile. Wonder if the doctors get a kick back from the manufactures of all the new drugs?

 

Crestwood is feeling the season of fall with the cool at night’s temperatures and slowly the trees are turn from green to colors of gold, brown, red, and yellow. One problem that is not with the beauty of the season of fall is the Canadian Geese stopping over heading south for the winter. We have had so many here lately that our beautiful black asphalt is showing the shades of green. Mother Nature only sends rain as an answer to rid us of “Goose Poop.” We don’t have a scooper around here but for the dogs, which we see the residents following their animals with bags and scooper. So we are begging for rain so us walkers don’t have to watch where we step. It is bad enough to have to cover your head as the geese fly over the areas.

 

I found one thing out at the outside buffet under the shelter we attended over the weekend. The feed was wonderful, fried chicken, fried biscuits with apple butter, cole slaw, corn on the cob, and corn dogs. All free compliments of the Police Credit Union here in Indy. My find was in the women’s rest rooms also outside. The hazards of outdoor living I had forgot about, found ticks on the toilet paper. Woe is me! I knew I liked the inside living and air conditioning for good reasons. Gail, I know you are coming unglued, you don’t like spiders, well ticks are worse. I was so glad I didn’t have but my head to check when I went home that nite. Remember when I had to check all the kids from playing under the trees outside. Well I did kill the nasty thing and didn’t return to the bathroom. Thanks to the lady in the next stall that alerted me, I thought it was flies.

 

Can’t believe Sally watch the Colts and Bears play football last nite and didn’t even notice our beautiful Lucas Oil Stadium with the opening up of the roof to see the stars. I think she has been in the heat of Alabama too long, she even wished for the snow of the north because it was so hot. Glad you weren’t in the hurricane last week in Mobile. She rooted for the  Chicago Bears and they won, but let  Peyton Manning get back up to snuff after his surgery and the Bears will be sent to the woods.

 

I think all the politicking of the last 2 weeks and late hours has gotten to my brain, so I will close this off. Finally next week is the date for the stent to be placed, 8 AM on the 17th. Dianna will be with me, with all your prayers I should be in good hands and the out come a positive one. Thanks for journeying with me all you great friends. Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.



Mom’s thoughts for the week of 09-01-08

 

LABOR DAY 2008

 

Don’t we Americans love a national holiday? A day off and get paid too for those working full time with benefits. Most of us part timers or retirees may not get paid but we too love the long weekends, especially if we can get together with family and friends.

 

Yesterday as I traveled home from the Scott’s who live on the north side of Indy I noticed all the homes with numerous cars in the drive ways, the parks had large groups of picnickers gathered around the tables or playing outdoor games together. No family ever gets enough of “I love you all” time, due to full time jobs, chauffeuring kids to school, other activities and of course grocery-shopping trips, all takes up much of our free time. Labor Day always has the best sales at stores stating the sales of the year. Lots of garage sales appear with lots of nifty bargains, their trash- your treasures.

 

My memories go back to Harrisville Michigan on Labor Day week-end, sidewalks and court yard filled with Crafters from down below, up and down Main Street, the houses on the street bring out their tables and garage sales goodies to catch the crowd and make it big. The Shriners always headed the parade in town, with clowns, funny cars and of course the wonderful Banjotainers. The entertainment at the Harbor in the evening with a double-decker ice cream cone was the topper of the day. Up there it truly was and is the celebration of summer ending and the beginning of fall. The warm temps always would change to 25 degrees colder the day after Labor Day when the wind changed and came off Lake Huron. So everyone would be looking for jackets at the garage sales or even a sweatshirt for warmth. It was always strange how Mother Nature’s clock knew it was time to change the season and yes, she was always on time.

 

Labor Day ----ahhh—a day away from labor and time to stop the world and get off. I hope everyone out there in my Internet circle and recipients of my Moms Thoughts have a wonderful day.

 

I am sure the Gale family is enjoying having Tim home safe and sound from Iraq. The Scott family is doing better now, as Rusty recovers from Sinus surgery, and Jodi is one week out of having major surgery of removal of her baby hatchery. Bless Natali’s heart she is getting to be caregiver for them both. The Boda family finds Alberta up and about and trying to wear Rob, her son out during his one month visit, so she is doing super. Dick and Carolyn have the great news, Carolyn is home recovering from her stroke, and Dick is learning to be a cook, bottle washer, and caregiver also. God bless you all and keep improving. I am still waiting on my procedure on the 17th, trying to be patient, and just wanting it behind me. Thank all of you for your encouragement and prayers of healing. No family is exempt from problems, we all have to face what ever comes our way, hold strong and let the Lord come thru it with you. Make the most of your up times of fun, making good memories to store in your heart. We sure need to recycle them when we get down and count our blessings.

 

All for now, love you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

You can’t think your way into right actions. You have to think your way into right thinking.
 

Mom’s Thoughts for the Week of 8-23-08

 

I’M LATE-I’M LATE

 

Feel like the rabbit on Alice in Wonderland as he runs around holding a clock. Always seem to be late lately, even with the time whizzing by. Just returned from having after church dinner with Lois, Greta, and a treat our old from building #6 friend, Rona. Rona moved in with her daughter some time ago, Kelly Anne treats her like a Queen, and often brings her to church to have time with us. It is a wonderful treat for us and we get into some great girl talk, trying to stay away from the criticizing what the pastor wore or didn’t wear. We do often talk over the sermon and hear each other’s views on the subjects. It is a wonderful learning tool, listening and then discussing how others feel. I am afraid we too often don’t take the time to listen, we are too busy thinking of what we are saying next. There is the old SELF again. Guess we all have that weakness from time to time.

 

This week flew by, more than usual, had my lab work done for the pre-tests for Sept. 17th. Hooray the lady was able to get all the blood she needed this time, they usually hate to see me coming with my jumping veins. Almost like getting blood out of a turnip would be. So the next appointment is on Sept. 9th for the pulmonary doctors to figure out why I am short of breath. Then finally the dye job and possible stent on the 17th. I am hoping to put all this behind then. I will move on to the next project, which will be with the dentist. The radiation from my cancer caused the scar tissue in my arteries but also weaken all my teeth, the break and I lose the fillings. So I decided one project at a time is enough, so I am eating more soft foods and less steaks and hard to chew items.

 

The tip for the day is one I had to share because it seems to relate to my thoughts and me of late. The Serenity Prayer is one I have thought thru so much, changes I can’t handle and I know only a higher power, my God, is able to direct me and ease my mind. Our control is very limited, we just have to bring it to our conscious mind, and we know to turn it over and let go. While I seem to be slowing down energy wise, I have had to learn I need to keep my strength up at the same time. So I try not to worry but say just slow down a bit, and usually it is called pacing one self. I use to do it when I walked 5 miles a day and at a fast pace. The secret is to slow down just a little and the body takes over into a pace of rightness for the body. I am sure there is a name for that, but I can’t remember at this time. That is one thing I have noticed my memory is not as good as it once was, lack of oxygen to the brain, is my guess. As the saying goes I am in good shape for the shape I am in at this age. So, it is time to sign off and get caught up a little.

 

All take care, thank you for your continued prayers. I couldn’t make this journey without all your love and prayers. Glad to hear Rusty is doing better after an operation cleaning of his sinusitis, don’t think I want to go thru that one. He returns to work this next week, all an answer to our prayers. He is off the highway, which is a blessing to Jodi, and me, too many sleepy folks on the highway.

 

Timmy, my nephew did make it home safe and sound from Iraq. He is enjoying time with his family again. Also an update of Miss Lois, she is returning back to herself after having the pacemaker put in 6 weeks ago. Recovery is slower for one of 93 years of age. God is so wonderful to answer so many daily prayers and bless us with good health.

 

All for now, love always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 08-16-08

 

DOG DAYS OF SUMMER

 

Hard to believe we are already to the middle of August. The weather has fooled us this year, normally in Indiana it is in the 90s and sometimes 100+, hot and humid. Usually ever thing is dry like a desert and humidity is out of this world. Guess that is why it has been referred to as “Dog Days of Summer.” Well in one way we have lived up to that name around Crestwood Village South. One of the buildings had a social named  just that. Their theme was of course Dogs and More Dogs, the menu followed suit, Hot Dawgs, PawtatoSalad, Barked Beans, Soda Paw P, and Pup cakes for dessert. This building is one of the buildings having pets allowed, so it was only fitting to have the fashion shows by the dogs, with entertainment being the dogs and all music appropriate about dogs. Now most of the fashion shows here have been by managers modeling lovely clothes, and I believe the dogs have replaced us now. Doesn’t say much for us!

 

It is Indiana State Fair time, and the weather has been in the 70s and low 80s so who can complain’t about that. The attendance is way about its normal number and it surely will be a record season. I for one am loving the cool evenings and nights, sure better than sweating, which we always did with out air conditioning when I had the kids at home. Not only has the weather changed, so has the return of kids to school earlier every year and the book rental fees are outrageous. I remember to pay $10 for the fees for each child was unusual, now, Dianna along has to pay around $80.00, and Tom doesn’t require books. I know the other children from grade school up to high school can run in the hundreds a semester. So glad you children are adults and I don’t have that expense to fit in my social security check.

 

Good News, if the plane ever gets on a flight schedule with the Army to this country. Timmy Wilkes, my great nephew will be returning from active duty in Iraq. Tim served in his second tour for over the last year. His family has been anxiously waiting with what is now the 3rd delay of his flight arrival. He is due to land in Georgia on Saturday the 16th now. God has blessed us in his family to return him safe and sound home. Tim I hope you know how proud we are of you and how much we appreciate your time and serving to keeping us safe here at the home front. Take time with your family they have paid a big price along with you for the safety of our country.

 

Till next week, I love you all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

There are two theories to arguing with a woman. Neither one works.



Audrey 3 mos. Layla 2-1/2 yrs. 8-3-2008

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 08-09-08

 

THE SMILE OF A CHILD

 

Recently they did a special testing of the brain waves from a wide group of folks, on the TV news. The ones that were mothers had a happy respond on the charts when shown a picture of a baby smiling. They say mothers more than others showed the heart of happiness and warmth just to look at a baby smile, and not necessarily their own. God was sooooooo smart when he made us women to be mothers and oh how he blessed us to have such a role in our lives. I believe we do have tendered hearts than others and always wanting to nurture. I had to show you all my two great grandbabies, Audrey at 3 months, and Layla Belle at 2 ½ years old, taken last Sunday as I was treated to play with them both. These two wee ones are even more special to me lately, due to the medical journey I am going thru since April. I want so bad to still be around and able to have fun with them for many years to come. At least till I get to be a great great nana for their children about when I am 90.

 

The result of the CT scan showed the scar tissue from radiation of my throat 15 years has covered over with plaque. The doctor has eliminated the surgery to clean out the artery that is blocking as too dangerous to operate on. So they are taking steps to try to do a stent.

 

Wednesday, Sept. 17th I am due to go in for a cerebral angiogram and possible angioplasty/stent. Dye will be injected into my blood vessels with x-rays being taken of the blood flowing to me neck and head. Once the results are determined the doctors will decide to proceed with the inserting of the stent thru a catheter from the groin into the blocked artery to keep it open. IF it is too dangerous they will then say NO to the stent. The procedure calls for laying flat for 6 hours and if stent is involved I would be kept overnight.

 

At this point I am questioning due to all the risks involved, should I or shouldn’t I? Don’t we all wish we had a crystal ball so we could see the future outcomes and not have to fear what is ahead? I have about a month to weigh, pray, weigh and pray some more. I know I want to see the beautiful smiles of those two wee ones turn into a child, a teens and then a proud to me adults. It will all be worth it in the long run if it brings me back to a health state. I know my God is with me, he already knows the outcome, so I have to pray he will place in my heart the assurance that this is the right way to go, do the stent or do nothing at all.   I am fortunate at his point the shortness of breath is the only problem I have and it is only when walking any length of distance. I am still average about 2 miles a day with no side effects otherwise. The walking is keeping my heart and lungs strong, so I just pace myself. We have 38 members in the walking club so I have lots of company.

 

So there is the scoop for you all, wish it was more exciting and fun to read. No journeys thru the downs of bad health are pleasant. They can be very trying for you and your loved ones. But it is part of life and we rarely can escape those times, it just makes the good time all the more blessed. All take care till next week. Always, MOM

  

TIP OF THE WEEK:

 

When faced with a mountain that seems too big for you to go over, around or you want to quit, Place your trust in God and leave all the consequences to him, he will guide you. Soon you will be looking back and wonder why it ever looked so big in size.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 08-02-08

 

Still holding on

 

This has been a week of doctor appointments. But even with the rushing and waiting it has helped me to be a little more optimistic. I met my new general med doctor on Thursday, know he will be overseeing my care as I journey thru this medical problem and future routine care.

 

I went to the surgeon appointment with the idea that a date for surgery would be set upon seeing my CT scan results. Well, two things happen. One, I have a new surgeon, time lapse of 2 months moved the original ones on to different staffing.  However, God made good of this, the new doctors staff gave me some details and will be allowing time to consider the future surgery, Cleaning the artery out or a placement of a stent.

 

  1. I am to get clearance from the ENT that has cared for my throat 15 years that surgery would not create a bigger risk with my cancer history and damage done by the radiation. The scar tissue that formed from my past radiation on the artery over the year collected cholesterol-causing plaque. Would surgery-cleaning cause damage and open a can of worms to speak on the scar tissue?

  2. The shortness of breath is not from the heart (all is good) and not from the artery blockage. So, I have to have a lung specialist find the cause and get it corrected before any Anesthelogist would agree to surgery.

All this has made me more optimistic that this new surgery team of doctors are covering all bases. True the waiting and not knowing is hard, but it will be best to cover all and not jump into surgery that may not be best. They assured me I have a good supply of blood going to my brain even will the blockage in the one artery, even if it closed completely.

 

I was grateful to have my daughter Pam go with me to the surgeon appointment, her understanding of the medical field sure made it simpler for me. Thank you Pam, today being August 2nd makes Pam 51 years old, Happy Birthday Pam, so glad God picked me to be your mother, but wish it didn’t have to make me older each year.

 

So I am holding on thru this journey and will keep you all posted. Thank you for your prayers and calls of concern and thoughtful cards. Encouragement always helps others to not feel alone in times of stress. Till next week, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: God is always with us and lightens our load when we call on him. He is constant and faithful with his love.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of  7-26-08

 

On the medical merry-go-round

 

Ever felt like all you do is go to doctors, we older folks agree it is a life-consuming schedule. It seems like I have been on one since April of this year. My patience’s are running thin but seems you can’t rush any of these white coats. As a matter of fact one very famous heart surgeon Dr. Michael DeBakey passed away last week at age of 99. I owed this man much much gratitude for he was the one that gave your Russ 7 years longer on his life. He operated on him back in the 70s when no doctor here in Indiana practiced Open Heart Surgery. He was a very organized skilled man with one thing on his mind, to do what he was blessed with the talent of doing, saving lives. He had an organization that had your journey down to a science of perfect precision and being so he had you return home with hope of enjoying life as quick as possible.

 

I am afraid not all doctors run by that dedication with office staff of the same. I had to help my two doctors offices along this week to get things moving along. I had my CT Scan on last Friday, for those of you not having one, you lay down, and dye is inserted into your veins for them to take pictures of your arteries, in my case my neck ones. Rusty said I would feel like I wet my pants, well it was true though my memory couldn’t go that far back in my childhood. You get a warm feeling all over, but the bad thing was the whirling camera going around your head, I thought it was a helicopter. I sure had to close my eyes or get dizzy. So no pain, ease to do just time consuming. I thought some one would be calling me by Wednesday with the out come, or sending results in the mail. No such luck! So after a call to my regular doctor and then one to the surgery teams secretary and much waiting,  I got very little info but scheduled appointments for both doctors.

 

I see my new doctor at I.U. Medical on August 30th, with the hopes he has the results to talk to me about, an appointment with the surgeon on August 31st, at which time he should tell me whether or not he will do the surgery. The CT Scan showed tightening around the carotid arteries, it could be scar tissue causing it or blocked arteries. SO hopefully we will know for sure what is to be done this next week. I am so ready to know my self.

 

I am sorry that my moms thoughts have been on my situation, would love some fun stuff again to write on. I am not being the most patience to be patient. Seniors years sure can slow us down, I am so grateful to be in good health otherwise and know the surgery if necessary will be my option to going back to being the busy person my personality allows me to be. I am still active just winded easy, So Sally, there is no changing me. I enjoy walking with the Walking Club and trying to stay healthy as I can with the help of eating healthy and getting my rest, 8 hours at night.  (wonder how they manage on 3 or 4 hours, I would be sleep deprived). I am a person who loves to do for others, so I will be so as long as I can. I believe God put me here to serve however I can. I do try to take care of me too,  I so want to be around for a long time to see Layla Belle and Audrey Madalin grown.

 

Sally asked about my sister Alberta, she has been on somewhat the same merry go round. She was found to be anemic all of a sudden, though we thought she was just tired from our trip to GA. She has had tests and new medicines to deal with. So, she has been staying in a lot and resting herself. She has had quite a few relatives visit up in Michigan for this time of the year. I talk to her almost daily, trying to keep each other perked up in our circumstances, trying to keep each other afloat in this deep sea.

 

 So stay tune, thank you all for your love, prayers, and encouragement. It is when you get down you know how much others love you. Friends and Families, they give us the strength we miss at times of stress in our lives.  Till next week. Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

Vacation is when you travel thousands of miles to see what rain looks like in other states.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 07-19-08

 

ANTICIPATION

 

Have you ever noticed how quickly we take our mind to anticipating how the future is going to come out? As I told you last week I am in the process of having medical tests done to see if surgery on my carotid artery will be necessary. Being in the TESTING STAGE, nothing has been determined since my doctor requested the echo-gram (I think it is called) back in April. I had the test in May--- and here it is July and I am still testing. Don’t know anymore now than I did in April, 3 months ago.

 

The STRESS TEST on the 8th of this month was a real doozy. Thought they were trying to kill me for sure. I made it through the 4 hours process with only heavy breathing for the last uphill climb of the treadmill. Thought that was good for an ole lady of 69. My heart rate being 140 and blood pressure close to being 200/100 made me mighty nervous for a bit. Well I made that one, survived with out a stroke or heart attack.

 

I have a CT SCAN this week that is to show where my blockage is located in my neck arteries. Then hopefully the doctors will decide what they are planning to do. Then I might get the scoop and know something. Till then I am dealing with the waiting game---anticipation is in the forefront of my mind. Even with the past history of throat cancer, other surgeries, family’s ups and downs, I thought I had learned the big lesson---“God is in control.” He knows all storms to come into our lives and the outcomes of each one. He also tells us not to worry for he’ll bring us thru each and every one of them.

 

So here I am finding myself anticipating and not on the positive side. I try to eliminate worry from my thoughts but to look to my Lord to care for me thru FAITH. I know it’s easy for us as humans to feel weakness, time we don’t feel adequate to what is ahead of us, even dread comes into play for us to deal with. I ponder on that; our Lord faced so many of those same feelings and questions as he was human on earth following God’s plans for him. He truly was made to be HUMAN as we are-to know, and to feel all we do in our situations. If he showed all those feelings is it any wonder that we do the same.

 

I know when my weakness of anticipation comes thru is when I need to lean heavier on my Lord, read his words, trust and believe all is in his hands. I look back over the years and he never failed to carry me thru all my problems. This reaffirms he’s going to take me thru the storm and there is always a brighter side to every storm. I love a plaque I bought for our Ladies powder room here, it says “It takes rain and sunshine to make a rainbow” Rainbows are God’s beauty for us to see. I even stopped my car, pulled to the side of the road one time to see a “Double rainbow” following the rain. Absolutely awesome to see! The perfection could only come from God of the beautiful colors.

 

Keep your prayers going for me, for the doctors and a positive outcome. I appreciate your faithfulness. Remember I love you all, Always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty.   (Sicilian Proverb)



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 07-12-08

 

100,000 miles

 

Have you ever noticed you get a brand new car and for the first 100,000 miles the car runs like a dream, almost purrs like a cat. Then one thing at a time seems to happen, the brakes get mushy, the radiator over heats & clogs, you need new wires or battery or a tune up they call it. After nickel and diming us we finally trade it in for a newer model again. Even the monthly payments are worth having peace of mind & dependability.

 

I relate so much of that to our own bodies as we get older. Now, I know we can’t trade ourselves in on new bodies but we would love to be able to make it so simple. Many go thru the fantasying and pain of having plastic surgery to correct the “outer” problems of their bodies. The results are often artificial and unnatural. Our “inner” parts do start to fail us, we need that 100,000 mile tune-up to rejuvenate us in our senior years. We are fortunate to live in a modern world where the high medical expertise many folks get to live “better” lives with open-heart surgery, hip and knee replacements, and the wonder of cataract surgery is a God send blessing.

 

This week I’ve tried hard to dwell on my blessings, almost 70 years old, survivor of throat cancer and 35 radiation treatments. Even with that I’ve been mostly a caregiver of others and remained in good health myself and retained a high energy level. Last month a test showed I had blockage of my arteries in my neck, Carotid, it seems the radiation of 15 years ago, more than the smoking I did then, has done damage to my arteries, possible scar tissues. I had a stress test on Tuesday to see if I was able to withstand surgery if needed. My second test will come on the 18th when dye will be injected to find the location and severity of the blockages, Only at that point will the surgeon say “Yea” or “Nay” to surgery. I am trying to remain active even with the shortness of breath I have developed. My stress test ended up being 4 hours long and quite an ordeal! Between sitting in an ice cold waiting room in one of the hospital’s nitie, holding still for another monster of a camera to take hundreds of pictures, and finally being placed on a treadmill they got my heart rate up to 140 beats a minute with my blood pressure being 182 over 88. I feel I have to be in better shape than I thought for I didn’t have a stroke or heart attack, I survived the test. The lady of younger age before me ended up in the emergency room.

 

It is really a shame us seniors “Golden Years” are full of doctor appointments, tests and discomforting procedures. I am sure the person who name the “Golden Years” must have been a young punk kid who was lazy and didn’t want to work, said those seniors have it made. Ha. The young forgets that we have earned our retirement because of working jobs, raising a family, and little time for pleasure. Sure wish the Golden Years were more like being on vacations and taking it easy, instead of waiting for the next breakdown of our body.

We have to continue to see blessings of life and think on them and not the negatives. We are breathing and living life, God make it to the fullest, please! I want to see my great grandbabies full grown.

 

All take care ---enjoy the summertime, picnics and barbecuing with family. I will see you next week. Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Every good thought you are thinking is contributing to the rest of your life.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 07-05-08  

Happy - Happy - Happy!

Click to enlarge picture of this bride!  Remember the mouse-over.

 


MOM’S WEDDING NOW

 

That is about as close as I will be planning to be to getting married again. I promised the picture and here it is. It was a fun afternoon at Red Hat Wedding Memories and I was honored to wear this beautiful gown from Europe. I am sure the gown is what made the bride look youthful and trim, true ladies they do cover a multitude of lumps and rolls. I had to hold this lovely gowns skirt in to get thru the archway. Believe me the weight of these gowns and under skirting sure wears the bride out fast, mercy and I didn’t even have to dance at a wedding reception with mine on. Once again I have compassion for others, seems I learn all these little lessons as I go along in life. The other side of the street is not always what it appears to be. Reminds me of the graceful swan on the lakes, flowing gently but underneath the water he or she is paddling like crazy.

 

I had some comments on last weeks Mom’s Thoughts I would like to share with you all:

 

A friend of a friend, who lost her husband this past year, told my other friend "when one door closes, another will open.” I'm sure you have found a lot of open doors, my friend. Love you, Sally (Alabama)

 

Jan, Thanks for the lovely description of your red hat event!  Thanks mostly for the great picture of you and Russ. I had forgotten what a gorgeous young thing you were. You are having such a fun life.  Me too.  Ain't life grand!  Love your old school ditching friend.      Diane (NC)

 

My goodness Mrs. Scott.  You didn't need a long flowing gown and veil to look gorgeous and wow that Russ, what a  hunk.  You did well my dear and 26 good years far out way not ever having it at all.  I too have never had a long gown and veil.  Never really thought of it as a necessity.  Having the right man is by far more important.  I say again WOW!  Can't wait to see the pics and my friend dressed as princess.   I know they will be great. Luv ya nice lady   Q (Noblesville In)

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Thanks for the kind words from you all! I love knowing someone is out there listening to me rambling on every week.  Thanks for sharing the month of June and bridal stories, we are on to July, promising to be a cool one compared to the past years in Indy. I am ready for some good weather and less rain and tornadoes continue to pray for all those who have lost everything in the floods and tornadoes. God will send his loved ones to their aid that is what is all about helping each other’s weather the storms of life sharing our possessions when needed to ones who have lost all. God bless all my friends and love ones in this Moms Thoughts Mail List. See you next week. Hugs and kisses. Always, Mom

TIP OF THE WEEK:  If all my friends jumped off a cliff, I wouldn’t jump with them. I would be at the bottom to catch them.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 06-28-08

 

WEDDING MEMORIES

  

On April 4, 1956 I stood as a bride looking into the eyes of my soon to be husband Russ’s eyes. I could see the beauty he saw in me as his bride at age 17,he was the tall, dark & handsome “Prince Charming” we ladies all dream,he was 23 years old.  Our eyes showed the love and promise of a wonderful future together. I wore a beautiful pink 2-piece suit with hat to match, I was delight to have this outfit, as money was tight and all my parents could afford then. All girls dream of a church wedding from the time they learn the words love and marriage, sometimes even at the age of 3 or 4, like Mommy and Daddy, and wear a beautiful long flowing white laced wedding gown. My wedding was beautiful, my life with Russ was only 26 years before his passing, but our 25th wedding anniversary found us honeymooning and more in love than ever. It didn’t take a wedding gown to make us succeed in our marriage, our start was fine. 

 

Here 52 years later, I got a “dream” part of my wedding. Yep, at age 69 this last week I wore a gorgeous European bridal gown of white lace with a flowing puffed shirt and train. My head had a beautiful white veil flowing to my waist. I even became teary eyed as I stood under the decorated arch of white netting with silk pink roses. My prince charming was missing but not the feeling of elegance and luxury of a princess.

 

All week Pat, our manager, and I worked to turn our lobby into a church sanctuary for our Red Hat “Wedding Memories” Social. Potted silk arrangements, greenery, surrounded our row of pews chairs, our banquet skirted tables held white decorated wedding cake, crystal holding nuts and mints and bowls of lime sherbet punch for serving our guests. Only Red Hatters are gutsy enough ladies to dress in white bridal gown at our age. Again our Director, Managers, and one Resident modeled the 11 bridal gowns for over 75 guest ladies. Many of the Red Hatters had their wedding gowns on displayed on the walls, with pictures of their weddings, many had pictures then of their 5oth wedding Anniversary together. Our walls held bridal gowns from early 1900’s thru the 50 & 60s up to the 1990’s. Laughter and smiles were shared when many of the ladies shared stories of courting, proposal, and wedding days. One resident model, Molly is in her 80’s and size 4, looked beautiful in her antique gown and veil. The faces of our group glowed as they all got into the wedding mood of happiness.

 

Our socials here keep us young and going, It was a lot of work, I for one didn’t have to be rocked to sleep on Friday night, I dropped to the bed but you know all the compliments of fun I am hearing made it worth all the work. Our lobby is back to normal again & the calendar says only 1 more dinner for 40+ to get thru this coming week. Piece of cake, after that gala event last week. Oh yes, we had pictures taken and I promise when I get one you will see it too. Rusty called while I was in the bridal gown (he was on the road in Iowa) when told what I was doing, he said, “Am I getting a new Daddy?” Ha, didn’t shock him what his mom might be up too. So till next week, laugh, enjoy life, its all so dear and short-lived. Make sure your loved ones know you love them. Always, Mom

  

TIP OF THE WEEK: 

 

Happiness comes thru the doors you didn’t even know you left open.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of June 21, 2008
 

Generation Ties

 

A plaid and checked tablecloth bought by Dianna recently, took Dianna, Pam and myself back to a buried visual memory of a dress our dear Fairy Grace, your Grama, wore in the 60’s & 70’s. It was a moment we all loved visualizing her wearing that one dress. It in a flash brought her back to our present lives, as we remembered the picture of her holding a Mother’s Day gift of a lamp we had given her many years ago. Instant recall is certainly a gift from only God, no way could we have developed that ability on our own it was given to us.

 

Memories, touching a quilt made by a long ago loved one, with a touch can bring back memories of dresses worn, scraps sewed together becomes a gathering of the past. So and so’s dress, or Mom had one made out of this scrap. There is many homes which hold items of generations passed to present ones, many called antiques, old pieces, something in the family someone had, and discards, etc. I remember when I was younger thinking and why would I want that thing? Makes me laugh how immaturity souls only look often at the present worth only, money they might receive for it now.

 

As we age I have found we need that closeness of the past as we begin to lose our family members to death. The Grandfather Clock I have hanging on the living room wall no longer keeps time, ahhh, but the memories are still there. I recall it being in Grandma Lee’s (Fairy’s Mom) kitchen. May have been greasy, black looking, covered with dust till Paw Paw restored it completely to its natural beauty. The lion heads of gold are one outstanding feature of it. I still can recall the warmth, comforting feeling, I had when Dad and I visited her in the 50’s when we were newly-weds. Her home held the aroma of dinner cooking on the stove, her teasing joking ways with Dad, showing the great love she held for him as her grandson.

 

I glance around my apartment, I see the Scott platter hanging over my table, blue and white and atleast 100 if not 110 years old. The last home it was in was Grama Forsythe’s (Dad’s Grama). I wasn’t blessed with knowing her but she too cooked and was living fun so I was told. Such a shame we can’t bottle up all those precious memories for future recall. Some get lost to the past, making the ones we still relive even of more value. Our heavenly Father created families and it was his plan that we carry on generational ties with those who have gone before us and those yet to come----those who share our genes, blood and even our crooked noses. Deuteronomy 4:9 says, “Be careful and watch yourself closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.”

 

Everyone still has generational ties thru things they have in their home, daily stirring memories. As they pass to the next generation, hopefully some wonderful stories will go with them. Keep your heart full of laughter from the past. Always remember how much I love you all. Thankful daily for you being in my life.

 

All for this week, Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: A smile is a curve that can set things straight.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of June 14, 2008

 

PLAYING CATCH UP

 

This week is to catch you all up on what is going on that I am too busy to create a Mom’s Thought this week that needs concentration. So I will do better next week I promise. I have been trying to help out the residents of our building since the elevator has been down and out since May 27th. We have 3 floors in our building and I hate to say many on the 3rd floor are in wheelchairs, use walkers and unable to make it down the stairs. We have had the Perry Fire Dept. on stand by incase in dire emergency happen and they would need help getting to the ground floor. We have been lucky, just residents needing grocery up the stairs, mail picked up and laundry baskets carried down to the laundry. It has been everyone pitch in as a family should and work together till we are up and running with the elevator. The man working on the elevator is a Christian man who prays daily for help to handle all the problems he has run into with the older elevator, at the current time he is done but we are waiting for the State of Indiana to send the Inspector out. Pray that he comes soon and lets these folks return to a normal life.

 

On top of this we have Flag Day this weekend with a march around the flag pole of all the Crestwood Seniors and their walkers, carts and selves all decorated in red, white, and blue. We are a patriotic bunch for many go back to the reality of World War 2, and a few further back. Following the parade we have strawberry shortcake for approximately 200 with music to enjoy. Have any of you ever cleaned and sliced that many strawberries. Well the managers and helps got it done in our building today. My manager Pat is back full time working, doing real good but tires easy still. I try to help where I can but certainly not the many hours while she had surgery. All the folks are so happy to have her back and well on the road to complete recovery. She plus many of our residents will be walking in our Cancer Walk later this month as survivors. God is so good to get us thru cancer!

 

Rusty, my son is out on the road pulling trailers to TX and MN. Of course I keep my prayer line going while he is gone and until he returns. My dear little Layla is growing and learning, her folks and Grama Pam have her as one smart little cookie. A delight to be around. Our new baby, Audrey is beautiful at 6 weeks, she is so healthy and gaining weight, over 9 lbs. I told her Grama Dianna that we would have to call her Punk like Rusty called her when she was a baby, Dianna’s Dad called her his “Pumpkin” and Rusty shorten that to PUNK. She was a beauty of health as a baby.

 

This weekend also, Layla’s Mom will be 23 years old, on Mom Esther’s birthday, my step Mom would be 93 on Flag Day. She is so missed by all our family and Tori was so blessed to be born on her birthday and named after her, of course it was due to a bet Grampa Thornton made with Pam, it cost him $100 and he said the Scott’s would do anything for money. HAHA!!!Any way Happy Birthday to Tori !  On Flag Day we will be celebrating  Ryan Emard’s graduation from High School. He is the son of my son Rusty and Jodi, they are so proud and having a party for all to congratulate Ryan. Way to go Ryan!! I am thankful to have him in our family. Happy Fathers Day to all you guys,  we love you and wouldn’t have all these beautiful babies without you!!!

 

My dear neighbor and proxy Mom, Lois is scheduled to have a pacemaker put in on Monday, she is 93 years young and looking forward to being spry as 80 when she comes out of surgery. Please keep her in your prayers for a successful surgery with an excellent surgeon and God guiding his hands. It is so wonderful all that advances Modern Medicine has been able to accomplish.

 

Okay, I am getting long here, So I will close for this week, catch up on the Red Hat Wedding Memories coming up next week. Woe is me, doing the decorating for these socials. I love you all take care,   Always, Mom

 

Tip of the Week:

While waiting for something to turn up, start with your shirtsleeves.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 06-07-08

CRAZY WORLD 2 ! ! ! ! !

I asked and I did receive comments on last week’s topic, CRAZY WORLD. Thank you that did respond. I know there were more folks feeling the crazies instead of just me. Since last week we now have a candidate for the Democrats to nominate as a runner against Mc Cain in the fall election. Question? All you folks that voted for Obama in the primary to stop the Clintons from winning will you cross over in the fall to McCain again and put the Republican in office or what? It will really be interesting to watch. Till then read some of the comments I received:

Jan, Great letter! You covered all of the things everyone is concerned about. My big disappointment is in the failure of the democratic process of one man one vote. Clinton wins in several states for example, West Virginia, and the "superman delegates all go to Obama. Why even have the primaries? They should all be on the very same day like the general election and there should be NO superdelegates. Keep praying as you do. It's the only thing that keeps us from focusing on the things that aren't important. It's how we choose to live our lives and treat others that truly counts in His eyes. Love Diane Pascal of NC

Ahhh, I'm with you, it's hard to be positive these days! And our politicians aren't making it any better. Bush is a disaster for sure, went to war on a lie and now our boys are suffering. And then there's Obama, with his religion. You'd think he'd get smart and quit that church and find one, which is sensible. Do we really want him as our president. And then there's John McCain, who lives in Bush's bubble about war. You'd think he'd know better after suffering from torture for years. We are now in 2008, soon to be2009, you'd think we would be a changed nation and start communicating with our enemies to the extent that we don't have wars any more, and our boys wouldn't come home without arms or legs or worse, dead. And how do you believe in religion when all they do is get involved in politics and condemn everyone. This God that everyone talks about is he real? Or is he trying to teach everyone a lesson? Wish I knew. All I know for sure, is that it's the first time in my lifetime that I don't know who to vote for. But I don't want to pass either! And as far as living in the past, I don't want to do that either. The only thing I miss in the past are my parents and friends, and thank the Lord, I found the latter again. Love, Sally Bozoneles ALA.

This is where 12 step programs come to good use. They teach that you keep putting one foot in front of the other regardless of the frustration because this too shall pass. I take heed of this teaching my self and also say it to Tori and Ryan frequently. It seems like it's just one thing after another for them. But I tell her to hang in there because they are doing the best they can. They work hard full time, but still can't afford daycare. Carl and I take care of that. They make 400.00 per month too much to put her in the First Step program the govt provides, but the b**** is as I see it, that they looked at last years income!! We're already through the first quarter of 2008, why can't they use that? Ryan works outside and did not get many hours in during the first quarter. Yes the system sucks, insurance, daycare, gas, etc.....add your own. But we have a roof over our heads and a job to go to. We don't live outside our means, lol, isn't that like saying when we have extra money? There is no such thing or extra time for that matter. Yes Don I still want to get out from under the truck, but like mom said, I haven't been able to save squat. it's all gone for gas. So right now I'm just ready to break the driver window so it will roll down. I swore I wouldn't go through another summer like last with that blipping window not working. Who can afford to have the air on in the car? UGH!

Life on life's terms, one day at a time.....

Pam (Jan’s daughter) IN

This is America we all have our views of everyday life as we see it. I know life is difficult from day to day and yes, I do lean heavy on my faith to pull me though. I know I have a BIG GOD and yes, he can correct and change things if he wants, I am sure he does and we don’t notice. He chooses to give us free will in our lives, which sometimes teaches us when they are bad choices. I don’t understand how God sometimes get blames for bad happens, but when the outturn is good then we take the credit. Again this is a crazy world to try to understand. Stay cool and out of the 90-degree weather, hang on tight with all this windy rainy tornado season. I love you all and till next week. Love Mom

TIP OF THE WEEK: Blank bumper stickers are for those you don’t want to get involved.



Mom’s thoughts for the week of 05-31-08

 

CRAZY WORLD

 

Many days in years of raising my family, I would find some hard days and complain of “Woe me, Lord”. As the years passed situations have changed, the kids have grown and with all the changes in this ole world, I find myself wishing for “the old days.” Things were so much easier then to raise children, live day-to-day “normal lives,” that made sense. I find myself constantly having to remind myself that I’ve always been a positive attitude individual. It is certainly hard in a negative surrounding daily.

 

Okay, I have gripes; I’m in a crazy world of negatives and see no solution in sight. In this “Land of the free” would you ever have believed we’d see gas at $4.29 + a gallon? I remember the day $10 would fill a big car topped off. Over Memorial Day weekend most mid-class hard working 2 job families had to stay home due to all the money they used all week for gas to get to work and home. That left no money for a weekend outing for the family that once they put away for a vacation. Oh, how I wish we could bottle some of the gas coming out of Washington DC, for Lord knows the politicians are full of gas—cars won’t run on that kind, even when there is an never ending supply. Our country is in dire need of relief from the current rise of gas prices----I see none in sight and none being promised by the hopefully candidates trying to become President. To me it is not a positive direction when it takes 18 months of advertising before deciding who is going to just be elected as a candidate for the November election.

 

Gas is not the only negative, the never ending war that no one seems to have a solution on how to get Iraq to stand on its own feet and get our military loved ones home. Something is very wrong. The trip to the groceries stores is another “Crazy World” now days. The packaging keeps shrinking in size and prices keep going higher. I sometimes think they think I am dumb and not noticing the change. Foreign countries are supplying most of our foods, manufactured goods, and even drinking water. Yep, they get richer and we get weaker and poorer here. Yep, “Crazy World,” and no glimpse of changing in sight.

 

Even Mother Nature is in the “crazy world” cycle. Tornadoes use to be few and far between, use to touchdown here and there, now we have hundreds in a short time span and they stay on the ground for miles wiping out home and lives that will take years to re-build, it they can afford too. It’s not only tornadoes, the earthquakes wiping out thousands of lives in China and even here in the USA we have earthquakes, floods and devastating fires. With all this happening I’d love to stop the craziness we are seeing in this world, one doesn’t even want to watch the news anymore. Can one stop the world and get off, No it doesn’t work that way.

 

Even with all my complaining I am thankful, so thankful I have trust in a just and loving God. He is the only solution I see in sight, it brings me to my knees to know he will make all things right in his time. That is his promise! My faith is what gives me inner hope in our country’s future, what does folks do that don’t have faith to keep them going? I need this positive attitude for I have grandchildren and great grandchildren who will have to live in our world of the future. So, my prayers will continue for God to make sense of the craziness and return some of the good qualities of the Old days to the “crazy world” we live in.

 

Any solutions out there to my friends, I would love for you to share them with us. Have a great week, thanks for listening again. Love always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

Vegetables are grown for our stomachs but flowers are grown for our souls.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of May 24, 2008

 

HOOSIER PRIDE

 

Indianapolis is currently getting ready for it’s 500 mile race which is ran on the Memorial Day weekend in May. Of course, rain is always a big factor in Indy and believe me we’ve had a lot of rain and delays. Regardless there is always sports fans full of excitement, dressed for all temps as they hurry to the track for practice and qualifications. Monday will also be good cookout day, rain, or shine, for all us Hoosiers as well as around the USA.

 

A few years ago, 2 to be exact, our wonderful Colts football team made us “Hoosier Proud” by winning the Super Bowl Championship. They are a great team with determination for winning and being #1. This week Indianapolis took another win by being elected to host the 2012 Super Bowl Game. Wow, talk about excitement and “Hoosier Pride”! True that’s 4 years away but the goal is at the top of priority of the Colts to be the team to win in our own New Lucas Oil Stadium downtown. That would e the very TOP accomplishment for us in Indiana. ROOT, ROOT, ROOT for those Colts and Indianapolis to be successful host in 2012.

 

This month has been busy for us at Crestwood Village also. I’ve been moving resident’s parked cars for our campus to be blacktop. It required hours of getting license plates and makes of cars for identification for about 50 residents here in #3 and calling them to ask for relocation. We’re almost there with having the concrete stoppers replaced and painting the stripes for parking this coming week. All will be great when done-----no chuckholes to ruin tires or risk falling in.

 

We had a first also in our apartment complex, we held our International Festival for the residents social event. Each building selected a country to represent with foods samples, displays of pics of importance, and costumes. We lucked out with the Good ole USA. We all dressed in red, white, and blue, with lemonade, Coney dogs, hot apple pie with alamode and flags galore. Pretty American huh?  Our proceeds went for the American Cancer Fund for a cure. The other buildings represented German, Italy, Mexico, Greece, and Yugoslavia with food samples and décor of appropriate customs. The margaritas from Mexico were great, braunsweiger, sausage, and sauerkraut for Germany. All made for great sampling. Our treat was 7 beautiful Japanese Ladies in kimonas showing their gracefulness in motion. All 75 approximate residents had a festival fun time. I do believe our activities may keep us hopping but it also keeps us young at heart. Much to do and so little time left in life to do it all.

 

Thanks for listening, hope you all have a great Memorial Day weekend. Many will be staying home with gas prices at $3.99 per gallon of regular. My driving sure has been reduced down to the minimum. Love always to you all, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK: Some of the happiest people in the world go home smelling to high heaven at the end of the day.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 05-17-08

  

Mothers Day 2008

 

 Seems all this week I have relived the feeling of love I received on last Sunday. It was fantastic to have my family together even if only for a few hours. I believe if other Mothers are like me, you can forget the flowers, candy, gifts of material means, the best gift I can receive is all my family together, enjoying the new generations who brighten us all up. There is nothing like a 2,or 3-year-old full of smiles and curiosity, unless it is a new 3-week-old baby that smells soooooo good. Well we had both on Sunday, Layla found a Toyland in Uncle Don’s toy room under the supervision of Tom, Don collects antique toys from days gone past, Dianna just collects things that brings back the memories of her childhood. Of course she was really busy hold Audrey Madalin who is 3 weeks old, Grama Bear has the hang of rocking already. Layla even rode Dianna’s rocking horse she got for Christmas from Santa. Toyland in Bargersville was great fun!

  

I had a email this week from my high school friend, Diane, when I wrote on Motherhood it took her back to her pregnant days in the 50s, I so agree with her comments: “Dear old friend, Thanks for such a true rendition of what it feels like to be a new, inexperienced mom. It brought back a flood of memories! Wish you had been living around Gail and me when we had our first babies. It is such a fleeting time. We are old, and often single, more of our life then we are young and raising children.  I'd go back and do it over again in a minute. Some of it a little differently now that I know better.  That's what makes us good grammas! Love and Happy Mothers day to a great MOM!” Diane Paschal   Yes, Diane it would have been great to have shared the delights of carrying our babies while pregnant, the hard delivery pains that is so quickly forgotten when they place that baby in your arms, the fears and trials and errors of raising from birth to finally send them to school, that an experience in itself.  A lot of memories  that fills our hearts to the brim. Yes, I too would do it all again but can’t even think of me having a baby to care for 24/7. As a joke read, “At this age if I was a mother I would have to hope the baby cried so I could remember where I left it.”

 

  I hope you Mothers out there enjoyed your special day, surrounded by Family. My Mother, sister Geraldine, always were so happy to have their families together for as much time as they could spare. It truly is a Mothers Greatest Gift. I wish I had know when the last time for each child happen to be the last time they sat in my lap and placed those arms around my neck. I would have held them longer!

 

 All for this week, all take care of each other. Love always, Mom

 

 Tip for the week:

 

Always behave like a duck...keep calm and unruffled on the surface, but paddle like the dickens underwater.

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 05-10-08

 

MOTHERHOOD

 

Mothers Day is an International holiday celebrated around the world. All  have that one thing in common, we all have been been born to a Mother.  On the 11th of May we all take time to say “Thanks Mom” in our own way, it may be a card, flowers, gift cards, some even get vouchers of gifts of cleaning, hair salons, doing dishes for a time, spa’s, and such. All good ways for any Mom to know they are loved and appreciated by family. Many cook-outs, family dinners, teas, and gatherings all to make it special for Mom. We now in this busy world  don’t take time to tell Mom enough how she is appreciated. Many have lost Mom’s due to early deaths of illness, divorces, or separation of miles apart, making it hard to say “thank you” on daily basis.

 

Mothers Day brings back how much we love and miss her in our daily lives. I so long for the times I had with my Mother, Mother-in-law, and Step Mom. I was blessed with three terrific ladies to aid in raising me, nurturing me, help in guiding me and giving encouragement through life. I have had proxy Moms since their passing that has given me love and direction and I appreciate them so. But no one can truly give more than a Mother to their children than one that has given birth to them. She is who we run to or call thru our ups and downs in life.

 

I was thinking of Mothers Day on the way to the cleaners today, across the street was Greenwood Park with lots of action going on. I sat in my car and watched for sometime. There was a bout a dozen new mothers who were jogging behind a baby carriage in a circle, all at quite some speed, the jogging changed to going up a hill and back down, still pushing those baby carriages, this changed to fast walking and pushing. The carriages got parked in front of the mothers so they could continue to care for the baby, then the moms went into exercises standing in place, doing squats, body exercises, then back to jogging with the carriages. I thought “WOW” they are really getting a work out, plus the babies were getting a ride of air, I saw happy feet a going in their carriages as they went by. These Mothers must have real determination to get those pounds gone from the pregnancy days. Not sure I would have that dedication.

 

I was very fortunate in my early marriage years while pregnant with 5 children I always lost exactly what I gained in weight within 6 weeks and the old body went back to normal.  All without workouts, it must have been good genes or metabolism. It is really not fair because others have a heck of a time getting back in shape. Pam often sent Tori at 3 months with me to the pool as a baby, often others would inquire how I got back into good shape so quick. I would reply, “oh, I am not her Mom, I am her Grama.” They would reply “Oh, that is

 

worse.” Again life is not always fair.  I have met some women who would make a wonderful Mother and for one reason or another they can’t have children. How and whys of God’s plan for motherhood I don’t know. We just can’t question him for some answers never are given to us to understand.

 

Oh before you think I gloat too much about my weight there was a time God opened my eyes, I gained 50 pounds while caring for Mother in Michigan from lack of exercise. It took me 10 years of trial and error to finally get back to my normal weight. Those were hard walking and bicycling miles to lose it. Life may not always be fair but God works things to make life a seem a little more “fair” at times and teaches us the hard way to walk in others shoes.

 

Thinking still on those new Mothers, I remember back to my newness of motherhood with my children. With Pam I was so immature, nervous and afraid I would do something wrong. I learned with experience that I could care for them as babies, so caring for Rusty and Dianna was much easier. No one could have taught me a much as “on the job training did.” As I became surer of myself the babies relaxed and were more content. So Brittani, relax some and just enjoy those moments with that wee little one, Audrey, now 3 weeks old. If you need an experienced sitter, “Yell, Hey Nana.”

 

To all my mothers our there, I wish you a Happy Mothers Day! Enjoy your day of being spoiled, you have earned it and more. Motherhood is 24/7 for a lifetime but so much love is returned to you, then you are blessed with grandchildren, then great grandchildren and the cycle of life continues on as God planned.

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY, always with love, Mom

 

Tip of the week: You made it Dianna, another hard work week at McNamara Florist, but you made so many Mothers happy with the flowers.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 5-03-08

 

Baby Scents & Stuff

 

An article in the Indianapolis Star on Sunday caught my eye, it had a baby picture, and of course I have had my mind and still glow over becoming “Nana 2 times” on the 19th of April. Our little Audrey Madalin O’Brien was born. This little wee baby is doing beautifully well for being just over a week old. I believe she is beautiful for I am her Nana. I now that each parent, grandparent, and greats even see their baby as the most beautiful ever baby. This is the way it should be, we are so proud to show pictures to all who will look.

 

Anyway, back to the article it said” now at the grown up fragrance counter is “the scent of a baby.” For real a perfume for adults has been manufactured. Johnson & Johnson introduced the aroma of a baby powder and lotion back in 1890. They conjure up memories of happy, peaceful newborn bliss. The fragrance being produced now has elements of violet, cumarine, and musk. When you smell it you smell the scent of baby skin.

 

Our ability to remember smells, especially a baby, takes us back to the nurturing times of our childhood, our children and scents of infants, its clean smelling and soft. Perfume has followed powder fresh deodorant and room air freshener that’s powder scent and all are popular and purchased mainly due to scents influenced from memories past.

 

I use “Vanilla Fields Cologne” as my cologne; I know my one daughter Dianna connects it with me from being around me. Once at church she said she could find my coat by sniffing it out on the rack. SMILE We all do have our very own scent individually and duplicate of no others. Tori, my granddaughter as a child always love to come bath at my house, so she could drench herself with my bath soap & candlelight that smelled of “Tatiana Cologne” I wore at that time. To her it represented “security and softness of Grama.” Bet you. she’d think of the scent when she reads this and triggers her memory.

 

I don’t believe I’ll change my cologne over to “L-Instant Magic” perfume even if it does smell of a baby. But I know Audrey will be available for that, I can smell “Baby scent” and get hugs galore too.

 

Okay so check out the ones you love and see what scents they have, strange but we can recall them even in our dreams. I know your Dad’s scent just like he was here next to me. Have a great week all! Rusty be careful on the road, my prayers are always with you, but I am happiest when you call and say “Mom, I am home again!!”

Always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

The crosses we bear are not supposed to be heavy enough to crush us, but they are heavy enough to bend our knees. (author unknown)



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 04-26-08

 

BLESSED ARRIVAL             Hi. I'm about 180 minutes old !                                         

                                                                                                             
Hello one and all, let me be the proud Nana two times and introduce Audrey Madalin O’Brien, born on April 19, 2008 at 3:59 AM. She is the daughter of Brittani and Scott O’Brien, weighed in at 6 lbs, 1 oz., and 20 ½ inches long. This picture was taken of her only a few hours after her birth. Of course we all think she is beautiful and immediately took our hearts and softened it to mush.

 

I don’t believe there is anything that is more innocent and precious than a new baby at its time of entrance into this world. It is a miracle in itself, how 2 people can create one so perfect from head to toe, I see it as an awesome gift from our God, given on loan to us from birth till the time God once again seeks return to himself the creator.           

 

Pam at the time of Layla’s birth had a bible verse placed over her incubator at Riley Hospital. It is so very true, Psalm 139:14: “I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Such perfect toes and feet with their own markings, little fingers with its unique fingerprints, every inch of this wee baby is working like a machine of excellent precision. I am so humbled and proud to be the Nana God selected to bless this child with as an addition to my family. I so wish I could share this event with Russ, he too would be so proud to see his bloodline continue on this 26 years after his death.

 

Audrey like Layla is so blessed to have support from Grandparents, Audrey has 3 sets and also Nana’s on both sides. This wee little baby will make such a difference in all these adult lives for the better. As her parents grow in the responsibility and love for her, also they will mature. I am very proud of both of you, Scott and Britt you have given us a health little girl, she is that because you cared for her in the past months of her in-house life. Getting her off to a wonderful start.

 

I remember when Grandpa and I brought our first baby (Pam) home, it was scary and we had times of being inadicate of the job we had, but with time it became easier, as will caring for your sweet baby. You both have a great support system, lean on us, we are here for you 24/7, and will help when asked. May we have the wisdom to let you both make some mistakes and without our criticism in order to make your family of three grow strong. I love you all; I thank you again for such a beautiful little baby girl. I held her for a whole hour the 2nd day and will look forward to the privilege again soon.

 

To all out there in the wonderful Internet world, and the ones I mail to, thanks for journeying with me and my pride. It is an awesome journey of love. Till next week, I am doing fine health wise and am working some part time days. Will get to the other emails soon. Love to all, take care, and enjoy the springtime. Love always, Mom

 

Tip of the week:

There are 365 “fear nots” in the bible. One for every day of the year.  “Today I will fear not.”



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-19-08
 

THE RITCH BAPTIST CHURCH

 

About 8 years ago Alberta and I started going in March to Georgia for the Thornton Reunion held each year. We both had always visited on Sundays for the services at Ritch Baptist Church in Screven, GA. Our Mother was baptized there in her youth, as well as Alberta when she was young. Our Mothers final resting place in 1995 was to be by her Mother, Grama Raney. Mother was so proud when money became available for her to have a beautiful marker and white marble cover for Grama’s grave. As a family we decided Ritch Church Cemetery would be the best resting place for Mother. Our dear belated brother, Vern at that time drove Mother’s casket in his van the long time from Michigan to Screven GA. Pastor Ledbetter conducted a lovely service for her and our family. We felt then and still our Mother is “home again” beside Grama and her loved Ritch Church.

 

Knowing the importance of Ritch Church to Mother, we 4 siblings were delighted when our schedules allowed us to worship together Easter of 2005. Mother surely looked down and smiled from above.

 

Alberta and I had the chance to visit with our cousins, Marcy and Fentress Denison over the weekend of our trip this year. They live just down the road from Ritch Church Cemetery. Once again we were able to attend to the cleaning and placing of new flowers on the white marble graves of Mother and Grama Raney. Also the rock with Vern’s name that we placed at Mothers feet as he always said he wished to be buried at her feet.

 

The Sunday we attended last month was the 5th Sunday of the month and they had a pitch-in social afterwards. Everyone pitched in with favorite recipes and dishes for quite a spread at the Church. Then later that evening the Apostles Gospel Group came with “a Sing.” The Ritch Church came alive with their beautiful voices and harmony. While listening I thought what a wonderful sound to surround all the loved ones not only in the church but also for the legacy of souls in the cemetery. It comforted my heart to know my Mother is surrounded with hymns like angel singing in her resting place.

 

Ritch Church some of the city dudes might call them Ole Fashion and out of touch with modern times. It is nothing like the large churches of the city. I however receive a different picture. I feel the legacy of our ancestors has passed on to all hard working farmers, who with modern equipment and knowledge are continuing to work the land with pride and a lot of hard work. All are deep feeling Christians praying as they work the land and depending on God to bring their harvest crops to full growth. This small church but all with a big heart has members of all ages in their choir. The hymnal books still rest in the pews, the wonderful hymns are sung at each service with heartfelt love and gratitude. The children so proudly collect in their baskets for the penny march before leaving the sanctuary. The sermon was given by a wonderful young preacher with teaching and faith building words of direction for his members. (Of course, I teased Marcy that he’d need to slow down for me to catch up on all the words.)

 

From the time you enter Ritch Church you are a guest with all members greeting you with a handshake and welcome words. These folks live what the bible teaches, love your brother and sisters in Christ. I met one lady who thanked me for the writing of my Moms Thoughts that Marcy shares with them all each week. I wish I had more time while there, for I bet she could give me some good topics to write on being on of the “Sassy Johnson Sisters”. Another thing I took note of the days I was there, all are pretty easy going, no harsh words of their neighbors, no rushing but always time to listen and talk with you. All are walking the walk with our Lord.

 

I love my church, Greenwood Christian Church for the years I have been a member. I love to hear our pastor, Shan preach and sing his loved hymns. However, as with the membership growth to 2000 we have had changes, most Sundays are filled with praise and worship songs of recent, no hymnals are present in the pews and we have the words on screens up front. We do have some hymns occasionally, which I am pleased to hear for our generations need those hymns as part of their Christian Roots. So, I’ll try to stand on my roots that came from Ritch Church and keep that warm glow in my heart and soul while worshiping my Lord.To all at Ritch Church  thank you all for caring for me through my recent illness. I couldn’t have been in a more caring and loving place than our Ritch Church of Screven, GA. See you again next March.

                                                                                                   Love to all, Always, Mom

 

 

Tip of the week:

A small stone looked up to God and asked God “What am I here for?”

God replied in one simple sentence. “To be a stepping stone for others who need your help.” Laura Harr, age 14 years.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 4-12-08

 

SAFELY HOME

 

After 2500 miles, Miss Alberta and I are back from the badly needed vacation. The first part of our trip was super, Memphis, TN with the Boda’s, then Hartselle, Ala. with Rob and Sheri, (Alberta’s son), then on to Waycross, GA with Gladys, a cousin, and finally reaching Ferndina Beach, Fla with Katherine, Alberta’s friend of 50 years +. We were blessed with a safe trip and wonderful southern hospitality. We thank you all for giving rest to the weary and time to recoup from traveling.

 

The weekend reunion went wonderfully well, the attendance was near 60+, and all came carrying their southern cooked dishes, and shamefully delicious desserts. The weather cooperated with a sunny 75 degrees. Steve (Vern’s son) and his family traveled all the way from Denver CO for the re-union. We all missed Vernon and Geraldine being at the reunion, but Steve announced a new grandson’s birth named after his Dad, Vern Thornton. Good to see all the relatives from here and there that attended.

 

Afterwards Alberta and I spent time cleaning up the graves of Big Nanny and her Mother’s graves, which are only a short distance from Marcy’s where we stayed for the weekend. It is great to have cousins that can cook those southern dishes, butter beans, corn bread, coconut cakes and pecan pies, which was my down fall. Had a wonderful day at Ritch Church for Sunday service, 5th Sunday social pitch in, and evening entertainment of the Gospel music from the Apostles. That is when my diverticulitis decided to flare up. Thank goodness for all the ole fashion hand fans of the church and wonderful fanning from ladies of the church, cause all I was doing was passing in and out, other than stays in the bathroom. The most I remember was embarrassment and the passing out. I truly realized how severe it was in the ambulance to the emergency room at Jesup Hospital. I don’t know how but Alberta and Marcy pulled me through till the responders of the 911 call got there to take over. You know when you are in good hands and I was.

 

The Jesup Hospital I went to was the same one I was born in 69 years ago. Sure didn’t want to end my days there, not yet. Dehydration and blood pressure drop made it seem like I was checking out of this world. Again it was not my time, I have had some close calls, but this one was a scary one. We rested for a day or two and changed our plans and headed for home, needing to see my doctor and come up with planned diet and life change to make sure I don’t face that situation again.

 

When it takes 4 days to make 1,000 miles traveling it’s almost like the wagon train days. We checked into motels early and rested. We had 4 days at Rob’s again for him to spoil us with his cooking and TLC. So safely we are in Indy, I’m home and Alberta’s at Pat’s resting to go on to Michigan soon. I can’t cover all the fun and happenings in this week’s Moms thoughts. So I will say thanks one and all for getting me back on my feet, the prayers to get us safely home and off the road. Next week, I want to write about The Ritch Church of Screven, GA. so see you all then.

Love to all, always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

Brittani and Scott, Nana is home again, so it is time to have our little baby Audrey Madalin O’Brien. New babies are so much fun.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 03-15-08

 

ONE IN & TWO TO GO

 

Sounds like a game huh? No not really just one suitcase in the car and 2 yet to finish packing and to go to the car. Yep, it is that time again, time for my sister Alberta and I to head to Georgia for the family reunion on March 29th. This family reunion goes way back and something my Mother hoped never to miss. She was always so excited when she was able to go home, Screven, Ga. for a get together with all her kinfolks. Of course, back when we lived in Illinois and Dad drove us down twice a year to see his Mother, we didn’t always get to see Mother’s side of the family. Once they divorced and us kids married and left home, Mother traveled a lot and always looked forward to making it to the reunion at the ole hall in Screven, GA. Now we hold it in Odum, GA. Many generations have passed over the years and we don’t have that wonderful generation to guide us. I like to think they instilled in us the old fashion right or wrongs and we still hold them dear in our heart and souls.

 

So on Monday Alberta and I will head out, going to Memphis to visit with Uncle Bob’s family, brother Dick and Carolyn his wife. They are always fun to be with. We really will be bringing them the tired and weary. Alberta came down to Indy earlier this week with Granddaughter Nichol and 4 kids under the age of 7 I think. To many miles and too many hours, but they are here and safe and sound. So she is tired and weary, and I am more than that after 3 months of full time working. Sure know by now I take my hats off to the Crestwood Managers, they sure earn their money and more.

 

I had a call earlier today from Rusty my son, he was outside of Atlanta, GA. Rusty is now driving a truck and hauling campers for a living. Most of the time to Dallas and back. As tired as he sounded I hate to think of driving very long. He does 10 hour shifts, not me, we travel for about 300 or 400 miles and then stop for the day. We sure don’t want to ruin our vacation. Of course as Rusty’s Mama I am praying for him being on the road all the time. He is doing better health wise with his hepatitis or he wouldn’t be able to handle this pace. So pray for his safety along with ours on this trip.

 

I will be gone till the first week in April at least. Hope to stop in Huntsville Ala. And be spoiled by Rob and Sherri like they did last year. Rob is Alberta’s son and Sherri is his fiancé. Some time Easter, and near the reunion we will have time with cousins. Also hope to make it to Savannah Ga this year to Evone’s, a cousin. Oh forgot on to Jacksonville to visit Alberta’s old girl friend, Sylvia. Wont’make it to see my high school friends in NC. Had to cancel get together due to Gail’ surgery and radiation. I love you Gail and we are praying for a quick recovery. I was doing the same 15 years ago, and look at me still on my feet and going. It is hard but you are a survivor, and one to survivor cancer also.

 

All for now, will get back to Mom’s Thoughts on a normal schedule when returning, Pat is on the back side of her surgery and recovery. This building #3 will be glad to have her back. We are so thankful for the blessings God showed her in this journey of cancer scare.  I love you all, got to finish that packing and loading. Always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: I am not flying any fast than my guardian angel can fly.

 

Check out my throat cancer Mom’s Thoughts on Amy’s web page of mine:

Dates are 3-13-04 and 3-20-04.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 3-8-08     (from 01-15-05)
 

The Stillness of Winter

 

On Saturday morning I opened my window blinds, as darkness still appeared, I viewed a beautiful stillness of the night. While I slept the rain, ice, and snow had fallen on a windless city that slept. Indy was a winter wonderland of beauty. The effects it had left on the trees, grounds of Crestwood were absolutely breath taking. I love snow as you all know, but this radiated peace, quiet with no human effect. This is a wonderful time of the night & morning as I feel the presences of God; the calming effect touches my heart and soul. The tranquility is deeply felt; no wonder folks love to go to the woods, mountains, and serene surroundings to become unstressed on vacations. The calming serenity is awesome to my inner soul.

 

All to quickly I am pulled back to the real world, my mood is changed with the snowplow appearing on the streets, the morning paper delivery folks make their pre-dawn drop off of the Indy Star. The wind blows enough to show the ice that remains under the snow on the streets, sidewalks, trees, and cars. What was so peaceful now becomes dangerous to be on and in. This past week the TV has been full of the ice damage in Muncie, Indiana & surrounding areas. The weight of the ice has broken power lines leaving 100,000+ homes without electricity. It can really place a hardship on families as they try to find warmth, shelter, moving in with relatives, all that is required to survive the cold.

 

I recall many times being without heat in our home, once when Dad didn’t pay the gas bill on time, disconnected on weekends and us

huddled by a fireplace on Ripple Road. That big 10 room house sure wasn’t heated by one small fireplace.   Another time in Michigan with Big Nanny, (my Mom) without heat for 5 days. Created a real hardship on us with no generators available and with her Alzheimer’s Disease not allowing her to know why she had to stay covered. With days spent at Boda’s and tons of blankets at night we made it without leaving our home. The cold definitely goes deep to the bone, even layers of clothes doesn’t seem to give warmth. I recall as a child being put under layers of homemade quilts, each weighing at least 10 pounds each, and Mama saying don’t get up. Haha, who could move with all that weight. That was in the south where they had no furnaces only a wood stove in the kitchen, which we huddled around to bathe, & dress. Front side of your body got too hot and the backside was freezing cold. Memories…

 

As I look out my windows I see the maintenance men working as a team to dig us out of the snow. Guess when good times turns to bad times, when calm turns to storms, that’s what it takes team work, everyone helping to bring things back to normal and under control. It sure takes all of us trying to give our best effort to make this world keep a going. Have a great week everyone, stay warm, and Lets pray the electricity gets back on soon for those Muncie Hoosiers. Love to all, Always, Mom

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:  Building up is always harder than tearing down. But when you build up, you have something. When you tear down, you have nothing.

 

 

 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 03-01-08

 

GROWING PAINS

 

This week as I watched Layla with her Grama while we ate at Bob Evans, I noticed the traits of a 2 year old, the word “NO,” or her saying “STOP” to our actions. Had to laugh so quickly they parrot us in words and actions. All too soon we will approach the “Terrible Threes” were they are impossible to be around. I remember my Mother saying to those times “they will GROW OUT OF IT.” It is so true our life is full of GROWING PAINS. We none stay the same, and too often we look back at our actions and regret them. God gives us these times to us so we will GROW. All too often it requires us to GROW UP when we are still acting with immature actions.

 

I look back over the years, I remember the GROW INTO’S of clothes given to me while I was young. I was so much younger than my sisters that I didn’t have to wear hand me downs. But Mother never refused any thing the neighbors gave her for she would alter them down to my size or just wait for me to GROW INTO THEM. I don’t remember going without too much in my youth. We were poor but not that we knew it, we felt rich of love and material things took a hind place.

 

I noticed as I grew older I then tend to GROW OUT OF STAGES of life. As I learned better I did better, that seems to be what life is about. That is where OUR GROWTH comes in. I look back to the person I was many years ago, I was more selfish, angered quicker, more me me me about everything. Thank Goodness the Lord helped me to GROW UP and make lots of changes little by little, and none overnight. You children have had your GROWING PAINS too, none come easy, and many have regrets that we live with as changes. That is when we GROW in where it counts the most heart and soul.

 

GROWING OLDER is not easy for any of us getting into our senior years, it takes a lot of humbling to allow others to do for you, watch over you when you once were so independent yourself. Again life is the same for all, our reactions to change and GROWTH can be good or bad, positive or negatives, it is up to us and what we choose.

 

Thank goodness we have GROWTH to look forward to get rid of bad habits and replace with good habits and ways. Help me GROW Lord to be more like you day to day. Little Layla we will love you in your GROWTH step by step, give us that little smile that melts our heart and we are all yours. A little child shall led us……… All for this week, love ya all. Mom

 

Tip of the week: Love is circular--- the more you give, the more you get, the more you live.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 02-23-08

(a re-run of 1-13-07)

 

Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 1-13-07

 

WHAT HAPPENED TO------

 

It sometimes amazes me how things change over the span of time. Some can now start their car while in the comfort warmth of their own home, with the help of a remote. I know with my Buick I can access a opening to the trunk from my apartment, lock or unlock the car using my remote key chain, the lights automatically turn themselves on and off. Some cars are equipt with TV’s, DVD’s, Trip calculated programs and many more extras. All the comforts of home.

 

With all the modern conveniences lets refresh our memory where only a short time ago our cars represented a whole different vocabulary much less a different level of status. How many of you know about an accelerator being called foot feeds, or have the memories of running to meet Dad up the lane to ride on the running boards of the car to the house? Ahh, some of our seniors remember those days in the 20s thru the 40s.

 

Maybe I need to bring our thoughts forward to days our cars had fender skirts, curb feelers, continental kits to make the car cool like a Lincoln, would all put you in the 50s and 60s. Most of the cars had steering knobs, AKA suicide knobs, or we called them necking knobs as teens. Whatever happen to the emergency brakes, they took the adventure out when they made them parking brakes. I often visualized going down a steep hill with your brakes gone and you at last get to use the emergency brakes you were warned about. Haha!!

 

Here’s some other thoughts for you: Gone is the phrase store bought, brassiere, picture show now known as a movie, percolator became coffeemaker, coast to coast is now world wide, and all those wall to wall carpets are now replaced with wall to wall hardwood floors.

 

Time keeps passing and along with it brings new and we change without even a mere thought being brought to our attention. I remember my grandparents complaining of lumbago----and I don’t hear that any more. Maybe the castor oil they use to have to take cured their pains. My mother gave me castoria every day, she said it made us better behaved kids, no wonder we were too busy sitting on the pot to get into trouble.

 

Yeah, times change, I liked it when the stork brought babies, and everyone didn’t know about others sex life and unmentionables weren’t on the TV commercials. We shouldn’t have to explain to kids what they’re advertising and sex education at the same time. They call us living in the modern days, but I still like to remember the old fashion days. How about you?

 

See ya next week, Always, Mom

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 02-16-08

 

Elvis is in the building

 

This was truly a week of love here at Crestwood Village South. On the 14th building #3 had their Valentines Day Social. Being as Sub Manager I filled in for Pat who is still recovering from surgery. By the way she has made progress she is in the nursing home next door taking therapy, hopefully soon to be home. Anyway, the lobby was decorated with hearts, cupids, and bright red flowers, we had an attendance of 75 men and women, plus the other 6 managers who were sweethearts and served all from the kitchen. Our entertainment was a lovely couple, still much in love since marrying, and Debi and Roger sang many love and romantic songs for all of us. Had candy, flowers, and surprise gift bags for door prizes. All said it was fun and once again the Lord blessed me with a successful event. My dreams the nite before were not full of success but that all went wrong, glad I turned it over to the Lord for the great end result.

 

I must tell you about the Red Hat Society get together in Building # 7 last nite. All the ladies of Crestwood showed up in their red and purple outfits and hats. The younger ladies have to wear pink in case you didn’t know that, we have a few in their 50s. We had pizza, pop, and cookies, to feed us before the entertainment came. Then WOW, in came Elvis alive and handsome as could be in red shirt, white satin jacket and black pants, black hair with those special sideburns, and white and black shoes. Oh my I was back to being that teen ager what screamed, yelled and swooned back in the 50s. When I meet your Dad in 1956 it was the same time Elvis came out with Love Me Tender, and Heartbreak Hotel. At that time your Dad reminded me of Elvis and probably helped me to fall in love with your Dad. Later in the 60s your Dad let his hair grow out and grew sideburns, I have pictures that he looks exactly like Elvis. I have some pictures of Dad that looks like Elvis also in his teen years. The resemblance is remarkable. I use to laugh and tell others I got the next best thing to Elvis, his HOUND DOG. HAHA. Ahh, Dad and I always joked and cut up together, such good memories in my heart.

 

Well I tell you when that Elvis last nite started singing, moving those hips and all, I was taking back about 52 years in my mind. He sang to all us ladies, holding our hands and yeah, we all looked gooey eyed. The love songs bring back so many memories for us all. It is so wonderful to have good memories to bring back. If you have loved and been loved it is the most wonderful experience to keep in your heart. Valentine Week was complete for me, a look back at what was once and I so wish could be again. One day, I pray I will see that man of mine once again, yeah, he too had swivels hips. The impersonsonator was very good and I am so glad I got to share the evening in memories of the past, sort of completed the week for me.

 

Hope you had a great week of love, it only comes once a year, but it is always good for the heart. Take care and see you next week. Love ya, MOM

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 02-09-08

 

LOVE IS IN THE AIR

 

That is the theme for the up and coming Valentine’s Social our building is planning on Valentines Day the 14th. We will probably have about 100 guests from the other buildings here in Crestwood. I am excited though the planning and shopping is really taken a lot of time on top of the managing of the office here in Building #3. I will so be ready for that Southern Vacation coming in the middle of March that Alberta and I take to Georgia and other places in route there and back.

 

Seems the month of February is full of Love in the air, everyone loves to be in love. The love of my life died 26 years ago, but he has remained in my heart and so much of my thoughts over the years. As you know he was not a romantic man, not one of a lot of I love you’s, but I knew he did and hopefully so did all you children. He was a good father providing for us for 26 years, worked regularly, and was consistently available for us. Good character means a lot and his family in return meant a lot to him. So young to die at 47, I don’t know why, and have tried not to question the whys, God’s timing is not ours.

 

God has always stood for Love, his love is perfect and always faithful for us that we can be sure of. We may never know or realize how much he really loves each and everyone of us. I feel he tried to remind us daily when he gave his son to pay for our sins. What a calling, one none of us could ever do for the world. Some gift of love!!!!

 

Dianna, my baby daughter works at McNamara Florist, as you know, this is the busiest time of the year with all the orders and delivers of those red roses. All to give the message of Love to sweethearts of all. I hope the love songs of entertainment we have planned by a couple at our social makes each and everyone feel love, lots of valentines, candy, and gifts as door prizes, lots of goodies to eat and loads of fun. And of course the ladies here in #3 will hope Rose Marie at McNamara over ordered and they get the leftover flowers after Valentines Day. Some of our residents have never had cut flowers of bouquets. It is fun to watch the smiles on their faces.

 

To all Happy Valentines Day, love the one you are with, tell the family ones more often how much they mean to you. All are special and need to hear those wonderful words “I love you.” I know I love you all so much, Always, MOM

 

Tip of the week: One should tell it like it is. Roses are red & Violets are really violet not blue.

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 2-2-08

 

AWESOME EYES

 

AHHHHH, to be able to see the world thru the eyes of a child. No wonder God wants us all to return to being a child. Last weekend I was able to attend a birthday party at Chuckie Cheese for our dear Layla Belle Brown, yep hard to believe she is a big 2 years old. This Nana was in for a real treat, for I had never been to one of the “Chuckie Cheese” for children.

 

I had a date to go with me, my own grandson Tom, Dianna’s youngest son tagged along with this Nana. I decked out in a long skirt, roping beads and a headband trying to look like a “hippie” as the invitation stated. Pam, Layla’s Grama quickly colored peace signs and flowers on their cheeks and I gave Tom a pair of beads and he was in costume. Off we went ready for the big birthday party.

 

The place “Chuckie Cheese” was full of parents with little children, lots of noise, games to play, the mechanical operated animals characters were dancing, playing drums, guitars and singing. Well it took no time for Layla and Tom to quickly get in the mood of the party. Layla picked up the movements fast, moving her body, clapping her hands and having so much fun dancing with the other kids. Tom became awestruck with just watching all the action on stage. He was mesmerized and loving it all. Brother, Scott and Brittany had a hard time getting him to agree it was time to leave after pizza and birthday cake. Do believe he would have stayed and helped close the place up.

 

I truly enjoyed watching the eyes of the children, few of us adults have

the vision thru the eyes of a child. Walt Disney had that talent more than any others when he created into life Disneyworld. His creation has awed struck billions and more children, parents, and grandparents over the years long after his death.  Stepping into an amazing world and escaping from our real world is most welcomed,

 

So if you get a chance get brave and check our “Chuckie Cheese” you might even find yourself dancing in front of the stage and watching the awesome eyes of a child. All for now, see ya next week.

Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Grandchildren are God’s compensation for growing older. Laugh with them and you will stay young at heart.

 



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-26-08

 

VIVA LAS VEGAS!

 

Do you remember that movie back in the 50 or 60s with Elvis Presley and Ann-Margaret and took place in Las Vegas? I was definitely an Elvis fan then and even now. I  Love his Gospel albums for sure. Any way back to the subject for the week, Crestwood Village had their own Las Vegas this past week. We had Casino Nite in Building # 1 for all the residents to attend from 6 to 9 PM. Remember they have to go to bed earlier than the real atmosphere in Las Vegas which is 24/7 seven days a week. I remember when your Dad went out there for the Shriners Convention. He went with the program for a while but soon ran out of money and when the activities slowed down, he head for Grand Canyon to site see, even tried to trade airline ticket to get back to Indiana sooner. That’s my Man!!!

 

Back to reality, our bus made rounds picking up the residents one by one from all the 7 buildings. Our crowd soon became about 200 in the lobby full of tables with dealers playing black jack, poker, and even roulette wheels to bet on. One vacant apartment upstairs became a bingo area and stayed packed with winners and losers. Crestwood was very generous giving each resident free play money to play with. At the end of the night all was to be turned in with your winnings to bet on gifts with tickets. When the drawings were held there was lots of winners with the donated items, Television, Microwave, $25 gift certificates to various stores, Free rent for a month or $100 off rent, $50 off rent for the month, and lots of baskets decorated pretty for the residents to win. They had over done them selves getting prizes for the residents to win. Plus the free food and drink tables kept them playing all evening.

 

I love to see the residents here have fun, get out of their apartments, and mix with fun and conversation. They may all be older generation but they still are so young at heart. Some all die-hard gamblers and lordy lordy don’t mess with their bingo cards. I was glad as always to be part of putting smiles on their faces for the nite. They said I looked the part with white shirt, little black bow tie, and black slacks, I could have worked in Las Vegas. Whew not me, I was up past my 9 o’clock bedtime as it was. HAHA.

 

All for this week, need prayers Pat our Manager who I am filling for goes to surgery on January 31st to have cancer tumor removed from her lung. Praying all goes well and she can recoup and get her old job back and let me stay home some. As always, Mom

 

Tip of the week: Don’t travel faster than your guardian angel can fly.


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-19-08

 

TRY A LITTLE KINDNESS

 

This week we had a Euchre Tournament at our building #3 and 44 attended. It is great fun and entertainment for many of the residents, they move from table to table as the games go on. It was brought to my attention, its something I don’t like to hear and I consider it rudeness to the fullest degree. We have residents, which are handicapped, or disabled and require walkers or the electrical scooters. One of our residents was trying to get around the tables and asked one person to move over, the reply came “You people belong in a nursing home and not here!”

 

That is a hurting remark to make to anyone and rudeness on that mans part. Is this world full of non-compassionate folks like that? I hope not, I know my mother had a big heart and raised us to help others and not to be rude to others. I believe most mothers do the same, teaching their children to have kindness to others in most situations. My sister, Alberta had a balance problem when we flew to Georgia for my sister, Geraldine’s funeral. She had to be pushed in a wheel chair thru all the airports and was totally dependant on others for her care. She said it was the most humbling time of her life. She was one of the fortunate ones, her time in that wheelchair was only temporary. Others aren’t that fortunate and have it 24/7, 7days a week.

 

Saturday we had a snow before dawn and us drivers had to get out and scrape off our cars before we could go anyplace. I had made a stop and as I ran in for a minute, and noticed one with an electrical scooter was trying to scrape off her car. As my Mother always taught me, I saw a need to help and took a few minutes to clean her car off and let her get in the car out of the cold. Didn’t hurt me a bit and only took a few extra minutes from my schedule. She was so appreciative and said she doesn’t get help like that often. I really think that is a shame that we as humans can see others needing help and turn away. Yeah, as you children know, I get huffy and can get mad over laziness of others. I have always been proud that all of my children sees needs of others and helps when they can, most of the time without being asked.

 

Many people get upset when they see the electric scooters out and about allowing folks to be independent and not house bound. I think it is great that Medicare and Insurance Companies have made funds available to let one who is handicap do for themselves. I know my grandson, Tom who has coffin Lowry syndrome that is degenerating his spine and lung capacity may one day be confined to a wheelchair. Will that limit his being a member of this society and being a part of the world when possible? I hope not, though he will face much criticism from others, stares, words that may hurt him and his family, but thank God Tom has an alive and active smile and personality that has brought him to high school. The classmates in school have grown up with Tom, they have showed compassion, kindness and love for Tom. Maybe his generation and the exposure to handicaps will make for better adults to come, I hope so.

 

There are times I have had to have crutches for a short time, I remember they hurt my underarms, made sores, and took an enormous amount of energy to get from one side of the room to the other. Again I was fortunate for it was temporary, but I remember and have compassion for others I see using them since. Kindness is taught by mostly parents, teachers, and other people we mentor, if you haven’t learned to be kind, it is never too late, there but the grace of God goes I. Could fear of being dependant make us ignorant and cause us to make heartless remarks to others? We all need to try harder to improve the world we touch and help where we can.

 

Please give this some thought before we let words hurt others. Love you all,

Always, MOM

 

TIP OF THE WEEK:

Instead of putting others in their place, put yourself in their place.

 

 


Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-12-08

 

Making Life Fun to Live

 

How many out there made New Years Resolutions this year? I Use to make a big list every year, most I didn’t keep and had forgotten by the middle of January. We all have good intentions but don’t always follow through. Seems to be human nature or just the lazy side of us to make changes in our life. I do remember one resolution I made some time ago, it was not to take life so serious minded all the time. I think the secret is to learn to laugh a lot and mostly at ones self. I have taken a lot of razing about the Mom’s thoughts about “Adventuress Sunday” when I dropped Lois and Greta off at the wrong building in the rain. We have had many good laughs over it, though at the time it was almost devastating. Lord knows I didn’t do it on purpose.

 

Not long ago my proxy daughter, Amy emailed me, she is the one that so professionally does my web page and downloads all my Mom’s thoughts from day one thru now 5 years on to the Internet. In her email she said she thought “The Heat is On” and “Driving Ms. Daisy” were very good and quite journalist. But the “Good to Go” she had me competing with Andy Rooney and the lots of laughs it gave her. She said all was so true and it hit on the highs and lows of life. That was a compliment to me, for it showed maybe for all the seriousness in our life, we can find humor to relax the stress.

 

Out of the most stressful times of my life, I can think back to memories of laughs that were at the same time, I believe they helped me make it through those low times. Lets face it the major biggies of our lives have already been planned for us and only the wee little things that happen are the ones we can change. So why do we stress ourselves out and worry so much, like we can do something about them. That has to be when the trust in our God who planned our lives should come through, turn those worries into a prayer of thank you”s and then finds something to laugh or smile about. It isn’t easy but take it from one who learned the hard way it can be done.

 

Again Amy, if I don’t tell you often enough, BIG THANKS for all you do for Mom’s Thoughts, and me and the web page keeps showing your working on me. If you notice I am doing Arial for you on the font. Hope your new job is deserving of you. So keep critiquing I love it!!!!

 

Till next week all enjoy your days, make someone smile or laugh, it feels soooooooooooooooo good in your heart. Always, MOM

 

Tip for the week: 

A word of encouragement can make the difference between giving up or going on.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 01-05-08

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR ONE AND ALL  

 

And we are off to a New Year, the first week of the New Year and the first Mom’s Thoughts for the New Year. Lots of first but so far this lady is off to a late start. Usually have my thoughts in order and loaded on my trusty computer and ready to fly on Friday morning of each week. Well, today is Friday and I am on my lunch hour before returning to work. The last few weeks have been hectic to say the least.

 

My manager here in our building was hospitalized on 19th of December with walking pneumonia. So, I have been trying to fill her shoes since then. She is quite a lady and dedicated to her full time job as Manager her in Building #3 at Crestwood. She is loved by most of the residents and has a family relationship in the whole building, so this time has been hard for them to deal with. What is the saying “When Mom is sick the whole house feels off kilter.” So is it here with all the senior residents, there world is a little shaky to say the least. Pat has returned home for recuperation, but it is a slow recovery process. Any one that has had pneumonia knows it takes time to recover and some times the lungs suffers in the future health.

 

I gladly have filled in for Pat, knowing she would do the same for me if the situation were the same. This lady(me)has not worked full time for many years, so it is really like a JOB!!! I am now on my 3rd week of office work, phone calls, rent paying, social activities for our residents, and on top of that the holidays were in full swing. Hope I don’t sound too whinny, but it has been a fulltime race of time. So if these Mom’s Thoughts are not on time, know I am pedaling as fast as I can and will hopefully be back in the relaxed retirement days again soon. Say a prayer for me for my energy level is not what it use to be. Hopeful I am where God wants me right now. I jokingly asked Pat how long was she on her knees to get me to move over here to building #3. HAHA.

 

To you all I love you, miss you with our chitchat, but will try to do better. Hope your new year is positive and a healthier start for you. Till next week, always, Mom


 

Tip of the week:

Before repeating what “a Little bird” told you, make sure it wasn’t a cuckoo.



Mom’s Thoughts for the week of 12-29-07

 

Happy New Year 2008

 

It is almost that time again, time to say goodbye to a full and worn out year and hello to a new one yet to be filled. December is so hectic with all the holiday parties, get-togethers that time slips away and here it is a new year stares us in the face.

 

2007 has been full of a lot of stress for our family, the loss of my brother in a tragic accident, loss of many neighbors and friends, the fire that led me to a new home in building #3, and a lot of soul searching as I got myself back on track after that fire. It seems when our lives do get hectic is when we turn to our faith that gives us strength to endure. I am so grateful I have a close relationship with my Lord. Hasn’t always been that way either. I fought for years to the yearning inside me, knew I needed something or some one in my life. I had many witness to me, I read books on faith and believing when I was hit with the blow of cancer and radiation treatments 15 years ago. I believed in God but that was not the personal relationship I wanted or needed to fill the void. Well, even hard headedness can be gotten through.

 

I finally realized I couldn’t make it on my own I needed help daily, yeah even ever minute, I needed to know where I fit in the big plan of my life. Once I realized God had a purpose and all I had to do was to learn to trust his lead, build my faith and relationship with his son, my Lord became real in me body and soul. I am not the person I was so many years ago and I am grateful for that. So as the new year comes in this lady will be counting blessings, not making too many resolutions, one will do it trust that one day at a time I will be filled with my needs. I need not worry I am being cared for 'way beyond my abilities.

 

So, think of how you plan to fill this coming year with all its blank pages. I hope you know the love you receive when you help others, I hope you build your faith to that amazing comfort zone of giving over your trust in good faith with our Lord. Your life will take on a different meaning. Make the time to be grateful for time with your loved ones for family is a wonderful blessing. Till next year, stay well, keep smiling and make every day like it was your last, for it could be. One day at a time. Always, MOM

 

Tip of the week:

One’ ability is usually rated by what one finishes, not by what one starts.